Wanted my Attention then Ditched me??

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her

Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her

Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.
Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

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Posted by Sagicorn
If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her

Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.


Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

So what’s the difference of that to you staying with a bloke that tries to control you, doesn’t care about your opinion and criticizes you?

At least the woman here isn’t living with her abuser.

Do you seriously think I live with an abuser?! Aren't you maybe projecting your own experience onto me, since I'm still with a Virgo and you're not? Yours seems to be control freak, not mine. Never in my life has anyone abused me. Nor would I ever let it happen. Virgos are control freaks, what's new with that? But, they are also not insane and if they love you they adapt to you as well. Like he has to look at dirty dishes when I'm lazy to wash them, if he can't he's free to do them on his own but that bothering him will certainly not make me wash them if I can't/don't want to. I live with a man who calls me beautiful every day, who looks me with eyes full of love every day, who tells me he loves and misses me every day. We hug and kiss every day. How many people do that really in this age but are still married to someone? How many people even have sex on regular basis or are attracted to their partner? Many don't but they remain in their marriages still, why is that tho? If everything isn't milk and honey it's only life, it's not him being abuser and me being a victim. I don't live by the rule "my way or highway" although I do quite often get my way. Not getting along in every possible aspect is only normal life, I have never met anyone who has everything perfect with their partner. He doesn't drink, gamble, do drugs, whore around nor is he problematic in any sort of way or form. He texts me good morning and good night when we're not together after all this time. And most important thing of all is he means the world to me and I know I mean the same to him. If I complain on things that bother me, that doesn't mean he's a bad person, certainly not a bloke. We all have things that bother us and one can be the best there is, but there will always be something to nitpick on I'm sure at that.

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I would leave it at that. No message , not coming to his concert. If he reach out tell him you don’t understand what he wants from you since he gives you mixed signals.

I understand you care , but please have some dignity. This guy obviously shows you that you aren’t priority. At least in my opinion.

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@VenusDoom

You may want to change your user name to something more positive to attract better stuff into your life 🤗

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@VenusDoom

You may want to change your user name to something more positive to attract better stuff into your life 🤗

Haha maybe. It’s one of my favorite HIM songs

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What’s his chart look like?

Pisces sun
Virgo moon
Aquarius Mercury

Aries Venus
Capricorn Mars

I don’t know his rising :/

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What’s his chart look like?

Pisces Sun

Virgo Moon

Aquarius Mercury

Aries Venus

Capricorn Mars

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Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way?

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Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way?

You can tell him "Sure I will come and then next day tell him sorry I'm sick". 😝

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Posted by Timone
You were his backup plan. He found something more fun he wanted to do and ditched you. It has nothing to do with being fwb or not. If you make plans with someone then stick with it. Don't give a lame excuse that you're sick when you're not. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who has so little respect for me.

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You were his backup plan. He found something more fun he wanted to do and ditched you. It has nothing to do with being fwb or not. If you make plans with someone then stick with it. Don't give a lame excuse that you're sick when you're not. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who has so little respect for me.

That’s basically what he did. There was a concert and he ditched me. My friend texted me that she saw him because a mutual is hanging out with them and to pick her up. When my friend interacted with him last night, he was PERFECTLY FINE AND HAPPY

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You were his backup plan. He found something more fun he wanted to do and ditched you. It has nothing to do with being fwb or not. If you make plans with someone then stick with it. Don't give a lame excuse that you're sick when you're not. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who has so little respect for me.

That’s basically what he did. There was a concert and he ditched me. My friend texted me that she saw him because a mutual is hanging out with them and to pick her up. When my friend interacted with him last night, he was PERFECTLY FINE AND HAPPY
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You need to cut him out. He clearly doesn't respect you. 🤐

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You were his backup plan. He found something more fun he wanted to do and ditched you. It has nothing to do with being fwb or not. If you make plans with someone then stick with it. Don't give a lame excuse that you're sick when you're not. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who has so little respect for me.

That’s basically what he did. There was a concert and he ditched me. My friend texted me that she saw him because a mutual is hanging out with them and to pick her up. When my friend interacted with him last night, he was PERFECTLY FINE AND HAPPY
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You need to cut him out. He clearly doesn't respect you. 🤐
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Trust me, I will. I just want to come to a safe space to vent and see how others would handle my situation. Does he think I’ll roll over and get over it? 😅

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You were his backup plan. He found something more fun he wanted to do and ditched you. It has nothing to do with being fwb or not. If you make plans with someone then stick with it. Don't give a lame excuse that you're sick when you're not. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who has so little respect for me.

That’s basically what he did. There was a concert and he ditched me. My friend texted me that she saw him because a mutual is hanging out with them and to pick her up. When my friend interacted with him last night, he was PERFECTLY FINE AND HAPPY
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You need to cut him out. He clearly doesn't respect you. 🤐
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Trust me, I will. I just want to come to a safe space to vent and see how others would handle my situation. Does he think I’ll roll over and get over it? 😅
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I mean pretty much.😅 He has no shame in treating you like that but it's up to you whether you let him or not.

