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Well. My tastes run towards the antique and I despise big/gauche/gaudy jewelry. When I was engaged many moons ago I got a carat solitaire. Pretty in the light BUT. I hated the thing. Always knocking it into everything, kept catching it in pockets threatening to tear off a finger, my hose collection always in imminent danger of snags. Fast forward to being engaged again and wed. Again a solitaire on a high setting. Again, I couldn't stand it. For the same reasons. I located a white gold set from the 1940s, low illusion setting and had it set with blood red garnet and one wee .10 pt. stone. Fire & Ice. I never took it off.
As to the 'starter' ring, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a simple 2-4 mm band in metal of choice. You don't need to strain to hoist your hand up to prove you are wed/promised/engaged.
I rather like the symbolism of a ring. Not to wow and impress anyone else, more like a tangible badge of claim and ownership. Which makes my deep black Taurean soul sing an aria.
A man doesn't 'have to', the question itself is sufficient. But wouldn't a token of it be nice? *smiling* One that makes you squeal and cry and hop up and down. Not because it's the size of the Hubble, but because it suits who and what you are absolutely.
As to the 'starter' ring, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a simple 2-4 mm band in metal of choice. You don't need to strain to hoist your hand up to prove you are wed/promised/engaged.
I rather like the symbolism of a ring. Not to wow and impress anyone else, more like a tangible badge of claim and ownership. Which makes my deep black Taurean soul sing an aria.
A man doesn't 'have to', the question itself is sufficient. But wouldn't a token of it be nice? *smiling* One that makes you squeal and cry and hop up and down. Not because it's the size of the Hubble, but because it suits who and what you are absolutely.
I love wedding rings!!!! I love BIG wedding rings. However, I'm not against having CZ at all..... the diamond trade..... ouch, Blood Diamond the movie still stays with me. My cousin has a beautiful sapphire ring, but I'm not huge for colored stone wedding rings??_ even though it was really sweet??_. Her husband designed the ring and on either side of the stone are two butterflies that come off the band and are the setting for the sapphire (her favorite). It was really unique and thoughtful.
Wedding rings to me are nostalgic. I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, buuuuuuut sometimes when I'm cleaning my home or cooking dinner I wear a fake wedding ring and day dream about my perfect partner. I picture him, his characteristics, the qualities I enjoy about him, the things we??d disagree about, travel, etc. Whenever my friends —catch?? me doing this I tell them I'm using the Law of Attraction.
I'm not exactly sure why, but I can be totally happy with my family, friends and career??_.. then I??ll feeling this empty feeling in my heart and on my finger. I would equate it to the ticking time clock for babies that my friends feel??_. Which I don't wasn't myself.
So to directly answer your question Tubbs??_. I??d say that above all the most important thing is to share the kind of romantic love that is deep enough to want to make the absolute devotion to each other (yes, I realize that's mad after school style s). His bended knee is a symbol of that, buuuuuuuut, to me, so is the ring. I just don't have to have a 20K ring??_.. but yeah, I do have to have one. For me.
Wedding rings to me are nostalgic. I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, buuuuuuut sometimes when I'm cleaning my home or cooking dinner I wear a fake wedding ring and day dream about my perfect partner. I picture him, his characteristics, the qualities I enjoy about him, the things we??d disagree about, travel, etc. Whenever my friends —catch?? me doing this I tell them I'm using the Law of Attraction.
I'm not exactly sure why, but I can be totally happy with my family, friends and career??_.. then I??ll feeling this empty feeling in my heart and on my finger. I would equate it to the ticking time clock for babies that my friends feel??_. Which I don't wasn't myself.
So to directly answer your question Tubbs??_. I??d say that above all the most important thing is to share the kind of romantic love that is deep enough to want to make the absolute devotion to each other (yes, I realize that's mad after school style s). His bended knee is a symbol of that, buuuuuuuut, to me, so is the ring. I just don't have to have a 20K ring??_.. but yeah, I do have to have one. For me.
