Old friend who no longer stay in contact, rude to not attend her baby shower ?

She was once my best friend for 3 years in junior high . Then I moved and we didn’t stay in contact , my end or her end. I attended her graduation but she didn’t attend mine because I didn’t celebrate or invite anyone for my graduation since high school accomplishments is not a big thing in my culture .

We then met once in college and catch up with each other but we both knew we grew up into two different people and never contact each other again . Just remained friends on Facebook

She invited me and 100 other people via Facebook , it’s not personal like sending me a card .

I feel guilty because she was once my best friend and it’s not like I forgot her . We re just very different people now . I don’t hear from her on any of my bday nor does she hear from me. I don’t know why I’m feeling guilty for not having the desire to attend and thinking it’s wrong.

It is okay ? Would she think I forgetten we were ever friends if I don’t attend ? Is this a part of growing up and apart ? How do you figure out if someone is still in your circle ? If you hear from them once a year then you’re still kinda friend cuz you attempt to stay in contact ? Or once every few year ?

I have questions lol

And yes I’m overthinking . Been doing a lot of that today

I don’t believe in baby showers, it teaches people to be entitled to free shit when they make bad decisions

I meant bridal shower btw not baby shower

Sorry

Checkin in :

Turns out the bride didn’t event invite me . It’s the sister and and the mom . So in that case , I don’t think I will be attending .. because on top of that , the event is themed . It’s next weekend and I don’t have money for the costume and the bridal shower gift on top of that

Posted by Earthgoddess
I wouldn’t have gone either

But I wouldn’t have even second guessed it or responded to it in general....it wasn’t a personal invite so🤷‍♀️

It’s not like you guys mingle or are in each other’s lives... like do u even know the name of the groom😒 next

Nope , did even know when she got engage lol

Get dressed up. Go dance. Have fun

It ain't that hard gurl

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Checkin in :

Turns out the bride didn’t event invite me . It’s the sister and and the mom . So in that case , I don’t think I will be attending .. because on top of that , the event is themed . It’s next weekend and I don’t have money for the costume and the bridal shower gift on top of that

Are you trying to convince us or you?

If you broke, stay home

Posted by sierra_
at least she invited you

my cousin didn't invite me (on purpose!) to her wedding

and we're blood!

maybe i should get married just to spite her

first thing i'd do is make a list of people i won't invite

Don't miss out on a blessing trying to teach a lesson

Posted by DMV

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Checkin in :

Turns out the bride didn’t event invite me . It’s the sister and and the mom . So in that case , I don’t think I will be attending .. because on top of that , the event is themed . It’s next weekend and I don’t have money for the costume and the bridal shower gift on top of that

Are you trying to convince us or you?

If you broke, stay home

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No one on dxp is important enough for me to bother convincing lol just seeking inputs to help reach my own decisions when I’m undecided is all

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
If you’re not really in contact I don’t think it’s bad if you don’t attend. If you wanted to stay in each other’s lives you would have. People grow apart. How long has it been since you were last in touch?

4 years ago