omgwd...... my Sag asked me to

go and get sized for engagement ring.... holly crap! i'm soooo happy.... he said it will happen before my birthday 😄 - I'm a happy ducky. I love that man!

Congradulations!!! 🙂 HURRAYY!!

That's awesome, congratulations!

awesome news🙂

yeah....

in the end i got 2 pandora beads in my stocking...

really....

why do dudes do that and tease like that.

i'm turned off...

He said it would happen before your bday and that is months away... so, why the disappointment? Don't get yourself so psyched up about it!!

Posted by lildol
He said it would happen before your bday and that is months away... so, why the disappointment? Don't get yourself so psyched up about it!!

yeah, but with that said, he also cancelled our trip we were supposed to take yesterday, he is going alone. he also told me that he is staying in his old home town longer and that would involve inevitable hanging out with his kids and possibly his ex wife, than he also tells me that he will be dropping in on his ex mother in law to pick up some things for his new place....

he left some of the gifts I bought for him for xmas as well...

geee...

so yea.... 2 pandora beads sums it up I guess....

no, I didn't expect it for xmas. but... i'm feeling rather shitty about this whole new development and maybe his previous marriage is not really finished even though on paper it is....

for a woman who cheated on him, his ex surely has along with her family pretty good hold on him still. I know that if it really ended for a man, the does not keep ties with his ex's family. This is weird and I don't like how it feels. Putting aside that in perfect world we will all get along.

I get alone well with my ex's ex wife, but it took a long time to build that relationship. This, what he is doing is just wrong and tasteless and feels like he just wants to pull wool over my eyes. I feel like I'm some emotional band aid for him, in place of someone he still has some feelings for.

I need to move away from this.
😢

My previous post was to congratulate you and then I read the rest of the thread. I'm sorry things didn't turn out like they should. 😢

its ok... i need to move on, before I find myself in a menage a trois

😢

Sorry that sux 😢

Normally i'd say "Come on, it might be fun!" but now is not the time. I really do hope you will feel better.

Are you sure you're not reading too much into things? You sound a little jealous. You should support him something along the lines of: "that's GREAT you're getting to spend more time with your kids!"

Don't worry about the ex, it is what it is. So, he's going to see her, he may even have dinner with her (and the kids), she may even cook for him, the ex mother-in-law may still view him as part of the family - an amicable breakup is better than the alternative. If he still get's along with his ex and her family, be grateful, it makes things a lot easier!

I would bother me too if I was supposed to be going and plans changed, but, maybe this is something he needs to do on his own. Maybe he still needs closure. Think "glass half full"!!

the jealousy over his kids is non existent. I was married for 10 years to someone who had kids from previous marriage. that's not the issue.
it's all of the points together. Closure for what? he marriage? you're kidding right? she lives in another guys house now with their kids. that's the closure. I find her family's involvement tasteless and basically still with their boots in his private life and he should move on and cut the cords himself. Proper amicability is fine, but they are not best friends - best friends don't go around and cheat and divorce... he's transferring from one base to another - we were supposed to do it together. He is still on leave.
He's acting like a jerk and he's been calling and apologizing. but whatever... deed is done.