A man doesn't 'have to', the question itself is sufficient. But wouldn't a token of it be nice? *smiling* One that makes you squeal and cry and hop up and down. Not because it's the size of the Hubble, but because it suits who and what you are absolutely.
i agree and frankly, i HATE that society has conjured this image up for us. a proposal without a ring does sound and i'm sure would feel empty...but why? why does society do this to us? it makes us want things that we don't need or truly desire...like fruit roll-ups.
the notion that the ring has come to symbolize the depth of his love/commitment is sad...especially given that SOME of us don't give a shit about them...or the wedding...or the dress or any of the other crap anyway.
with that said, as a woman, saying that you don't give a shit about ring may be easy enough, but the reality is, how will friends and family regard your soon-to-be? by honoring his chick's wishes, he could end up looking like a deadbeat.
it's just funny, something that is supposed to be between two people, so easily can become about everyone else. damn shame.
i agree and frankly, i HATE that society has conjured this image up for us. a proposal without a ring does sound and i'm sure would feel empty...but why? why does society do this to us? it makes us want things that we don't need or truly desire...like fruit roll-ups.
the notion that the ring has come to symbolize the depth of his love/commitment is sad...especially given that SOME of us don't give a shit about them...or the wedding...or the dress or any of the other crap anyway.
with that said, as a woman, saying that you don't give a shit about ring may be easy enough, but the reality is, how will friends and family regard your soon-to-be? by honoring his chick's wishes, he could end up looking like a deadbeat.
it's just funny, something that is supposed to be between two people, so easily can become about everyone else. damn shame.
^ LOL Peach gummi round?
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, buuuuuuut sometimes when I'm cleaning my home or cooking dinner I wear a fake wedding ring and day dream about my perfect partner. I picture him, his characteristics, the qualities I enjoy about him, the things we??d disagree about, travel, etc. Whenever my friends —catch?? me doing this I tell them I'm using the Law of Attraction.
hmm...i think it might actually repel guys, but do you.
Posted by caligula
it's just funny, something that is supposed to be between two people, so easily can become about everyone else. damn shame.
+1
I truly don't want a big expensive wedding.... I'm talking a handful of people kind of deal and then SPLURGE on a fabulous honeymmon with my love. Much better use of funds IMO than buying everyone I know a fancy steak dinner and napkins with my name on it....
Posted by caligulaPosted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, buuuuuuut sometimes when I'm cleaning my home or cooking dinner I wear a fake wedding ring and day dream about my perfect partner. I picture him, his characteristics, the qualities I enjoy about him, the things we??d disagree about, travel, etc. Whenever my friends —catch?? me doing this I tell them I'm using the Law of Attraction.
hmm...i think it might actually repel guys, but do you.click to expand
Intersting.... elaborate?
Posted by caligula
A man doesn't 'have to', the question itself is sufficient. But wouldn't a token of it be nice? *smiling* One that makes you squeal and cry and hop up and down. Not because it's the size of the Hubble, but because it suits who and what you are absolutely.
i agree and frankly, i HATE that society has conjured this image up for us. a proposal without a ring does sound and i'm sure would feel empty...but why? why does society do this to us? it makes us want things that we don't need or truly desire...like fruit roll-ups.
the notion that the ring has come to symbolize the depth of his love/commitment is sad...especially given that SOME of us don't give a shit about them...or the wedding...or the dress or any of the other crap anyway.
with that said, as a woman, saying that you don't give a shit about ring may be easy enough, but the reality is, how will friends and family regard your soon-to-be? by honoring his chick's wishes, he could end up looking like a deadbeat.
it's just funny, something that is supposed to be between two people, so easily can become about everyone else. damn shame.
EXACTLY. The words full of emotion, depth and meaning are enough. Not that either you nor I give two squats in a high wind what everyone else thinks. I never have felt the need to *explain* what goes on in that arena. I'd more than like scoff at someone and come up with "No ring, but rich in feeling." or smartarse my way; "We're waiting for just the right Cracker Jack box, I'll settle for nothing less."
