Forgiveness

How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

What if she's your friend? Would you still forgive her even though it doesn't seem genuine enough?

Sometimes it hard to express when you are sorry depending on what happened. Or it can just be hard for some to say it, period.

I'm a firm beleiver in apologies being all about action. If someone is truly sorry they won't repeat the same thing again in the future. Granted that gives people a lot of faith and of course someone saying sorry is nice, but if they say it then turn around and still do whatever they apologized for makes it even worse.

or more one must have a lot of faith in that person.

I forgive and never forget.. and yes can hold grudges for awhile. And no sorry or apologizing unless you mean it. I have to let it go or it will consume me and I will resent you... I am a fixed stellium female with lilith in Scorpio.

I think forgiveness is important in life. But if not genuine ugh its like wow you must think I'm stupid lol. Fakes and liars get on my last nerve!

Inconsistent behaviors will show up sooner or later. That's how you know. And if you are intuitive guess you'll be able to pick up the vibes like some can. I do ignore some of them and give everyone chance after chance. Then it's just so much thinking about shit if it's sincere or not.

Some people say sorry just to avoid arguments and move on. Not really sure if that's good or bad.

You hold them like they are spaghetti

Posted by firebunny
How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

Why are you concerned about the other person being genuine? You only need to concern yourself with your own forgiveness toward them. This allows you to let go of the hurt so that you do not become trapped in the cycle of hurt. If they do not recipricate, it is not your issue once you forgive.

For some reason I'd like to believe that they mean it.Saying sorry in itself is a big thing.Not many can do that.Confessions n confrontations give me some kinda pleasure.They don't need to necessarily use the word sorry either.So yeah I forgive n forget too.Till something similar happens again,I don't really remember. N I start trusting the person more than before.It feels like some ice has broken between us.Unlike typical scorpios, I really can't hold grudges.

I can forgive and forget. It's easy... but it's a different story though if the person saying "sorry" was also mad at the same time while saying it. It makes me feel furious.

Posted by DD_Raymond_Reddington

Posted by firebunny
How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

Why are you concerned about the other person being genuine? You only need to concern yourself with your own forgiveness toward them. This allows you to let go of the hurt so that you do not become trapped in the cycle of hurt. If they do not recipricate, it is not your issue once you forgive.

click to expand

I've moved on from that event. I can sleep each night like nothing really happened... but for me to forgive so that we can still be friends is something that I'm still thinking about up until now. I think the bigger issue here lies if I still consider her as a friend... because I don't like drama. If she's done it twice to me (already), that's a big sign I have to avoid her.

Posted by retrogradexy

Posted by firebunny
How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

still a genuine apology.

click to expand

How so?

If someone was saying sorry and they were still jilted I'd fuck them off and call it damage control. i won't accept a half assed apology from anyone, if you're not gonna level with me then I keep walking

The thing about saying "sorry" is "feeling" it. If I don't FEEL that you're sorry then there must be something missing...

Posted by firebunny
How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

Forgiveness is more for you than it is for the other person. All you can do is accept that what the other person did hurt you and decide what level of relationshhip to have with them moving forward. Forgiveness, despite whether or not the other person is really "sorry" is vital in life. Although our society won't support this, you NEED to be able to forgive, because people will always mess up, fall short, hurt, and disappoint you in life. Learning how to forgive is a great tool to have and eventually you'll master the art of maintaining healthy relationships. Understanding that people mess up is one way to manage relationship expectations. That is the very essence of forgiveness. Now, that doesn't mean that you extend the same level of trust to the other. Forgiveness and trust a dependent in healthy relationships, but completely independent of one another when dealing with a toxic individual.

The more you practice forgiveness, the easier it gets and you don't associate that with other relationship components that are needed to maintain healthy relationships.

Posted by MsTeeq1974

Posted by firebunny
How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

Forgiveness is more for you than it is for the other person. All you can do is accept that what the other person did hurt you and decide what level of relationshhip to have with them moving forward. Forgiveness, despite whether or not the other person is really "sorry" is vital in life. Although our society won't support this, you NEED to be able to forgive, because people will always mess up, fall short, hurt, and disappoint you in life. Learning how to forgive is a great tool to have and eventually you'll master the art of maintaining healthy relationships. Understanding that people mess up is one way to manage relationship expectations. That is the very essence of forgiveness. Now, that doesn't mean that you extend the same level of trust to the other. Forgiveness and trust a dependent in healthy relationships, but completely independent of one another when dealing with a toxic individual.

The more you practice forgiveness, the easier it gets and you don't associate that with other relationship components that are needed to maintain healthy relationships.

click to expand

Thank you so much for this. This is the kind of reply that I needed the most. Thank you.

Err, it depends - what did she do?

Posted by firebunny

Posted by MsTeeq1974

Posted by firebunny
How do you forgive somebody who wronged you? What do you do if somebody says "sorry" but was apparently mad at you while saying it? Do you count it as a genuine form of saying "sorry"?

Forgiveness is more for you than it is for the other person. All you can do is accept that what the other person did hurt you and decide what level of relationshhip to have with them moving forward. Forgiveness, despite whether or not the other person is really "sorry" is vital in life. Although our society won't support this, you NEED to be able to forgive, because people will always mess up, fall short, hurt, and disappoint you in life. Learning how to forgive is a great tool to have and eventually you'll master the art of maintaining healthy relationships. Understanding that people mess up is one way to manage relationship expectations. That is the very essence of forgiveness. Now, that doesn't mean that you extend the same level of trust to the other. Forgiveness and trust a dependent in healthy relationships, but completely independent of one another when dealing with a toxic individual.

The more you practice forgiveness, the easier it gets and you don't associate that with other relationship components that are needed to maintain healthy relationships.

Thank you so much for this. This is the kind of reply that I needed the most. Thank you.

click to expand

You're welcome!