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You were his backup plan. He found something more fun he wanted to do and ditched you. It has nothing to do with being fwb or not. If you make plans with someone then stick with it. Don't give a lame excuse that you're sick when you're not. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who has so little respect for me.

That’s basically what he did. There was a concert and he ditched me. My friend texted me that she saw him because a mutual is hanging out with them and to pick her up. When my friend interacted with him last night, he was PERFECTLY FINE AND HAPPY
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You need to cut him out. He clearly doesn't respect you. 🤐
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Trust me, I will. I just want to come to a safe space to vent and see how others would handle my situation. Does he think I’ll roll over and get over it? 😅

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Posted by VenusDoom
I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years. In September we had an out due to a misunderstanding so he ghosted me and we’ve been in no contact. In March he’s been trying to get my attention later texting and seeking me. He’s a touring musician and coming to my city which explains why he’s trying hard. After sort of patching/communicating it out after 2 months, we agree to meet up. Today was his day off and I got ready, only for him to coincidentally cancel that he got sick with no follow up to meet up later. I only texted, “feel better” and he hearted it. He later started posting on his stories he went to a concert instead without shame of me seeing it. I know we’re not in a relationship but that was humiliating. Why bother getting in contact with me and then cancel? Is he trying to get me to break us up so he can look like the victim or? Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way? I’m a little distraught since I care about him, but this is not okay

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I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years. In September we had an out due to a misunderstanding so he ghosted me and we’ve been in no contact. In March he’s been trying to get my attention later texting and seeking me. He’s a touring musician and coming to my city which explains why he’s trying hard. After sort of patching/communicating it out after 2 months, we agree to meet up. Today was his day off and I got ready, only for him to coincidentally cancel that he got sick with no follow up to meet up later. I only texted, “feel better” and he hearted it. He later started posting on his stories he went to a concert instead without shame of me seeing it. I know we’re not in a relationship but that was humiliating. Why bother getting in contact with me and then cancel? Is he trying to get me to break us up so he can look like the victim or? Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way? I’m a little distraught since I care about him, but this is not okay

So let me get this straight.

Don't talk as if you are both serious about maintaining the friendship. Supportive spend time with each other etc. Real relationship stuff.

So you are not a priorty.

So FWB but no friend part?

Isn't that what a booty call is?

Oh and it seems you aren't a priorty even on a friend level. Though seems you are to him including on a emotional level.

Did he even think to invite you as if you are friends?

Ya thats the description of a relationship of just hooking up. UNLESS there is a lot more to your interactions with each other and he just pulled a bone head move with this, that is what this is. A hook up.

Either you miss read the situation OR you are now ready and looking for something more and this doesn't work for you anymore.


How close am I?

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Posted by Sagicorn
If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.


Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

So what’s the difference of that to you staying with a bloke that tries to control you, doesn’t care about your opinion and criticizes you?

At least the woman here isn’t living with her abuser.

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Do you seriously think I live with an abuser?! Aren't you maybe projecting your own experience onto me, since I'm still with a Virgo and you're not? Yours seems to be control freak, not mine. Never in my life has anyone abused me. Nor would I ever let it happen. Virgos are control freaks, what's new with that? But, they are also not insane and if they love you they adapt to you as well. Like he has to look at dirty dishes when I'm lazy to wash them, if he can't he's free to do them on his own but that bothering him will certainly not make me wash them if I can't/don't want to. I live with a man who calls me beautiful every day, who looks me with eyes full of love every day, who tells me he loves and misses me every day. We hug and kiss every day. How many people do that really in this age but are still married to someone? How many people even have sex on regular basis or are attracted to their partner? Many don't but they remain in their marriages still, why is that tho? If everything isn't milk and honey it's only life, it's not him being abuser and me being a victim. I don't live by the rule "my way or highway" although I do quite often get my way. Not getting along in every possible aspect is only normal life, I have never met anyone who has everything perfect with their partner. He doesn't drink, gamble, do drugs, whore around nor is he problematic in any sort of way or form. He texts me good morning and good night when we're not together after all this time. And most important thing of all is he means the world to me and I know I mean the same to him. If I complain on things that bother me, that doesn't mean he's a bad person, certainly not a bloke. We all have things that bother us and one can be the best there is, but there will always be something to nitpick on I'm sure at that.

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I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years. In September we had an out due to a misunderstanding so he ghosted me and we’ve been in no contact. In March he’s been trying to get my attention later texting and seeking me. He’s a touring musician and coming to my city which explains why he’s trying hard. After sort of patching/communicating it out after 2 months, we agree to meet up. Today was his day off and I got ready, only for him to coincidentally cancel that he got sick with no follow up to meet up later. I only texted, “feel better” and he hearted it. He later started posting on his stories he went to a concert instead without shame of me seeing it. I know we’re not in a relationship but that was humiliating. Why bother getting in contact with me and then cancel? Is he trying to get me to break us up so he can look like the victim or? Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way? I’m a little distraught since I care about him, but this is not okay

So let me get this straight.

