Thoughts On Marriage?

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Do you believe in it? Do you want it? I think the biggest thing to really consider is how you become legal bound to that person because of it and everything that goes with that, positive or negative. Like obviously you don't wanna deal with someones debt. ( Not that money is super important ) like i said tho pros n cons.

So what do you think?



I don't like her that much but she is speaking on the topic
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^^Yay! I feel freedom for ya, Watercup! 🙂



Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.
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I think they can be... With the right partner, obviously. 🙂
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Posted by WaterCup

Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.


I think you're just selfish like most kids these days. You want everything for the minimum amount of effort.
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I have a great respect for the institution of marriage and would like to have the legal right to do so someday. But for now my phobia of commitment keeps me running and screaming for the hills any time someone drops the 'm' word.

The idea of giving my solemn word to God and everyone to love someone for the rest of my days however long or short that may be scares the bejeezus out of me when there are so many variables to consider and no real way of knowing whether or not I can keep that vow. Better to just not do it and live in sin.

*shrug*
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^^Yay! I feel freedom for ya, Watercup! 🙂



Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.




I think they can be... With the right partner, obviously. 🙂
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That's the thing, where the hell is he, the right partner? I can't stand all these headache causing men, I have no time for that.
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The idea of giving my solemn word to God and everyone to love someone for the rest of my days however long or short that may be scares the bejeezus out of me when there are so many variables to consider and no real way of knowing whether or not I can keep that vow. Better to just not do it and live in sin.

*shrug*


If you are very religious I can see how that can be scary. Life is hard enough as it is, even without religion. Who needs it?
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Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.


I think you're just selfish like most kids these days. You want everything for the minimum amount of effort.
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If that's being selfish so be it, at least I recognize that flaw about myself.
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If you are very religious I can see how that can be scary. Life is hard enough as it is, even without religion. Who needs it?



Or I just have a 7th house overload lol.

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I think the picture will change pretty soon for you. There's a moment where it clicks and all logic gets reversed forever. It doesn't even necessarily have to happen in a romantic context either.



Logic get reversed forever? Why so mean this morning, tizi?

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TMV, you're a Catholic?
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I was raised to be, yes. I don't necessarily identify with it anymore and haven't been practicing for years. But some things just stick...
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Hey I like to be free, but it's strange because I like long-term relationships too..I'm just too lazy to deal with the hard work needed to keep these relationships functioning. I cant do it, I don't know how to do it & I don't even think I want to learn how to do it. I wish relationship were easy.


I think you're just selfish like most kids these days. You want everything for the minimum amount of effort.



I agree.

Good call.
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Nope, not a good call at all. I work hard for things that really matter to me, I don't expect a quick fix. I'm not bothered only when it comes to relationships.
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So which corporations will i control eventually... dad? 😈



hahahahahaha



i don't get ands' joke... @_@



he'd marry into a family for money and power. Can't say anything but fair play to that either.



LMFAO... CLEVER... @_@



nothing beats helicopter rides with papa in law!
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rak en rol!

btw, do you read kiko machine?
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So which corporations will i control eventually... dad? 😈



hahahahahaha



i don't get ands' joke... @_@



he'd marry into a family for money and power. Can't say anything but fair play to that either.



LMFAO... CLEVER... @_@



nothing beats helicopter rides with papa in law!



rak en rol!

btw, do you read kiko machine?



i don't read as of late. my attention span is shit. y what is it?
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hahah nuthin' it's the coolest comic strip in the land nowadays. 🙂
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I want it minus the expectations and big wedding. I kind of want to elope....

My cap friend thinks Im crazy, but I want our home to be a duplex. He buys one side, I buy the other...well depnding on how they are sold, and we blow out the wall the seperate the units and put a sliding glass door in that space....that will stay open so we can move from units freely.That way my husband will have his space...free to do what he want, decorate how he wants, and Ill have mine BUT at night, he'll either sleep in my place or me in his. We'll still sleep together, but have options on where. Also, if my family is down, or his is down, they can stay with us without his family interrupting me, or mine interrupting him.

Then, here comes the divorce. Wall goes back up. I have my unit payed for, be me, with the option to sell, and he has his. Split with no hassle.
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I want it minus the expectations and big wedding. I kind of want to elope....

My cap friend thinks Im crazy, but I want our home to be a duplex. He buys one side, I buy the other...well depnding on how they are sold, and we blow out the wall the seperate the units and put a sliding glass door in that space....that will stay open so we can move from units freely.That way my husband will have his space...free to do what he want, decorate how he wants, and Ill have mine BUT at night, he'll either sleep in my place or me in his. We'll still sleep together, but have options on where. Also, if my family is down, or his is down, they can stay with us without his family interrupting me, or mine interrupting him.




Everything you've said here is my dream.
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Oh wow....see!! I can just see me arguing with my husband over decoration, money, bills, noise, pets, probably even what duplex to buy etc etc etc etc lol. Lets just live together but separately.
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My cap friend thinks Im crazy, but I want our home to be a duplex. He buys one side, I buy the other...well depnding on how they are sold, and we blow out the wall the seperate the units and put a sliding glass door in that space....that will stay open so we can move from units freely.That way my husband will have his space...free to do what he want, decorate how he wants, and Ill have mine BUT at night, he'll either sleep in my place or me in his. We'll still sleep together, but have options on where. Also, if my family is down, or his is down, they can stay with us without his family interrupting me, or mine interrupting him.



This could possibly be one of the most brilliant ideas I've ever heard. Too bad I can easily see myself turning into a dick in that situation.
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@TMV, are you a virgo? I think I saw somewhere before on here you mention being one. I ask because my sister is a Virgo. I think I told her before about this, and she had a "comment" lol. Darn Virgos will find a loop hole in an idea or situation lol. I forgot why she said it wouldnt work for her, but Im sure it was a reason that made me think for a moment. She always makes me think ...sometimes to a point where Im like hmmmm...yeah, maybe not so good of an idea lol. My Cap friend didnt think it was a bad idea per say, he just couldnt explain why it wasnt a good one. its like he could see the arrangement, but couldnt see it at the same time.

@tiziani, thats interesting...wanting to earn your way to her bed. idk, but I could see myself being miserable without certain freedoms or options, and especially with obligations. ugh.