Posted by ellybd
Oh and if we're talking personal tastes, I like VB, do not enjoy solitaires lol.
BUT I also buy nice jewelry for myself. Save up my money and buy one piece a year. 🙂 One luxury I afford myself. I want to have a collection to pass down to my children and their children, should life be gracious enough to let me live that long. 🙂
I cruise e-bay and antique shops. If it doesn't have 50+ years on it it's just not pleasing to my eye. I'm a picky cow. Not only do I like the quality in older jewelry ( erm, can't find anything 'synthetic', 'carat enhanced' or 'lab created' pre-1940 ) but it's simply more beautiful in my opinion.
Posted by ellybd
Though both my mom and one of my best friends didn't have any engagement rings. Libra best friend was engaged for a while, no ring at all. She got a LOT of judgement for it, specially down here in the south...And Cancer man bought her a ring afterwards, which I thought was sweet.
My mom still wore her band, only wore the 'engagement ring' for special occasions.
i think VB's right. the proposal is fine, but even if you don't give a shit about the pomp, i think most would acknowledge that the gift of the ring is the best part. without it, he might as well be tying his shoe.
i think the ring is that moment when everyone yells "surprise" at a party and without it, walking into a house full of unenthusiastic people just isn't the same.
my point is, once that moment has passed, it's essentially an afterthought. if you didn't need it before, why do you need it now? to make everyone else feel better?
sad
VB, do you like the look of Tacori, maybe not for your ultimate end all be all final choice, but do you enjoy their designs?
I loooooooooooove them. So beautiful and intricate. A definite nod to antique design.
I loooooooooooove them. So beautiful and intricate. A definite nod to antique design.
How about ring pops? You could slurp on your own engagement ring if you get caught in a snowstorm. 🙂
Posted by venusianbull
I rather like the symbolism of a ring. Not to wow and impress anyone else, more like a tangible badge of claim and ownership. Which makes my deep black Taurean soul sing an aria.
A man doesn't 'have to', the question itself is sufficient. But wouldn't a token of it be nice? *smiling* One that makes you squeal and cry and hop up and down. Not because it's the size of the Hubble, but because it suits who and what you are absolutely.
This. 🙂
I wouldn't let a guy spend x thousand on buying me some fancy schmancy ring anyway because it's just not me. I'd be thinking of all the practical things we could use the money on instead.
I feel the same way about weddings. I think a lot of people nowadays (a lot, not all) spend a fortune creating this "perfect day" because they feel they have to live up to a certain standard. My Scorpio brother and Libra sister-in-law had a big lavish wedding and I remember her saying afterwards that she hardly remembers much of the day because she was so stressed out about everything being perfect and having to go through all the formalities of talking to their 200 guests throughout the day/evening and all that crap.
So much of it all seems to be about all the crap that surrounds an engagement/wedding these days and not about the actual act of two people deciding to spend the rest of their lives together.
Sod all the pomp and ceremony I want none of it. Small and simple and meaningful thank you.
Sorry I went off on a bit of a tangent there.
A very GOOD tangent, because it's true. All that dosh down the drain and for what? How about a barefoot walk along the sea, those who care about the happy couple round and some good eating and a piss up. This works. 🙂
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
VB, do you like the look of Tacori, maybe not for your ultimate end all be all final choice, but do you enjoy their designs?
I loooooooooooove them. So beautiful and intricate. A definite nod to antique design.
*scuttling off to look at Tacori*
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPalPosted by caligulaPosted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, buuuuuuut sometimes when I'm cleaning my home or cooking dinner I wear a fake wedding ring and day dream about my perfect partner. I picture him, his characteristics, the qualities I enjoy about him, the things we??d disagree about, travel, etc. Whenever my friends —catch?? me doing this I tell them I'm using the Law of Attraction.
hmm...i think it might actually repel guys, but do you.