Don't talk as if you are both serious about maintaining the friendship. Supportive spend time with each other etc. Real relationship stuff.

So you are not a priorty.

So FWB but no friend part?

Isn't that what a booty call is?

Oh and it seems you aren't a priorty even on a friend level. Though seems you are to him including on a emotional level.

Did he even think to invite you as if you are friends?

Ya thats the description of a relationship of just hooking up. UNLESS there is a lot more to your interactions with each other and he just pulled a bone head move with this, that is what this is. A hook up.

Either you miss read the situation OR you are now ready and looking for something more and this doesn't work for you anymore.


How close am I?

Update: he did invite me but I’m still a little disappointed on being ditched from yesterday . It’s just communication and plans that have been set. If he wanted to see the show instead, I have no problem knowing in advance. Also, I’m not looking for more. I’m okay with having fun, but communication is key with me

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I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years. In September we had an out due to a misunderstanding so he ghosted me and we’ve been in no contact. In March he’s been trying to get my attention later texting and seeking me. He’s a touring musician and coming to my city which explains why he’s trying hard. After sort of patching/communicating it out after 2 months, we agree to meet up. Today was his day off and I got ready, only for him to coincidentally cancel that he got sick with no follow up to meet up later. I only texted, “feel better” and he hearted it. He later started posting on his stories he went to a concert instead without shame of me seeing it. I know we’re not in a relationship but that was humiliating. Why bother getting in contact with me and then cancel? Is he trying to get me to break us up so he can look like the victim or? Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way? I’m a little distraught since I care about him, but this is not okay

So let me get this straight.
Don't talk as if you are both serious about maintaining the friendship. Supportive spend time with each other etc. Real relationship stuff.
So you are not a priorty.
So FWB but no friend part?
Isn't that what a booty call is?
Oh and it seems you aren't a priorty even on a friend level. Though seems you are to him including on a emotional level.
Did he even think to invite you as if you are friends?
Ya thats the description of a relationship of just hooking up. UNLESS there is a lot more to your interactions with each other and he just pulled a bone head move with this, that is what this is. A hook up.
Either you miss read the situation OR you are now ready and looking for something more and this doesn't work for you anymore.

How close am I?
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Update: he did invite me but I’m still a little disappointed on being ditched from yesterday . It’s just communication and plans that have been set. If he wanted to see the show instead, I have no problem knowing in advance. Also, I’m not looking for more. I’m okay with having fun, but communication is key with me

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I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years. In September we had an out due to a misunderstanding so he ghosted me and we’ve been in no contact. In March he’s been trying to get my attention later texting and seeking me. He’s a touring musician and coming to my city which explains why he’s trying hard. After sort of patching/communicating it out after 2 months, we agree to meet up. Today was his day off and I got ready, only for him to coincidentally cancel that he got sick with no follow up to meet up later. I only texted, “feel better” and he hearted it. He later started posting on his stories he went to a concert instead without shame of me seeing it. I know we’re not in a relationship but that was humiliating. Why bother getting in contact with me and then cancel? Is he trying to get me to break us up so he can look like the victim or? Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way? I’m a little distraught since I care about him, but this is not okay

So let me get this straight.
Don't talk as if you are both serious about maintaining the friendship. Supportive spend time with each other etc. Real relationship stuff.
So you are not a priorty.
So FWB but no friend part?
Isn't that what a booty call is?
Oh and it seems you aren't a priorty even on a friend level. Though seems you are to him including on a emotional level.
Did he even think to invite you as if you are friends?
Ya thats the description of a relationship of just hooking up. UNLESS there is a lot more to your interactions with each other and he just pulled a bone head move with this, that is what this is. A hook up.
Either you miss read the situation OR you are now ready and looking for something more and this doesn't work for you anymore.

How close am I?

Update: he did invite me but I’m still a little disappointed on being ditched from yesterday . It’s just communication and plans that have been set. If he wanted to see the show instead, I have no problem knowing in advance. Also, I’m not looking for more. I’m okay with having fun, but communication is key with me
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No I mean invite you to the concort he "ditched" you for. Yes communication is important.

Give him shit( preferably teasing) for not just canceling, telling you, or inviting you.

Still tho, make sure your not putting/investing too much in to this relationship. Be sure you aren't desiring something more from him or somewhere else ok?

Life and time is a precious commodity.

He invited you to come watch him play at his concert? And uh...you going? So then you don't want to be respected? This isnt just about sex, its infatuation, limerance, or something. May the odds be ever in your favor.

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.


Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

So what’s the difference of that to you staying with a bloke that tries to control you, doesn’t care about your opinion and criticizes you?

At least the woman here isn’t living with her abuser.

