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I am drowning in such sadness. Why, oh why, did I have to be born with this venus in cancer?

How long do broken hearts last, anyhow? I'm on day 84. 😢

😢 I'm sorry. Just keep yourself busy and push through it, it'll be over soon.

Heart break is heart break... I have Venus Gemini fwiw.

I'm going on seven months. I have good days, bad days, and very bad days. I've had no contact, no stalking online, threw out almost everything (still trying to let it ALL go) and immersed myself in activities...but he's there, his memory nagging me from the back of my mind.

Takes time. Just take it day by day. Just ... Breathe.

Ah, the Facebook stalking.... 😢 Funny thing, his FB page rarely changes as he rarely uses it. But still I look, to see if an occaisional b day wish is made to someone. I have just a few pics, which I've cut down on viewing. Dont read any old emails, though do a few text messages. I cn note my progress, it comes in baby steps.

Thanks, Iceredrobot for the sweet words 🙂

Iheart...thanks for the reminder to breathe, and Im sorry for you too. It wouldt be so bad if I knew for sure my next love wouldnt break my heart (and hopefully not a scorpio)...but there isnt a guarantee for either, is there? :/

There's never a 100% guarantee. All we can do is heal and try our damnedest to be open and true so we don't miss out on something truly grand. Be good to yourself, be kind. Allow yourself to mourn because you definitely do and should. Surround yourself with life. Find yourself again and what makes you passionate. Immerse yourself in music, good people and an occasional glass of damned good wine. Take long bubble baths with candles and something beautiful playing low and soothing. ( no Sad F.M. )
Reacquaint yourself with excellent literature, good movies, gorgeous scenery and art. Take long walks and discover the outdoors all over again. Look at it through a childs eyes. Set up time with the girls. Shopping, fun, a snowball fight.
Heartbreak shows us we are alive and have loved. Embrace it, own it, be the Mistress of it. Take back what was always yours.

Venus in Pisces *stroking shell with fin* Be well lady.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
I am drowning in such sadness. Why, oh why, did I have to be born with this venus in cancer?

How long do broken hearts last, anyhow? I'm on day 84. 😢

Sorry to hear that. It lasts for as long as you need it to last. You have to allow yourself time to mourn the relationship. Accepting that it's over & move on. I know easier said than done...but trust me, IT WON'T LAST.

I was in a LTR with someone & I had to end it. I was really hurt & it took some time to get over it. One day I woke up & I just didn't love him anymore. Hahahaha, not literally of course, but it just went away & to this very day I DO NOT love him at all. I know it's hard but better days are ahead. 🙂 *sending you rainbows & hugs*

Posted by venusianbull
There's never a 100% guarantee. All we can do is heal and try our damnedest to be open and true so we don't miss out on something truly grand. Be good to yourself, be kind. Allow yourself to mourn because you definitely do and should. Surround yourself with life. Find yourself again and what makes you passionate. Immerse yourself in music, good people and an occasional glass of damned good wine. Take long bubble baths with candles and something beautiful playing low and soothing. ( no Sad F.M. )
Reacquaint yourself with excellent literature, good movies, gorgeous scenery and art. Take long walks and discover the outdoors all over again. Look at it through a childs eyes. Set up time with the girls. Shopping, fun, a snowball fight.
Heartbreak shows us we are alive and have loved. Embrace it, own it, be the Mistress of it. Take back what was always yours.

Venus in Pisces *stroking shell with fin* Be well lady.

This is great.

Posted by venusianbull
There's never a 100% guarantee. All we can do is heal and try our damnedest to be open and true so we don't miss out on something truly grand. Be good to yourself, be kind. Allow yourself to mourn because you definitely do and should. Surround yourself with life. Find yourself again and what makes you passionate. Immerse yourself in music, good people and an occasional glass of damned good wine. Take long bubble baths with candles and something beautiful playing low and soothing. ( no Sad F.M. )
Reacquaint yourself with excellent literature, good movies, gorgeous scenery and art. Take long walks and discover the outdoors all over again. Look at it through a childs eyes. Set up time with the girls. Shopping, fun, a snowball fight.
Heartbreak shows us we are alive and have loved. Embrace it, own it, be the Mistress of it. Take back what was always yours.

Venus in Pisces *stroking shell with fin* Be well lady.

Soooooo true, and just a small add on..... when you do these things and find yourself at your happiest is often when the memories of him will nag the worst trying to drag you back down. The harder you push on and continue to live the less this will happen. Try not to let each of these beautiful moments become clouded by "This would be so much better if only he were here".