Intersting.... elaborate?click to expand
are you trying to derail my thread? i will indulge you nonetheless...
you dream about your "perfect partner" and wear a ring to symbolize a "perfect" union. i just find that disturbing and odd.
where i do believe that you can speak/will things into existence, the notion that love can be planned is a bit odd. a life union should be about meeting that "special" ONE and not about finding the prepackaged ideal that exists in your head.
also, the law of polarities would suggest that the way to attract your better whole, is to be whole yourself. in being whole, you wouldn't need to project your desires as they'd naturally find their way to you.
your secretly putting on a wedding ring, wearing an apron and making pot roast a la june cleaver implies that you don't regard yourself as whole...but i'm sure that doesn't matter as given your level of desperation, you'd probably settle for your better half.
Posted by venusianbull
A very GOOD tangent, because it's true. All that dosh down the drain and for what? How about a barefoot walk along the sea, those who care about the happy couple round and some good eating and a piss up. This works. 🙂
Exactly.
Plus I want to be able to enjoy the day and not be focused on what I "should" be doing with regards to ceremony.
So yeah, a ring would be nice as a formal way to "seal the deal" but none of this lavish x carats/5 months wages down the drain crap. I'd be too scared to wear it anyway!
I can see where they've incorporated elements of older design into them. The stones are too large for my taste. 🙂 Give you an idea of what I think is lovely. 🙂
Both sets are Art Deco. Stones enclosed in setting or lower in stance. With jewelry I find that I like to *forget* I'm wearing it and looking down at it or it catching the light is a warm and pleasant surprise. A "part of me" feeling.
Both sets are Art Deco. Stones enclosed in setting or lower in stance. With jewelry I find that I like to *forget* I'm wearing it and looking down at it or it catching the light is a warm and pleasant surprise. A "part of me" feeling.
Posted by MissPirate
Exactly.
Plus I want to be able to enjoy the day and not be focused on what I "should" be doing with regards to ceremony.
So yeah, a ring would be nice as a formal way to "seal the deal" but none of this lavish x carats/5 months wages down the drain crap. I'd be too scared to wear it anyway!
i think it's your aries placements 😛
i feel the same way. i like being able to use my hands and not fear that i'm damaging something so precious. a few years back i lost a few diamonds out of one of my tennis bracelets and damn near refused to wear it again. with a ring, i know i'd be extra concerned about it and who the hell needs that weighing you down everyday?
plus i'm prone to lose things...
Posted by MissPiratePosted by venusianbull
A very GOOD tangent, because it's true. All that dosh down the drain and for what? How about a barefoot walk along the sea, those who care about the happy couple round and some good eating and a piss up. This works. 🙂
Exactly.
Plus I want to be able to enjoy the day and not be focused on what I "should" be doing with regards to ceremony.
So yeah, a ring would be nice as a formal way to "seal the deal" but none of this lavish x carats/5 months wages down the drain crap. I'd be too scared to wear it anyway!
click to expand
Absolutely. With the first I'd always turn the stone under my hand when I was driving. Not to mention why worry you might scratch your face clean open if you were merrily tossing on a scarf to go outside?
Yep yep Cali! It needs to be something you can be just as rammy as you like in without fear. Ideally you'll be wearing it for many years..until death optimally. Need to wash dishes, ...oh and hello. Don't need to be gouging/poking/scratching someone else with your ring(s) either. 😛
Haha @ Aries placements. Perhaps. 😛
I'm prone to losing jewellery so yeah that would also be a consideration. I don't wear ANY on a daily basis. I always feel somewhat weighed down if I do. Nights out or special occasions fair do's but not as a regular everyday occurrence.
I'm prone to losing jewellery so yeah that would also be a consideration. I don't wear ANY on a daily basis. I always feel somewhat weighed down if I do. Nights out or special occasions fair do's but not as a regular everyday occurrence.
Posted by venusianbullPosted by MissPiratePosted by venusianbull
A very GOOD tangent, because it's true. All that dosh down the drain and for what? How about a barefoot walk along the sea, those who care about the happy couple round and some good eating and a piss up. This works. 🙂
Exactly.
