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What's your first impression of someone who constantly checks it but never updates their profile information? I know of someone who does this, but I'd think if he was actively looking, even if it means just chatting up and browsing compatibilities, you'd update your info wouldn't you?

If this is how someone functions, would they essentially be using okcupid kind of like Tinder?
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
What's your first impression of someone who constantly checks it but never updates their profile information? I know of someone who does this, but I'd think if he was actively looking, even if it means just chatting up and browsing compatibilities, you'd update your info wouldn't you?

If this is how someone functions, would they essentially be using okcupid kind of like Tinder?
Update what exactly? I am assuming you fill out the basic info (age, gender, interest) and that pretty much doesn't change. Is it like FB where people update their status everyday?

However to answer your question, I would think the person probably just filled in the profile section because they were required to create an account, but they didn't really feel like the idea of sharing anything about themselves.
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
That's not what I have used it for
Apologies then. I've never used one. I see how others do tho and the women that make threads here who seem to have been duped. Dating is hard.
I'm sure many do. And yes, dating is hard
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
That's not what I have used it for
Apologies then. I've never used one. I see how others do tho and the women that make threads here who seem to have been duped. Dating is hard.
I'm sure many do. And yes, dating is hard
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Oh I won't even look at a profile that just says hi or will fill out later. It has to be a few good sentences about what you are looking for and something unique about you. There's alot of competition on there.

I always look for relationship status, kids status, and height and 80 % it's blank.. So that's why I've become a very meticulous person due OK cupid and POF. People lying irl and online. Even if I do go the fuck outside I am still skeptical and an observer.
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
That's not what I have used it for
Apologies then. I've never used one. I see how others do tho and the women that make threads here who seem to have been duped. Dating is hard.
I'm sure many do. And yes, dating is hard
Good thing we are in love~ Where is my potato?
I know! Potato is here!
I will take care of you forever 🙂 Where are you from?
Aww, That is very sweet. I am from the United States
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
That's not what I have used it for
Apologies then. I've never used one. I see how others do tho and the women that make threads here who seem to have been duped. Dating is hard.
I'm sure many do. And yes, dating is hard
Good thing we are in love~ Where is my potato?
I know! Potato is here!
I will take care of you forever 🙂 Where are you from?
Aww, That is very sweet. I am from the United States
Okie. So we are within 2500 miles from eachother~ Let's get married ASAP. Pizza roll wedding favors.
Lol. Everyone loves pizza rolls
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
That's not what I have used it for
Apologies then. I've never used one. I see how others do tho and the women that make threads here who seem to have been duped. Dating is hard.
I'm sure many do. And yes, dating is hard
Good thing we are in love~ Where is my potato?
I know! Potato is here!
I will take care of you forever 🙂 Where are you from?
Aww, That is very sweet. I am from the United States
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What's your first impression of someone who constantly checks it but never updates their profile information? I know of someone who does this, but I'd think if he was actively looking, even if it means just chatting up and browsing compatibilities, you'd update your info wouldn't you?

If this is how someone functions, would they essentially be using okcupid kind of like Tinder?
Update what exactly? I am assuming you fill out the basic info (age, gender, interest) and that pretty much doesn't change. Is it like FB where people update their status everyday?

However to answer your question, I would think the person probably just filled in the profile section because they were required to create an account, but they didn't really feel like the idea of sharing anything about themselves.
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Nah, the example I'm thinking of is someone who frequents okcupid. Did some updating in the beginning, including pics. But since then hasn't changed it since the job changed. It's still stuck on "taking boards" and where he used to work. If a guy was looking to get some tail, you'd think he'd change info like that to attract more women. At least that'd be my logic, anyway.

"Not in school anymore, boards are done, now considered certified and a professional.."

Nope, still old info. That's why I thought it was interesting that all he does is log in DAILY yet won't change stuff like that.
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
Scorp Venus, actually.