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Do you seriously think I live with an abuser?! Aren't you maybe projecting your own experience onto me, since I'm still with a Virgo and you're not? Yours seems to be control freak, not mine. Never in my life has anyone abused me. Nor would I ever let it happen. Virgos are control freaks, what's new with that? But, they are also not insane and if they love you they adapt to you as well. Like he has to look at dirty dishes when I'm lazy to wash them, if he can't he's free to do them on his own but that bothering him will certainly not make me wash them if I can't/don't want to. I live with a man who calls me beautiful every day, who looks me with eyes full of love every day, who tells me he loves and misses me every day. We hug and kiss every day. How many people do that really in this age but are still married to someone? How many people even have sex on regular basis or are attracted to their partner? Many don't but they remain in their marriages still, why is that tho? If everything isn't milk and honey it's only life, it's not him being abuser and me being a victim. I don't live by the rule "my way or highway" although I do quite often get my way. Not getting along in every possible aspect is only normal life, I have never met anyone who has everything perfect with their partner. He doesn't drink, gamble, do drugs, whore around nor is he problematic in any sort of way or form. He texts me good morning and good night when we're not together after all this time. And most important thing of all is he means the world to me and I know I mean the same to him. If I complain on things that bother me, that doesn't mean he's a bad person, certainly not a bloke. We all have things that bother us and one can be the best there is, but there will always be something to nitpick on I'm sure at that.

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For every man out there who knows what's important and other virgo men. I thank you.

There are many beautiful aspects to Virgos, list could go on and on. Above all, I love how caring thoughtful and intelligent Virgos are. If we have disagreements at times it's only normal, we're squared signs after all. But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with.

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.


Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

So what’s the difference of that to you staying with a bloke that tries to control you, doesn’t care about your opinion and criticizes you?

At least the woman here isn’t living with her abuser.

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Do you seriously think I live with an abuser?! Aren't you maybe projecting your own experience onto me, since I'm still with a Virgo and you're not? Yours seems to be control freak, not mine. Never in my life has anyone abused me. Nor would I ever let it happen. Virgos are control freaks, what's new with that? But, they are also not insane and if they love you they adapt to you as well. Like he has to look at dirty dishes when I'm lazy to wash them, if he can't he's free to do them on his own but that bothering him will certainly not make me wash them if I can't/don't want to. I live with a man who calls me beautiful every day, who looks me with eyes full of love every day, who tells me he loves and misses me every day. We hug and kiss every day. How many people do that really in this age but are still married to someone? How many people even have sex on regular basis or are attracted to their partner? Many don't but they remain in their marriages still, why is that tho? If everything isn't milk and honey it's only life, it's not him being abuser and me being a victim. I don't live by the rule "my way or highway" although I do quite often get my way. Not getting along in every possible aspect is only normal life, I have never met anyone who has everything perfect with their partner. He doesn't drink, gamble, do drugs, whore around nor is he problematic in any sort of way or form. He texts me good morning and good night when we're not together after all this time. And most important thing of all is he means the world to me and I know I mean the same to him. If I complain on things that bother me, that doesn't mean he's a bad person, certainly not a bloke. We all have things that bother us and one can be the best there is, but there will always be something to nitpick on I'm sure at that.

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For every man out there who knows what's important and other virgo men. I thank you.

There are many beautiful aspects to Virgos, list could go on and on. Above all, I love how caring thoughtful and intelligent Virgos are. If we have disagreements at times it's only normal, we're squared signs after all. But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with.

"But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with."

That right there. Though I am personally not shy about compliments and showing my appreciation for things I enjoy.

I would also just add that people tend to think you're bragging when you're just saying good things in your life. I had a friend literally tell me "I can't believe you get along that well with him, that doesn't exist, everyone fights" 😂 so yeah, sometimes it's just pointless explaining good things to people and let them think whatever they want. I do however react to injustice, I won't let someone trash talk someone they don't even know enough to talk about them at all. Everyone I know usually only points out negative things about their spouse, rarely ever do they say something positive

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.
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That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.
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That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

See, this was my problem with her and typical Aries Moon behavior coupled with a fire Sun.

They lack perspective, project, and jump the gun on almost anything including sensitive topics they don't understand. In this case she is failing to see this poster is taking a baby step in the right direction with her desire to get back at this man. She is experiencing righteous anger. She no longer wants to be or feel like a victim. Why poke fun at her and kick her when shes down but on her way up?

And on another ocassion a while back...

For her to come after me and go on attack mode for identifying and pointing out narcissistic and parental abuse with laser-like precision to someone (OP) who at the time was so lost and in so much pain and almost everyone was ganging up on her, victiming blaming her and gaslighting her (Including her)...

Yeah, I did advice the OP that she should hate her mother and I still stand by what I said. It's righteous anger for what was done and taken from her. And this Aries Moon accused me of projecting and being unhinged.. when she was advocating for parent worship and projecting her relationship with her mother to the OP.

Oh she should have never done that. Then she hated me for grilling her for her hypocrisy and poking fun at the mentally abusive relationship she is in with a Virgo to the point she blocked me and was still triggered by me after blocking me for receving notifications and still addressing some of the stupid ass shit she would spew.

But of course everyone had to demonize me and call me a bully after dragging her nonstop... whatever. She didn't have to butt-in and invalidate my experience and dismiss my insight nor gaslight the OP I was trying to help and support.