Plus I want to be able to enjoy the day and not be focused on what I "should" be doing with regards to ceremony.
So yeah, a ring would be nice as a formal way to "seal the deal" but none of this lavish x carats/5 months wages down the drain crap. I'd be too scared to wear it anyway!
Absolutely. With the first I'd always turn the stone under my hand when I was driving. Not to mention why worry you might scratch your face clean open if you were merrily tossing on a scarf to go outside?click to expand
When you think about it they ARE pretty impractical eh.
Fuck it if I ever get engaged I'll just have his name tattoo'd around my ring finger.
Simple 😛
Posted by ellybd
I thought of you VB so I took a picture of it. 🙂
I'm not sure what decade perday. Alls I know is it's old. Been in the family for a while. Before canary diamonds were all the rage LOL. Shame I couldn't get a better quality pic, where you could see the cut really well. I do believe the center stone is european cut rather than round.
I think that's very pretty. The older cuts ARE gorgeous. Mine cut, Rose cut, Candlelight. They had to have tremendous skill to make them flash and pop in the days before electric lights.
Posted by caligulaPosted by GemsRaGalsBestPalPosted by caligulaPosted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, buuuuuuut sometimes when I'm cleaning my home or cooking dinner I wear a fake wedding ring and day dream about my perfect partner. I picture him, his characteristics, the qualities I enjoy about him, the things we??d disagree about, travel, etc. Whenever my friends —catch?? me doing this I tell them I'm using the Law of Attraction.
hmm...i think it might actually repel guys, but do you.
Intersting.... elaborate?
are you trying to derail my thread? i will indulge you nonetheless...
you dream about your "perfect partner" and wear a ring to symbolize a "perfect" union. i just find that disturbing and odd.
where i do believe that you can speak/will things into existence, the notion that love can be planned is a bit odd. a life union should be about meeting that "special" ONE and not about finding the prepackaged ideal that exists in your head.
also, the law of polarities would suggest that the way to attract your better whole, is to be whole yourself. in being whole, you wouldn't need to project your desires as they'd naturally find their way to you.
your secretly putting on a wedding ring, wearing an apron and making pot roast a la june cleaver implies that you don't regard yourself as whole...but i'm sure that doesn't matter as given your level of desperation, you'd probably settle for your better half.click to expand
Not trying to derail your thread, I was actually thinking it was a clever thread all together. Something all women should have a pretty decent opinion on....
I understand that the word "perfect" might have insinuated a certain vibe to my post, but better put I think it's important to reflect upon the characteristics of the men you have dated and what works for you and what doesn't. I often do that and think about the characteristics I like and desire in a man, things that when combined with me and my personality compliment and give place for my best to come forth..... I am mutable after all.
I get where you're coming from with the ring, apron, and pot
Posted by MissPiratePosted by venusianbullPosted by MissPiratePosted by venusianbull
A very GOOD tangent, because it's true. All that dosh down the drain and for what? How about a barefoot walk along the sea, those who care about the happy couple round and some good eating and a piss up. This works. 🙂
Exactly.
Plus I want to be able to enjoy the day and not be focused on what I "should" be doing with regards to ceremony.
So yeah, a ring would be nice as a formal way to "seal the deal" but none of this lavish x carats/5 months wages down the drain crap. I'd be too scared to wear it anyway!
Absolutely. With the first I'd always turn the stone under my hand when I was driving. Not to mention why worry you might scratch your face clean open if you were merrily tossing on a scarf to go outside?
When you think about it they ARE pretty impractical eh.
HAHAHHAHA There you go. I always thought a single feather would be nifty. The symbolism of them. One looks delicate, ethereal. Together they represent warmth and flight. *scuffing shoe* 🙂
Fuck it if I ever get engaged I'll just have his name tattoo'd around my ring finger.
