Master of my own domain...

I haven't had sex in almost 2 yrs and while it's not a problem for me at all, I'm curious about something. People complain about not having sex for a while but is it really that hard? I don't self love often but when I do, I take myself to red lobster! $ wag ! ‰

So yea, can you go long without sex? Is it a problem for you?

Posted by Nemilicious
Kind of scared to ask, but what is red lobster??

ahahahaha... Its a lyric from a song, (Beyoncé)

"when he butters me good, I take his arse to red lobster/cuz I slay"

Funfact: I've never actually been to red lobster, not a shellfish fan. (yes, I know there's other stuff)

Posted by littlemegabytes
It sounds like your sex drive is just really low. Others' not so much. Masturbation just doesn't always cut it, and what's the point of depriving yourself of humanly pleasure? Going years without sex would be a problem and seems pointless. But that's just my take on it~

Idk, it's like 2 extremes with me, when I'm having it, I'm all in, very sexual. When I'm not, it doesn't bother me. This may seem strange but I don't feel deprived at all. I have to have an emotional connection or something before I can become sexual. Otherwise, I'm just not interested.

Lately, I've given some thought to trying to have sex with no feelings, ehh... we'll see.

Not a big deal...

If it's right for you, then that's all that matters.


BUT that first time after a long abstinence... now that's a big deal 😄

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Posted by devilandthedancer
I haven't had sex in almost 2 yrs and while it's not a problem for me at all, I'm curious about something. People complain about not having sex for a while but is it really that hard? I don't self love often but when I do, I take myself to red lobster! $ wag ! ‰

So yea, can you go long without sex? Is it a problem for you?

So yea, can you go long without sex? Yeah, as long as it takes.

Is it a problem for you? No, never. I believe in myself so it's never an issue.

People who talk about sex drive related to this question are crazy. lol I think about sex all the time but it doesn't mean I can't control myself. Mercury in Scorpio, Mars in Virgo, Moon in Libra. Aries in 8th house. Talk about sex drive, shall we? I think it differs from person to person and the circumstances they've been through. Nothing personal against anyone. We all choose to decide how we want to live our lives.

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THIS ! Exactly Alpha!

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Not a big deal...

If it's right for you, then that's all that matters.


BUT that first time after a long abstinence... now that's a big deal 😄

† if it's goooood, yes !

Posted by MiZLeo
For all those who asked Red Lobster is a sea food restaurant chain.

As far as sex. I can't go long with out it. I have a high sex drive. But if I'm in love with someone and we can't have sex then I can deal. I'll self love when I need to but I'm not big into it so I will go without.

Yes, it's also a restaurant chain. Thanks for clarifying Mizleo.

"But if I'm in love with someone and we can't have sex then I can deal. I'll self love when I need to but I'm not big into it so I will go without."

Interesting. I'm the opposite. I can go for a short, short while like if he has a 24hr flu but I can't happily go along not having sex once I'm back into the sexual swing of things. Nope! I NEEEEED it badddd.

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Posted by littlemegabytes
It sounds like your sex drive is just really low. Others' not so much. Masturbation just doesn't always cut it, and what's the point of depriving yourself of humanly pleasure? Going years without sex would be a problem and seems pointless. But that's just my take on it~

Idk, it's like 2 extremes with me, when I'm having it, I'm all in, very sexual. When I'm not, it doesn't bother me. This may seem strange but I don't feel deprived at all. I have to have an emotional connection or something before I can become sexual. Otherwise, I'm just not interested.

Lately, I've given some thought to trying to have sex with no feelings, ehh... we'll see.

Well if you know yourself enough to know that emotional connection and sex are mutually inclusive for you, and if you have to given thought about trying to have sex with no feelings.... you're probably not cut out for FWB 😛 I understand what you are saying though.

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Yea Littlemegabytes, I agree.

I haven't had sex in 8 years, and I'm doing just fine.

Just save you the trouble and make your own cheese biscuits

http://www.food.com/recipe/red-lobster-cheddar-bay-biscuits-89684


Don't forget the Boyz Ii Men.

I find this amazing to hear ... I was married and we hardly had sex and nothing the last like 8 years and was one of the reasons we divorced - that was rough on me - now I am in a relationship and having some great stuff a few times a month and it feels like heaven and I want more but I am grateful for the time we can spend together ...

I wish the rest of you all to find a nice partner that is into you totally and faithful to the tee - it makes all the difference ...

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Posted by tcta
I find this amazing to hear ... I was married and we hardly had sex and nothing the last like 8 years and was one of the reasons we divorced - that was rough on me - now I am in a relationship and having some great stuff a few times a month and it feels like heaven and I want more but I am grateful for the time we can spend together ...

I wish the rest of you all to find a nice partner that is into you totally and faithful to the tee - it makes all the difference ...

It is the pits being almost celibate when you live with someone

Good luck with the new one

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thanks, it's been a year and I hope it lasts forever - it's like night and day for both of us - sharing our ex-horrors - omg !

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Posted by tcta
I find this amazing to hear ... I was married and we hardly had sex and nothing the last like 8 years and was one of the reasons we divorced - that was rough on me - now I am in a relationship and having some great stuff a few times a month and it feels like heaven and I want more but I am grateful for the time we can spend together ...

I wish the rest of you all to find a nice partner that is into you totally and faithful to the tee - it makes all the difference ...

It is the pits being almost celibate when you live with someone

Good luck with the new one

thanks, it's been a year and I hope it lasts forever - it's like night and day for both of us - sharing our ex-horrors - omg !

Your good karma

It happened to me....I asked for a passionate lover and hell did I get one 😱

I am on the wagon again now. Lol

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great for you too! oh the passion lololol ... aaaaaaaaaa

oh and you are right, it was the pits - plus he was not right in the head - bi-polar and just a twisted pisces - was not a good thing and so it had to end ... we were better friends ...