And for the record (not directed at you MyStarsShine): Stop demonizing adult children who cut ties with a parent or "abandon" an elderly parent. Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person.

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.
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That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

See, this was my problem with her and typical Aries Moon behavior coupled with a fire Sun.

They lack perspective, project, and jump the gun on almost anything including sensitive topics they don't understand. In this case she is failing to see this poster is taking a baby step in the right direction with her desire to get back at this man. She is experiencing righteous anger. She no longer wants to be or feel like a victim. Why poke fun at her and kick her when shes down but on her way up?

And on another ocassion a while back...

For her to come after me and go on attack mode for identifying and pointing out narcissistic and parental abuse with laser-like precision to someone (OP) who at the time was so lost and in so much pain and almost everyone was ganging up on her, victiming blaming her and gaslighting her (Including her)...

Yeah, I did advice the OP that she should hate her mother and I still stand by what I said. It's righteous anger for what was done and taken from her. And this Aries Moon accused me of projecting and being unhinged.. when she was advocating for parent worship and projecting her relationship with her mother to the OP.

Oh she should have never done that. Then she hated me for grilling her for her hypocrisy and poking fun at the mentally abusive relationship she is in with a Virgo to the point she blocked me and was still triggered by me after blocking me for receving notifications and still addressing some of the stupid ass shit she would spew.

But of course everyone had to demonize me and call me a bully after dragging her nonstop... whatever. She didn't have to butt-in and invalidate my experience and dismiss my insight nor gaslight the OP I was trying to help and support.

And for the record (not directed at you MyStarsShine): Stop demonizing adult children who cut ties with a parent or "abandon" an elderly parent. Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person.

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“ Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person “

Well said 👏

Totally agree with this ….. why stay in a toxic relationship with the very people who are supposed to love you unconditionally.

And yes being old doesn’t mean you can behave like a complete bastard and get away with it. If anything by then you should have learned how to be respectful.

My father used to say “just because someone dies, it doesn’t turn them into a hero

if they’ve behaved badly when alive”

I see people really love splashing around term "toxic people" without actually knowing the "toxic person" in question. Again stop projecting. You are the one who had to walk on eggshells around your Virgo, not me. I understand you have your experience, but that's just not mine. In fact, I can't and won't even judge your Virgo because I don't know how he is, I only see your version but not his so keep that in mind too. You don't want to prepare yourself a meal in order not to wake him up cause he gets grumpy...how messed up is that? You live with your ex husband but can't wait to get away from his house...yet the question is, if he's so horrible, why would you even consider living with him again for any reason under the sun? At least I don't have to fear grumpy old man if I god forbid make a noise while he sleeps! So how this works? Truly hope so. The more I read shit people post here or on similar pages, the more I realize how wonderful person I have and how lucky I am actually. I mean ofc I know it anyway, but reading all this nonsense make me even more grateful that I don't have to deal with bitter and hateful person, or a jackass and ahole...

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.
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That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

See, this was my problem with her and typical Aries Moon behavior coupled with a fire Sun.

They lack perspective, project, and jump the gun on almost anything including sensitive topics they don't understand. In this case she is failing to see this poster is taking a baby step in the right direction with her desire to get back at this man. She is experiencing righteous anger. She no longer wants to be or feel like a victim. Why poke fun at her and kick her when shes down but on her way up?

And on another ocassion a while back...

For her to come after me and go on attack mode for identifying and pointing out narcissistic and parental abuse with laser-like precision to someone (OP) who at the time was so lost and in so much pain and almost everyone was ganging up on her, victiming blaming her and gaslighting her (Including her)...

Yeah, I did advice the OP that she should hate her mother and I still stand by what I said. It's righteous anger for what was done and taken from her. And this Aries Moon accused me of projecting and being unhinged.. when she was advocating for parent worship and projecting her relationship with her mother to the OP.

Oh she should have never done that. Then she hated me for grilling her for her hypocrisy and poking fun at the mentally abusive relationship she is in with a Virgo to the point she blocked me and was still triggered by me after blocking me for receving notifications and still addressing some of the stupid ass shit she would spew.

But of course everyone had to demonize me and call me a bully after dragging her nonstop... whatever. She didn't have to butt-in and invalidate my experience and dismiss my insight nor gaslight the OP I was trying to help and support.

And for the record (not directed at you MyStarsShine): Stop demonizing adult children who cut ties with a parent or "abandon" an elderly parent. Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person.

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“ Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person “

Well said 👏

Totally agree with this ….. why stay in a toxic relationship with the very people who are supposed to love you unconditionally.

And yes being old doesn’t mean you can behave like a complete bastard and get away with it. If anything by then you should have learned how to be respectful.