Simple 😛click to expand
Damn quoting! What I said was:
HAHAHHAAHA There you go. 🙂 I always thought a single feather would be nifty. One individual looks delicate, ethereal. Together they are warmth, flight taking wing. *scuffing shoe* 🙂
HAHAHHAAHA There you go. 🙂 I always thought a single feather would be nifty. One individual looks delicate, ethereal. Together they are warmth, flight taking wing. *scuffing shoe* 🙂
Posted by venusianbull
THIS is gorg! Reminds of tradesmen for some reason.... I'm thinking miners, railroad workers, blacksmiths. Beautiful.
I promised no more ink. LOL I don't make a promise unless I follow through with it. Just an idea I kicked around a long time ago. I'd like the link please. I can look till my eyes fall out at older things. 🙂
Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPalPosted by venusianbull
THIS is gorg! Reminds of tradesmen for some reason.... I'm thinking miners, railroad workers, blacksmiths. Beautiful.click to expand
I think it's beautiful. *cape flapping* Back when the world made some sense, from a table fan all the way down to what you sported on a digit.
LOL Well I think a girl should be right proud to sport that thar bread tie Nights. You put a lot of care into each twist. 😛
Posted by ellybd
Yeah it's next to IMPOSSIBLE to find an european cut in modern settings. It sparkles so brilliantly. So much depth to the cut. So much more dynamic than it's simpleton round setting.
Hell, my favorite cut on any stone is marquise and I can barely find something in that cut for non-diamond jewelry. I have a few wonderful antique jewelry sites, legit old jewels, I can PM you if you like. Tbh, I think it's mostly wedding jewelry, back when ex told me to send him ideas. lol.
Marquise is nice, Emerald cut too. BUT with emerald it simply has to be a fantastic stone or it looks like gum paste jewelry. I've even seen obviously very expensive pieces that look like glass to me.
Fuckety fuck fuck fuck, juggling kittens and toilet paper..... post got cut off....
response to tubbs cont....
I get where you're coming from with the ring, apron, and pot roast and all, but I see it as no different from playing house and day dreaming. I enjoy doing that, but I don't think it equals desperation. I'm a girly girl and always have been.
The law of polarity is also interesting and I do agree you need to be looking for someone to compliment rather than to fill. Oh the heartbreak I could have saved myself if I had seen that I was ignoring major warning signs both from him and from me.... all because I was looking to fill and supplement. I'd like to read more about the law. 🙂
Thanks again, like I said, truly not trying to derail, just genuinely interested in your comment.
response to tubbs cont....
I get where you're coming from with the ring, apron, and pot roast and all, but I see it as no different from playing house and day dreaming. I enjoy doing that, but I don't think it equals desperation. I'm a girly girl and always have been.
The law of polarity is also interesting and I do agree you need to be looking for someone to compliment rather than to fill. Oh the heartbreak I could have saved myself if I had seen that I was ignoring major warning signs both from him and from me.... all because I was looking to fill and supplement. I'd like to read more about the law. 🙂
Thanks again, like I said, truly not trying to derail, just genuinely interested in your comment.
First time, we were SO young and SO broke.. no joke, the Cap bought me some 99 cent amethyst "birthstone" ring at a gas station while we were driving downstate to visit relatives. At a rest stop, he got down on bended knee and asked me to be his wife. I said yes, and was not upset or insulted by the ring, though I've only ever worn silver and not yellow gold -- it was all a couple of 18 year old kids could afford. However, the marriage was over almost before that fake "gold" ring turned green LOL
Second time.. my Cancer best friend.. he gave me a nice (amethyst! Are we sensing a theme?! Just cuz I like the stone personally, and I wear it, how about finding out what my FAVORITE gem is?!) ring, a normal ring set in silver, which I wore long after he died, and still have tucked away in my jewelry box.
Leo actually DID buy me an engagement ring.. a very modest one to be sure (fortunately, because MY money paid for it!) but it was a small diamond. A diamond. White gold at least, but really? You'd think after three or four years with me, he'd have known I don't care for diamonds. I took the ring, though I hated the diamond, and even hated what the ring represented to him.. he was trying to assert ownership over me, and broadcasting it. I was a dumbass for awhile longer, but fortunately we never actually got married.
