Need advice on gemini anger

Hi all,

I have been reading this forum for several weeks, finally worked up the nerve to post. I hope you all can offer some advice.

I'm a late december sag with my first gemini. Our relationship started off like fireworks, but as it progressed I noticed that my gem (no pun intended), has bouts of anger and jealousy. For the last couple of days he refuses to communicate with me and is angry with me, because I did not share really personal and frightening news with him. He actually chewed me up for not calling him and became indignant when I pointed out that I never prevented him from calling me.

At any rate, he will not speak with me and although he's a pain in my arse, I adore him tremendously and although I really, REALLY want to call him, I've decided to give him space to cool off (still trying to comprehend how HE's angry with me for not wanting to share MY dilemma...but that's another issue altogether).

So, I guess my question is...does the gemini fury ever subside? Is there any way to know when it's more than just a temporary outburst?

Thanks in advance 🙂

that is strange...most gemini's both male and females dont get outbursts for days and weeks. usually for a moment...they cool off recollect ...they crawl into their cave and contemplate and come out improved and better than ever. My gemini and i had crazy arguments that involved him yelling and punching a table. crying. to just plain outrage. (also i contributed as well) but the next day we usually have a heart to heart talk and immediately switch over to bffs again.

i feel that as a sag...a lot of them are passive aggressive. he probably feels you are playing mind games and he sees it ..and your responses tend to be "oblivious" but not really. reason for this speculation is due to his over-explanation towards you. Picking out the games. Games at times also are not conscious they are subconscious (hidden feelings). He senses it. and since geminis have extreme opposing ideas in their heads their outbursts, and frustrations are usually in moments of confusion.

"last couple weeks he has refused to communicate with me"

im pretty sure during those moments hes out and about and your the last thing on his mind. Gemini's dont like to stress themselves out since they already have so much internal conflicts. They will go out with their day, work, hobbies, friends, and also they are really optimistic with their future love lives. they wont let one bring them down. I His anger may be valid but the reason for his anger may be completely off from what you think.

Thank you for your reply.

It hasn't been weeks, just the past few days. However, it FEELS like weeks. I have been trying to determine whether or not some of his jealousy is a gemini characteristic, or whether it's just HIS characteristic.

Now, I do find that saggies are passive-aggressive to be interesting. I have been accused of a lot...a LOT, but never being passive-aggressive. However, I the gem did accuse me of not caring about his feelings...which left me scratching his head. Perhaps, I do need to do some inner reflecting. That is definitely food for thought 🙂

I think he feels like you and he aren't as close as he thought you guys were. Meaning he would have shared something like that with you because he thinks y'all are that close. You didn't and his feelers are hurt and he is now second guessing y'alls relationship status.

Or maybe he felt like you should have came to him for help or support. Since you didn't maybe he feels like you don't need him?

GeminiDahl, he did mention that he couldn't believe that I went to a girlfriend first. However, I explained that I needed to wrap my mind around the situation before I felt comfortable sharing it with him. I am going through a very turbulent time and thought, "what man wants to hear about all of my problems?"

I thought by keeping our conversations light and airy, I would prevent weighing him down.

I ultimately apologized, but he's expressed that he's very angry. Ironically, he has no idea just how much I do need his support.

Then tell him. If a guy cares about you, he wants to be the one who "fixes" things for you. He wants to hear about your issues and be a hero for helping. I agree with Candi that his anger shouldn't be dragging out this long. If it is, then this situation is very serious to him and hasn't at all been resolved in his mind. I wonder if giving him something else to fix would help.

Thank you all, for the suggestions and feedback. I'll see if he'll take my call..will keep you posted 🙂

Whimsy, you were RIGHT on target. I called, didn't expect him to answer, but left a message simply saying that I miss chatting with him. No sooner than I hung up, he was calling back. I asked for his advice about something and his demeanor seemed to soften.

I need to remember that the next time I try to be uber strong and independent emotionally 🙂

DeadRingerr, are you gemini? Regardless, at least you're aware of it and that's more than most can say.
I'm afraid I have a quick temper too. However, mine is directly related to where I grew up and less to do with my sign...at least I think so.