My father used to say “just because someone dies, it doesn’t turn them into a hero

if they’ve behaved badly when alive”

I see people really love splashing around term "toxic people" without actually knowing the "toxic person" in question. Again stop projecting. You are the one who had to walk on eggshells around your Virgo, not me. I understand you have your experience, but that's just not mine. In fact, I can't and won't even judge your Virgo because I don't know how he is, I only see your version but not his so keep that in mind too. You don't want to prepare yourself a meal in order not to wake him up cause he gets grumpy...how messed up is that? You live with your ex husband but can't wait to get away from his house...yet the question is, if he's so horrible, why would you even consider living with him again for any reason under the sun? At least I don't have to fear grumpy old man if I god forbid make a noise while he sleeps! So how this works? Truly hope so. The more I read shit people post here or on similar pages, the more I realize how wonderful person I have and how lucky I am actually. I mean ofc I know it anyway, but reading all this nonsense make me even more grateful that I don't have to deal with bitter and hateful person, or a jackass and ahole...

What are you taking about?

I was referring to parents lol

Go back and read

Also can't say that unless you actually know their version. People talk shit about other people all the time without realizing their own part in it. Which is why it's best to focus solely on the situation in question, not the entire person behind it. Dude in question here has mommy issues and projects mother hate onto anyone who says anything bad about their mother. No love is unconditional btw. I would not love a parent or my own child if they happened to turn out to be pedophiles, murderers and things like that. Everything has it's limits and so does love.

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.
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That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

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See, this was my problem with her and typical Aries Moon behavior coupled with a fire Sun.

They lack perspective, project, and jump the gun on almost anything including sensitive topics they don't understand. In this case she is failing to see this poster is taking a baby step in the right direction with her desire to get back at this man. She is experiencing righteous anger. She no longer wants to be or feel like a victim. Why poke fun at her and kick her when shes down but on her way up?

And on another ocassion a while back...

For her to come after me and go on attack mode for identifying and pointing out narcissistic and parental abuse with laser-like precision to someone (OP) who at the time was so lost and in so much pain and almost everyone was ganging up on her, victiming blaming her and gaslighting her (Including her)...

Yeah, I did advice the OP that she should hate her mother and I still stand by what I said. It's righteous anger for what was done and taken from her. And this Aries Moon accused me of projecting and being unhinged.. when she was advocating for parent worship and projecting her relationship with her mother to the OP.

Oh she should have never done that. Then she hated me for grilling her for her hypocrisy and poking fun at the mentally abusive relationship she is in with a Virgo to the point she blocked me and was still triggered by me after blocking me for receving notifications and still addressing some of the stupid ass shit she would spew.

But of course everyone had to demonize me and call me a bully after dragging her nonstop... whatever. She didn't have to butt-in and invalidate my experience and dismiss my insight nor gaslight the OP I was trying to help and support.

And for the record (not directed at you MyStarsShine): Stop demonizing adult children who cut ties with a parent or "abandon" an elderly parent. Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person.

You are the no 1. bully on here and literally mock everyone and anyone regardless on their feelings ever, but now you're supposedly having a "compassion" for someone? What a mockery. Play that card elsewhere. You'd be mocking and bullying this person if I wasn't the one to post what I posted first, but since I did, you are only here to contradict. Also, before you realized who I am, you were agreeable on everything I posted. Just stop faking it, everyone knows what you are here. Writing your false novels doesn't correct who you are, it's enough to see your post history and how you never ever have a slightest bit of consideration for anyone in a problem. You are the no 1 person to call anyone names, so stop sucking up to her ass, she's not dumb!

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.

Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

So what’s the difference of that to you staying with a bloke that tries to control you, doesn’t care about your opinion and criticizes you?
At least the woman here isn’t living with her abuser.
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Do you seriously think I live with an abuser?! Aren't you maybe projecting your own experience onto me, since I'm still with a Virgo and you're not? Yours seems to be control freak, not mine. Never in my life has anyone abused me. Nor would I ever let it happen. Virgos are control freaks, what's new with that? But, they are also not insane and if they love you they adapt to you as well. Like he has to look at dirty dishes when I'm lazy to wash them, if he can't he's free to do them on his own but that bothering him will certainly not make me wash them if I can't/don't want to. I live with a man who calls me beautiful every day, who looks me with eyes full of love every day, who tells me he loves and misses me every day. We hug and kiss every day. How many people do that really in this age but are still married to someone? How many people even have sex on regular basis or are attracted to their partner? Many don't but they remain in their marriages still, why is that tho? If everything isn't milk and honey it's only life, it's not him being abuser and me being a victim. I don't live by the rule "my way or highway" although I do quite often get my way. Not getting along in every possible aspect is only normal life, I have never met anyone who has everything perfect with their partner. He doesn't drink, gamble, do drugs, whore around nor is he problematic in any sort of way or form. He texts me good morning and good night when we're not together after all this time. And most important thing of all is he means the world to me and I know I mean the same to him. If I complain on things that bother me, that doesn't mean he's a bad person, certainly not a bloke. We all have things that bother us and one can be the best there is, but there will always be something to nitpick on I'm sure at that.

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For every man out there who knows what's important and other virgo men. I thank you.

There are many beautiful aspects to Virgos, list could go on and on. Above all, I love how caring thoughtful and intelligent Virgos are. If we have disagreements at times it's only normal, we're squared signs after all. But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with.

"But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with."