If I ever take the plunge again (still on the fence about that).. yes, I'd like a ring. A pretty ring at which I can look and think, "He loves me and wants the world to know it." But I'd hope that the man (*cough* Libra) would indeed suss out my true favorite stone.. which is an OPAL. No diamonds for me, long before the Blood Diamond movie, just not my style . And please, enough with my birthstone. Next guy to present me with my birthstone will get a NO for his lack of originality.
And yes, HE will wear a ring too. Even though bitches be crazy and a lot of them look at a man's wedding band as a stamp of a woman's approval, as him being the committing kind, and trying to see if she can take it for herself. But he'll still wear a ring.. cuz if the cheating type, a band of metal won't stop him ... and she can have him cuz I won't want him anymore.
Second time.. my Cancer best friend.. he gave me a nice (amethyst! Are we sensing a theme?! Just cuz I like the stone personally, and I wear it, how about finding out what my FAVORITE gem is?!) ring, a normal ring set in silver, which I wore long after he died, and still have tucked away in my jewelry box.
Leo actually DID buy me an engagement ring.. a very modest one to be sure (fortunately, because MY money paid for it!) but it was a small diamond. A diamond. White gold at least, but really? You'd think after three or four years with me, he'd have known I don't care for diamonds. I took the ring, though I hated the diamond, and even hated what the ring represented to him.. he was trying to assert ownership over me, and broadcasting it. I was a dumbass for awhile longer, but fortunately we never actually got married.
If I ever take the plunge again (still on the fence about that).. yes, I'd like a ring. A pretty ring at which I can look and think, "He loves me and wants the world to know it." But I'd hope that the man (*cough* Libra) would indeed suss out my true favorite stone.. which is an OPAL. No diamonds for me, long before the Blood Diamond movie, just not my style . And please, enough with my birthstone. Next guy to present me with my birthstone will get a NO for his lack of originality.
And yes, HE will wear a ring too. Even though bitches be crazy and a lot of them look at a man's wedding band as a stamp of a woman's approval, as him being the committing kind, and trying to see if she can take it for herself. But he'll still wear a ring.. cuz if the cheating type, a band of metal won't stop him ... and she can have him cuz I won't want him anymore.
Well well Ellybeans, ready to ship too. 😉
Posted by Nefer
Second time.. my Cancer best friend.. he gave me a nice (amethyst! Are we sensing a theme?! Just cuz I like the stone personally, and I wear it, how about finding out what my FAVORITE gem is?!) ring, a normal ring set in silver, which I wore long after he died, and still have tucked away in my jewelry box.
I didn't know we had this is in common. Hugs. 🙂
"If I ever take the plunge again (still on the fence about that).. yes, I'd like a ring. A pretty ring at which I can look and think, "He loves me and wants the world to know it." But I'd hope that the man (*cough* Libra) would indeed suss out my true favorite stone.. which is an OPAL. No diamonds for me, long before the Blood Diamond movie, just not my style . And please, enough with my birthstone. Next guy to present me with my birthstone will get a NO for his lack of originality."
Hahahaha, I may never ever never be wed again. Who knows? I'm digging the whole "I'm yours, you mine" thang. That doesn't require paper. BUT I can always claim diamond as my birthstone. *waggling brows* I adore garnet, deep red ( don't care much for ruby ) opals, star sapphire ( Lindy Star ), alexandrite, jade, moss agate, quartz. A lot of stones most wouldn't typically ascribe to a Tau. They think I need to be dripping in platinum with pearls dragging the floor behind me.
Hahahaha, I may never ever never be wed again. Who knows? I'm digging the whole "I'm yours, you mine" thang. That doesn't require paper. BUT I can always claim diamond as my birthstone. *waggling brows* I adore garnet, deep red ( don't care much for ruby ) opals, star sapphire ( Lindy Star ), alexandrite, jade, moss agate, quartz. A lot of stones most wouldn't typically ascribe to a Tau. They think I need to be dripping in platinum with pearls dragging the floor behind me.