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You should see what it's like to be an okc mod. I have to go through like 10 dog/cat pics and 30 dick pics just to make it to one naked woman pic. Thst one pic could range from hot young woman to grandmother was a little too drunk with Internet access.
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Ha. I'd think Scorpio moon. But for realsies, what actually needs to be updated? And aren't they all just hook up sites? Really?
That's not what I have used it for
Apologies then. I've never used one. I see how others do tho and the women that make threads here who seem to have been duped. Dating is hard.
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It is. It's why I've stopped giving a fuck haha. Too much trouble and it just complicates life more. It'll happen when it fucking happens. Until then, I do me!
It surprises me how many people I talk to who are just so burned out on all the dysfunctional people out there dating. One just broke up with her boyfriend of like 6-7 months because he was looking to hire hookers off of Craigslist. But she now has to take out a restraining order because he refuses to accept that they're broken up (he's an Aqua) because he did nothing wrong ("I never followed through, I was just looking, therefore I did nothing wrong."). He tried breaking down her door and everything. She also found out he had like a few duis and a suspended license.

We should be able to stamp the foreheads of such individuals so we know to steer clear. It makes dating so exhausting when we have a society of such fucked up people haha.

That said, I don't see why people cling to dating sites. It just screams desperation and it being online makes it a prime target for freaks.
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Rocky, is your friend using pics from 10 years ago? lol Now that would be shady.
Haha, no. His weight flutuates a bit, so that could be "deceiving" in the pics that are a year or two old, but nah, not 10 years old.

Like I said in my previous post, I'm mostly curious because he's changed jobs, no longer in school, passed boards, and everything is still stuck on that previous stuff. You'd think a guy would want to change that when trying to attract women, no?
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...which also begs the question, how many people actually use it as "dating" and more like a Tinder bit?
tinder is exactly the same as okcupid in manila. i mean that so many people on tinder here have *not looking for a hookup* written on their profile. they use it coz it's actually easy to use or they just want to be on tinder for the sake of being on tinder. you know like a fad. i think i spent a month on both before i deleted.
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"Fad" apps are seriously starting to bug. I've gotten to the point where it's like, what? ANOTHER app for everyone to jump on an use? No. I refuse at this point. I'm so tired of it haha. It may make me sound old but it's like fuck I'm tired of bouncing around because everyone wants to use the new thing now.

Groupme, whatsapp, snapchat? Ugh stop it.

I barely just got whatsapp because my friend in Aussie needed it to communicate with me when she was here awhile back. Decided to keep it so we don't have to rely on email to keep in touch. I'm pretty sure whatsapp isn't as popular as snapchat anymore, but whatever. It's convenient for us haha.
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What's your first impression of someone who constantly checks it but never updates their profile information? I know of someone who does this, but I'd think if he was actively looking, even if it means just chatting up and browsing compatibilities, you'd update your info wouldn't you?

If this is how someone functions, would they essentially be using okcupid kind of like Tinder?
All of the dating sites have varying use just like conversation. Just because a man asks you out in person doesn't mean that he's looking for anything serious. It's the same way online. It's going to take conversation, getting to know someone, as well as trial and error to find out if they're really serious. Even through all of that...they could STILL be playing games. I'm just being honest. There's no "fool proof" way of dating. In my opinion it should be more about what you want and what your intent is. That way if people aren't on your page you "Next! them to the exit sign and move on". I really believe that while there surely is such a thing as dating "smart", there's no such thing as "dating with guarantee results of getting what you want". I thoroughly researched men, guy communication, dating, relationships, etc for like...3 of the past five years that I've been dating. I mean, I was obsessive about feeding myself with great info. I totally ignored sites and info from trendy mags or online blogs like Cosmopolitan, etc. I mostly read studies written by psychologist or those blogs where 25-100 men were surveyed regarding why they chose their significant other, etc. It was actually very helpful for me.
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All of the dating sites have varying use just like conversation. Just because a man asks you out in person doesn't mean that he's looking for anything serious. It's the same way online. It's going to take conversation, getting to know someone, as well as trial and error to find out if they're really serious. Even through all of that...they could STILL be playing games. I'm just being honest. There's no "fool proof" way of dating. In my opinion it should be more about what you want and what your intent is. That way if people aren't on your page you "Next! them to the exit sign and move on". I really believe that while there surely is such a thing as dating "smart", there's no such thing as "dating with guarantee results of getting what you want". I thoroughly researched men, guy communication, dating, relationships, etc for like...3 of the past five years that I've been dating. I mean, I was obsessive about feeding myself with great info. I totally ignored sites and info from trendy mags or online blogs like Cosmopolitan, etc. I mostly read studies written by psychologist or those blogs where 25-100 men were surveyed regarding why they chose their significant other, etc. It was actually very helpful for me.
I wouldn't be surprised if this was the case. It's what came to mind, really. This guy in particular is obsessed with meeting new people and keeping a lot of options around. It's just funny to me that he continues his reign of emotional terror on a dating site haha.