That right there. Though I am personally not shy about compliments and showing my appreciation for things I enjoy.

I would also just add that people tend to think you're bragging when you're just saying good things in your life. I had a friend literally tell me "I can't believe you get along that well with him, that doesn't exist, everyone fights" 😂 so yeah, sometimes it's just pointless explaining good things to people and let them think whatever they want. I do however react to injustice, I won't let someone trash talk someone they don't even know enough to talk about them at all. Everyone I know usually only points out negative things about their spouse, rarely ever do they say something positive
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It's not hard to not fight. You talk things out share your feelings and thoughts. Disagreements are ok. On serious stuff you figure it out or let it go.

"Everyone I know usually only points out negative things about their spouse,"

This is actually a social bonding strategy and behavior. Finding things you have in common and bond over. It's unconscious, a biological human desire.

Unfortunately it's over negative stuff, which may end up by being echoed and reinforced becoming a problem thats not real. Im sure you have noticed the comments to people venting and complaining about a s/o or another person, you see the pitch forks and torches come out.

Even I have caught myself being guilty of this on here and in my life. Im working on catching myself.

Lol sp Im sure at least one of your friends is faking it to fit in and just making conversation and is secretly totally happy too🤫

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I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years. In September we had an out due to a misunderstanding so he ghosted me and we’ve been in no contact. In March he’s been trying to get my attention later texting and seeking me. He’s a touring musician and coming to my city which explains why he’s trying hard. After sort of patching/communicating it out after 2 months, we agree to meet up. Today was his day off and I got ready, only for him to coincidentally cancel that he got sick with no follow up to meet up later. I only texted, “feel better” and he hearted it. He later started posting on his stories he went to a concert instead without shame of me seeing it. I know we’re not in a relationship but that was humiliating. Why bother getting in contact with me and then cancel? Is he trying to get me to break us up so he can look like the victim or? Anyways, his concert is tomorrow and I have no idea what to say if he text me to come and have me pay for it. Any tips to get even with him in a unbothered way? I’m a little distraught since I care about him, but this is not okay

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

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Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...

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I have a long distance FWB relationship with this guy for 2 years.

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.

That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

Believe me I have incredibly high compassion...but also incredibly high intolerance for stupidity. Also, I don't say to other people what I wouldn't say to myself. And while I was young and dumb I was in her shoes...sort of at least, wasn't THAT dumb to plan my life around a guy who's only there for sex, I've dated others and searched for something better, but still, I was in my feels and let it last for too long. So yeah, I was an idiot and so is she. There's nothing to be compassionate about. I feel compassion for hurt animals, people, elderly, young, disabled, hungry and so many other reasons. I don't feel compassion for someone being blind despite their own healthy sight.

Besides, this is yet another "cancer man left me" topic. They keep repeating and it's honestly very boring.

So what’s the difference of that to you staying with a bloke that tries to control you, doesn’t care about your opinion and criticizes you?
At least the woman here isn’t living with her abuser.
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Do you seriously think I live with an abuser?! Aren't you maybe projecting your own experience onto me, since I'm still with a Virgo and you're not? Yours seems to be control freak, not mine. Never in my life has anyone abused me. Nor would I ever let it happen. Virgos are control freaks, what's new with that? But, they are also not insane and if they love you they adapt to you as well. Like he has to look at dirty dishes when I'm lazy to wash them, if he can't he's free to do them on his own but that bothering him will certainly not make me wash them if I can't/don't want to. I live with a man who calls me beautiful every day, who looks me with eyes full of love every day, who tells me he loves and misses me every day. We hug and kiss every day. How many people do that really in this age but are still married to someone? How many people even have sex on regular basis or are attracted to their partner? Many don't but they remain in their marriages still, why is that tho? If everything isn't milk and honey it's only life, it's not him being abuser and me being a victim. I don't live by the rule "my way or highway" although I do quite often get my way. Not getting along in every possible aspect is only normal life, I have never met anyone who has everything perfect with their partner. He doesn't drink, gamble, do drugs, whore around nor is he problematic in any sort of way or form. He texts me good morning and good night when we're not together after all this time. And most important thing of all is he means the world to me and I know I mean the same to him. If I complain on things that bother me, that doesn't mean he's a bad person, certainly not a bloke. We all have things that bother us and one can be the best there is, but there will always be something to nitpick on I'm sure at that.

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For every man out there who knows what's important and other virgo men. I thank you.

There are many beautiful aspects to Virgos, list could go on and on. Above all, I love how caring thoughtful and intelligent Virgos are. If we have disagreements at times it's only normal, we're squared signs after all. But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with.

"But that makes neither a bad person and people are usually more vocal about things that bother them then they are about things they are content with."


That right there. Though I am personally not shy about compliments and showing my appreciation for things I enjoy.