Awww, that's GREAT. 🙂 My Grandmother only wore two rings. One on left hand ( her wedding set ) one on her right. A silver puzzle ring. When Grandfather gave it to her he said "If you take it off, I'll know." One band would be 4 he'd have to put back together. She never took either of them off. I have that ring. 🙂 It's far too large, but I have it. Gran was Scorp, Gramps Cap.
I adore jewelry, but I'm rather cost effective. LOL One of my faves is white gold with wee diamonds, it looks like a snowflake to my eye, Depression era, 30s. 150 clams on e-bay. 🙂 I splurge on occasion, but not often. Quality and asthetic is what I go for. Another definite PLUS to older jewelry is that womens hands were smaller. I cannot walk into a random jewelry place and just 'get' a ring. They're always too big and need to be sized down. Sometimes I'll get lucky though. 🙂
I adore jewelry, but I'm rather cost effective. LOL One of my faves is white gold with wee diamonds, it looks like a snowflake to my eye, Depression era, 30s. 150 clams on e-bay. 🙂 I splurge on occasion, but not often. Quality and asthetic is what I go for. Another definite PLUS to older jewelry is that womens hands were smaller. I cannot walk into a random jewelry place and just 'get' a ring. They're always too big and need to be sized down. Sometimes I'll get lucky though. 🙂
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Awww, that's GREAT. 🙂 My Grandmother only wore two rings. One on left hand ( her wedding set ) one on her right. A silver puzzle ring. When Grandfather gave it to her he said "If you take it off, I'll know." One band would be 4 he'd have to put back together. She never took either of them off. I have that ring. 🙂 It's far too large, but I have it. Gran was Scorp, Gramps Cap.
I adore jewelry, but I'm rather cost effective. LOL One of my faves is white gold with wee diamonds, it looks like a snowflake to my eye, Depression era, 30s. 150 clams on e-bay. 🙂 I splurge on occasion, but not often. Quality and asthetic is what I go for. Another definite PLUS to older jewelry is that womens hands were smaller. I cannot walk into a random jewelry place and just 'get' a ring. They're always too big and need to be sized down. Sometimes I'll get lucky though. 🙂
VB I also love white gold...something about making my hands look classier and sexier...classy is big for me..Sont like too much on me at the same time either..😉click to expand
White gold is my fave. It looks so perfect with the ice of diamond or is a terrific foil for colored stones. Like you I keep it simple and clean. If I'm wearing a ring it's just one, usually on my left ring finger. ( Southpaw so I like to admire what I've got on ). My earrings are usually delicate studs or a simple drop. I don't wear necklaces often, other than my mourning locket with my girls lock of hair and picture. If I do wear a necklace again it's just classic, timeless. One strand of pearls or something pretty falling from a simple chain. I'm also one of those fun critters with nickel allergies. Careful with earrings, costume makes my skin green, etc. The deep joy that is mine.
Yes'm. My ring finger is a six, when I shed a bit more it will be round a 5.5 or smaller dependent upon what the band is doing. Pinky is a 2-2.5 or 3 for the same reasons. LOL You know my pain. Shoo' woman, if you want a ring you want a ring, no shame in it. I've had a blast discussing jewelry. *hooves clattering* 😄
Beautiful. 🙂
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So the question for the chicks is, does he HAVE TO put a ring on it or is his bent knee enough? Why or Why not?
Yes, I would want a wedding band, but no engagement ring. I don't wear jewelry unless I'm going out and it would be ridiculous to have an engagement ring sitting somewhere forgotten and collecting dust. I like the symbolism of bonding and commitment bands represent.
As for bended knee -NO WAY! A proposal lying down on the bed beside me or over breakfast would be way more special.
Ever seen old English posey rings? They're prettiful. 🙂
🙂
A wide Celtic knot filigree band would be my choice.
Also lovely. I quite like Claddagh too. The symbolism of it.
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