Hugs baby girl. 🙂

BGP, I'm so sorry...You are always so upbeat and uplifting in your advice to me. It bothers me that you struggle with this pain - Trust me, being a full fledged Cancer is like wearing your heart on your sleeve and seeing it through 35 Windy City winters. I tend to feel and see the beauty and good everything around me. Events and little moments imprint themselves on me and it's more often the company I am with during the moments that imprint, and not the moments themselves. With every experience in my life, I give a little piece of me. When my heart breaks or gets battered by the chilly wind, I feel so lost because I gave so much.

Time does heal my friend. It's a repeating truth that I will deny everytime I am sad - and then one day I realize all over again just how very true it is. After time, every man that I have truly loved (and that's not been many), finds a special place in my heart - the good memories remain, the bad fade away. I remember only the blessings they gave me - A new hobby, a new musical artist, etc. You get to the point in which you realize that while you were hurt so very deeply, they also taught you lessons about life, how to love better, and human nature.

I pray that your pain subsides, and that in its place will grow a new view on life and love. It feels like it will never go away - and if it doesn't - I have to say that maybe it was meant to be and you'll circle back to each other. I'm not one for false hopes, and I haven't read your story, but who knows what's in store for you. Just nuture yourself and do EXACTLY what VenusianBull said - how true of a statement.

CC

Thank you, everyone. Your comments mean a lot to me. Im grateful for the love. 🙂

VB: As I said to you in my PM, I appreciate your words. Practicing "extreme self-care" is always a priority but more so in time of pain. I do the best I can. I just hate being home alone in too much quiet.

LadyS: xoxoxo I know..please check your email 🙂

Real Talk: I gladly accept your rainbows & hugs. Can never have too many.!

Gems: Thanks for the love and sweetness. I love your posts!

DominOo: That video was cool, and inspiring. I also dug that bad ass shirtless body in tight leather shimmy pants 😉

CC: Thank you, hun, I appreciate your words and care. If anyone knows how a broken heart feels for a ven in cancer, its a Full blown cancer. i know it will pass...its just the in-between thats a bitch.

For all the poop that Ive seen on DXP, its really nice to see the love. Thank you, Friends 🙂

Just wondering...why is Venus in Cancer a tough one?

LOL @ hate diet. Thats funny 🙂

I do agree about thought replacement. Im just gonna use reality thoughts, tho, not hate. The reality is his actions didnt match his words and I know for a fact I could never change him, nor accept the way things were going. Wake up calls always come at 4am, when Im least ready to handle them. Time takes time. Im just gonna wait for time to do its thing.

Thanks again, Lady S...I saw that on the Cancer board.

Oh, as why is a venus in cancer hard? Cancers are water signs, very emotional, very feeling, very attached to love, relationships, people. I dont let go in my heart easily. I dont swallow my pain or feelings or emotions. I feel all day, ery' day, so imagine being red and raw and constantly exposed to the sun. Sucks 😢

Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
no stalking online

*sniff*

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Posted by BigGirlPanties
I am drowning in such sadness. Why, oh why, did I have to be born with this venus in cancer?

How long do broken hearts last, anyhow? I'm on day 84. 😢

BGP Im sorry your heart is aching!!!! The sun will shine again girl!!! I promise..you will look back at these threads and laugh and think*damn was that me* lol and you will delete..lol..thats what I did when i would come here talking about the bull i was with back in 2008...i came back 2 months ago and deleted it all. Get up girl and live...live life..I know it hurts..been there done that....Life is too short...you will live!!! When one door closes another opens...everything has to happen for a reason...I need to believe that because if not then life is cruel!! So believe!!!

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You make a good cheerleader ;P

Thank you for your enthusiasm. Im trying...

Posted by BigGirlPanties
I am drowning in such sadness. Why, oh why, did I have to be born with this venus in cancer?

How long do broken hearts last, anyhow? I'm on day 84. 😢

Venus in Cancer—??

You want to try Venus Aries with a side of Cancer Moon.


All it will take is for some sexy thing to come along and sweep you off your feet and you will be find again.
Till then, crank your fave music up load, eat what you want when you want and just generally be the awesomest You that you can manage and you will be snapped up in double quick time.

How many more days of your time is this person worth?

sorry....RNAP, interruped


As I was saying, remember broken heart days are like dog years - a ratio of approx 7:1 when compared to normal.
Tell your Cancer Venus to cool its jets awhile and wait for someone worthy of its efforts.

*interrupted