I just associate it with either those who use it to date or those who use it to hook up. But to just chat with no intention of anything else? A guy? Kinda different and strange. ...I shouldn't be surprised, considering this individual, tbh haha.

You think guys like that tend to be as "dangerous" as those seeking to get laid? I could see a lot of emotional misleading going on from something like that. If a female did something like that, she'd be considered a cock tease. All talk with zero intention of it going beyond the dating site/app.
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All of the dating sites have varying use just like conversation. Just because a man asks you out in person doesn't mean that he's looking for anything serious. It's the same way online. It's going to take conversation, getting to know someone, as well as trial and error to find out if they're really serious. Even through all of that...they could STILL be playing games. I'm just being honest. There's no "fool proof" way of dating. In my opinion it should be more about what you want and what your intent is. That way if people aren't on your page you "Next! them to the exit sign and move on". I really believe that while there surely is such a thing as dating "smart", there's no such thing as "dating with guarantee results of getting what you want". I thoroughly researched men, guy communication, dating, relationships, etc for like...3 of the past five years that I've been dating. I mean, I was obsessive about feeding myself with great info. I totally ignored sites and info from trendy mags or online blogs like Cosmopolitan, etc. I mostly read studies written by psychologist or those blogs where 25-100 men were surveyed regarding why they chose their significant other, etc. It was actually very helpful for me.
I wouldn't be surprised if this was the case. It's what came to mind, really. This guy in particular is obsessed with meeting new people and keeping a lot of options around. It's just funny to me that he continues his reign of emotional terror on a dating site haha.

I just associate it with either those who use it to date or those who use it to hook up. But to just chat with no intention of anything else? A guy? Kinda different and strange. ...I shouldn't be surprised, considering this individual, tbh haha.

You think guys like that tend to be as "dangerous" as those seeking to get laid? I could see a lot of emotional misleading going on from something like that. If a female did something like that, she'd be considered a cock tease. All talk with zero intention of it going beyond the dating site/app.
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Hmmm...I guess I don't view anyone who can't get to me physically as a threat. There's this one guy on OKCupid and many other dating sites that we DO chit chat if he sees me on any of them. lol I'm one that activates a dating app account for a couple of months, meet people, then deactivate...then I try a different app, etc. The only one that I will NOT try again is POF. LMBO!!! OMG. Just a hot mess in the making and eating. smh Anywho...I instantly recognize him and our chatting convos have followed him from state to state. I think he's in the military. We initially chatted on OKCupid I think and our convo was a late night, a bit risque....but not so. L
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Oh I won't even look at a profile that just says hi or will fill out later. It has to be a few good sentences about what you are looking for and something unique about you. There's alot of competition on there.

I always look for relationship status, kids status, and height and 80 % it's blank.. So that's why I've become a very meticulous person due OK cupid and POF. People lying irl and online. Even if I do go the fuck outside I am still skeptical and an observer.
No lie...when I was single and bored, I did hit the guys up with very little info included, but a cute pic. I'd be like, "Hey Handsome!" LMBO!!!! ha ha ha ha ha I mean, it's like seeing someone cute and alone at an event. You do a little flirting and get on your way. lol
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Rocky, is your friend using pics from 10 years ago? lol Now that would be shady.
Haha, no. His weight flutuates a bit, so that could be "deceiving" in the pics that are a year or two old, but nah, not 10 years old.

Like I said in my previous post, I'm mostly curious because he's changed jobs, no longer in school, passed boards, and everything is still stuck on that previous stuff. You'd think a guy would want to change that when trying to attract women, no?
See that makes sense to us, but maybe he feels like it's not important? Even if he is using it like Tinder, he should want to put his best foot forward lol
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Right?

Could be the case that he doesn't feel it's important. *shrugs* I was just curious to see what the initial thoughts were haha. My first thought was "...well wouldn't you want to change all that so you look better in theory so you can attract more women?" Especially if you're really active on the site.

In his case, whatever floats his boat. Just a random pondering of mine haha. "...why would someone do that? Seems strange and detrimental..."