I would also just add that people tend to think you're bragging when you're just saying good things in your life. I had a friend literally tell me "I can't believe you get along that well with him, that doesn't exist, everyone fights" 😂 so yeah, sometimes it's just pointless explaining good things to people and let them think whatever they want. I do however react to injustice, I won't let someone trash talk someone they don't even know enough to talk about them at all. Everyone I know usually only points out negative things about their spouse, rarely ever do they say something positive
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It's not hard to not fight. You talk things out share your feelings and thoughts. Disagreements are ok. On serious stuff you figure it out or let it go.

"Everyone I know usually only points out negative things about their spouse,"

This is actually a social bonding strategy and behavior. Finding things you have in common and bond over. It's unconscious, a biological human desire.

Unfortunately it's over negative stuff, which may end up by being echoed and reinforced becoming a problem thats not real. Im sure you have noticed the comments to people venting and complaining about a s/o or another person, you see the pitch forks and torches come out.

Even I have caught myself being guilty of this on here and in my life. Im working on catching myself.

Lol sp Im sure at least one of your friends is faking it to fit in and just making conversation and is secretly totally happy too🤫

Man, I've never really met a virguy irl so i don't know if your take is normal or not but it's so nice to (even virtually) be around such chill vibes.

I'll add my personal take on the sharing negatives. I agree with you and would add, most people don't need to vent about or work through emotions related to positive things. Not everyone is as chill as you, and sometimes people want to just let out the frustration or anger associated with the negative actions of a significant other, and if that person isn't chill, they can't turn to them as a support system and hence, the discussion of sonso did xyz and grrrrr...

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If you need to pay to see him play you mean nothing to him 😂

Why is that funny?

Because it is 🤷🏼‍♀️ having a fwb with a guy who cancels on you and expects you to come to his concert but you have to pay for it...I mean seriously, paying to watch a guy who mistreats you?! That's hilarious though in fact. But then again this entire post is hilarious and been that way since years ago when this person talked about same issues...
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It’s not funny for her
Have some compassion

I really can't. It's not reasonable at all to have a fwb for years and complain about being mistreated in it over and over. If you can't deal with fwb then just don't be in one. People are not obligated to see you if you "prepared yourself specially for them" or whatever the term is. Fwb is "we see each other when we can, fuck when we want and forget about it until next time" kind of a thing.
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That’s sad you don’t have the ability to be compassionate ….. my ex friend didn’t either….fire sun Aries moon

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See, this was my problem with her and typical Aries Moon behavior coupled with a fire Sun.

They lack perspective, project, and jump the gun on almost anything including sensitive topics they don't understand. In this case she is failing to see this poster is taking a baby step in the right direction with her desire to get back at this man. She is experiencing righteous anger. She no longer wants to be or feel like a victim. Why poke fun at her and kick her when shes down but on her way up?

And on another ocassion a while back...

For her to come after me and go on attack mode for identifying and pointing out narcissistic and parental abuse with laser-like precision to someone (OP) who at the time was so lost and in so much pain and almost everyone was ganging up on her, victiming blaming her and gaslighting her (Including her)...

Yeah, I did advice the OP that she should hate her mother and I still stand by what I said. It's righteous anger for what was done and taken from her. And this Aries Moon accused me of projecting and being unhinged.. when she was advocating for parent worship and projecting her relationship with her mother to the OP.

Oh she should have never done that. Then she hated me for grilling her for her hypocrisy and poking fun at the mentally abusive relationship she is in with a Virgo to the point she blocked me and was still triggered by me after blocking me for receving notifications and still addressing some of the stupid ass shit she would spew.

But of course everyone had to demonize me and call me a bully after dragging her nonstop... whatever. She didn't have to butt-in and invalidate my experience and dismiss my insight nor gaslight the OP I was trying to help and support.

And for the record (not directed at you MyStarsShine): Stop demonizing adult children who cut ties with a parent or "abandon" an elderly parent. Most people just don't cut off a parent from their lives for no reason... in most of these cases the parent has brought it upon themselves. And no, becoming an elderly person does not means a person is absolved of guilt for past behavior or that they're suddenly a good person.

You are the no 1. bully on here and literally mock everyone and anyone regardless on their feelings ever, but now you're supposedly having a "compassion" for someone? What a mockery. Play that card elsewhere. You'd be mocking and bullying this person if I wasn't the one to post what I posted first, but since I did, you are only here to contradict. Also, before you realized who I am, you were agreeable on everything I posted. Just stop faking it, everyone knows what you are here. Writing your false novels doesn't correct who you are, it's enough to see your post history and how you never ever have a slightest bit of consideration for anyone in a problem. You are the no 1 person to call anyone names, so stop sucking up to her ass, she's not dumb!

I knew you who you were from day one and if I liked some of your posts it's because I agree with them. I'd even go as far and say that I agree with most of your feedback on this thread except mocking her with emojis and overlooking her anger and desire to retaliate. Perpetual victims are annoying and suck their support system dry of their energy and empathy but it's important to recognize when that could potentially change.

With that being said, I will still hold you accountable for your past behavior where I was involved. And no, despite popular belief I don't go around randomly bullying everyone without consideration. And if it looks like I am relentlessly bullying someone you can be rest assured it was not unprovoked.

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How about *fuck off* ?