Cap moon and their sacarstic humor hiding true fee

What is it about the cap moons sacarstic and a very very dry humour when trying to hide emotion? So here's a thing, he knew I was a little upset as he asked if I was upset, he can read my emotion yet instead of naturing me ( since it's my birthday) he does this wired sacarstic to the max humour that I pretended to laugh when deep inside I was boiling and had to look down. I'm not a person who would express my anger or emotion so I said to him *pleass don't push it **... he knows he upsets me so he changed a little and back to his dry humour again. I'm talking about crazy faces, dances, and just wired voices!!!!!! I don't get it lol.... he seems so *insensitive * to my needs yet is sensitive... I'm so god damn confused. It's my birthday and Ofcoz he puts his responsibility, work and everything else above it. I'm so angry.. very angry and I think this is the end of it.... Yet eveytime I pull God damn away he will try to come back with crazy phone calls not really noticing what he has done to hurt me..... I know deep down there's deep caring side hidden, but he's serioudly ruining something that is so beautiful..... I don't understand it....I can't deal much longer with his insensitivity that he tries to cover up with his dry humour... can someone please explain lol

The dry sarcasm is who he is. Its only insensitive to you because you don't get it. Its not meant to be hurtful and insensitive. He's n emotional and he never will be on the outside. He is emotional inside but he's not comfortable showing it. Hell. I can't even show excitement. I try and it comes across as fake.

Im sorry he ruined your birthday.

The moment you got pissed you should have spoken up. So its kinda your fault he continued doing things that pissed you off.

Keep this in mind. If you don't like who he is and cant accept him, then he's not the guy for you.

But I think you're insecure with him, otherwise you wouldn't have made all these threads.

I think also that you will feel better tomorrow after you calm down.

Happy birthday, by the way.

You accused him of covering emotion but you did the same down thing when you hid your anger.

Goes both ways doesn't it? Or do you have a double standard?

Same *damn* thing

Posted by truecap
You accused him of covering emotion but you did the same down thing when you hid your anger.

Goes both ways doesn't it? Or do you have a double standard?

You are so right... he asked if I was upset but I said no i wasn't.. he pushed it again asking n I said pleaSs don't push it.. I don't like fights or misunderstanding at all... you are right I am not comfortable expressing my emotion to him.. What was I supposed to say... * yes I feel sad because it's my birthday and you are acting as if you don't know it * I don't wanna show my insecurity side or my *wanting some kind of attention * from him... I am pretty independent and I honestly couksnt really handle coming across as needy or asking for too much... later he realised n felt bad because he had to leave for mothers day etc ect.( putting other priorities before me ) as usual. Work, social status etc etc..... you are so right though, I couldn't express my anger properly..... double standard truly...... the way I express it now is *no xontact* or I just burst in messages or I just act completely * detached * and cold in public and a bit of revenge..... thank you for your wishes,,,,,, he did kind of ruined it for me, it was hard waking up knowing that someone matters so much to me pretended he didn't know my birthday! I honestly don't know what goes deep inside theree... It's overwhelming to be honest... He knows it was my birthday as I said it times in messagee... he also agreed to c me and hugged me and cuddled me all night!..... So bloody confusing lol... Anywa, u r right.. I need to step back...Calm down and re analyse everything.. Also, he's very introverted. He doesn't even care about his birthday. This could be the reason why he didn't know it matters so much to me... Phew..... Hard hard placements for him and yourself.. How do you find it?

Posted by littlemegabyte
I'm a cap moon and I do the same thing. It's a defense mechanism and self preservation.

I noticed that too...... what normally goes in there when you do it... Are you normally deeply hurt, not sure how to act , do or say? .. sorry I'm trying to understand..... Aqua moon is similar but we do it differently

Guilty of that too. I conceal emotions with sarcasm when I'm not sure if you can handle what I have to offer

Sarcasm is a defense mechanism in the sense that I'm not sure how anyone will take this other dimensional side of me, or how my words will be interpreted once I do express how I feel. I personally always felt that I'd be told I'm wrong for feeling a particular way about anything at any given moment, so I clam up emotionally and try to get my mind off of it by laughing or getting whoever I'm with to smile.
In otherwords, it's my irrational fear of rejection even though I know that no one is wrong for how they feel. but it still doesn't make it any easier for me.

Happy birthday, by the way!
I hope the rest of your special day wasn't too bad 🙂

Posted by virgorillaa
Btw even though i sense that someone is upset i never bring it up unless they do! So just tell him

It thought he blocked me the next day so I burst the truth in messages.... and he called to straighten things up !!! He always does it like he doesnt know what he did that may have upset me and then i detach n I burst in messages and he would call to straighten things up. It happened in two occasions now..... They r surprising to me coz it seems he doesn't care in person hence the dry humour the silly faces etc etc..... then I get crazy phone calls. I don't call him ever normally... it's so hard to get deeper with you guys.... _??__—

Posted by Whispy
Sarcasm is a defense mechanism in the sense that I'm not sure how anyone will take this other dimensional side of me, or how my words will be interpreted once I do express how I feel. I personally always felt that I'd be told I'm wrong for feeling a particular way about anything at any given moment, so I clam up emotionally and try to get my mind off of it by laughing or getting whoever I'm with to smile.
In otherwords, it's my irrational fear of rejection even though I know that no one is wrong for how they feel. but it still doesn't make it any easier for me.

You sound just like him or what he was doing... Well I have an aqua moon and God dsmn im amazing at keeping my emotion in check in person... n hide things very well but God, the wired n silly faces didn't make me laugh the way they do..! I was boiling deep inside!!!!

Posted by virgorillaa
Sorry about that, I do that too, and if you say its alright even when its not..i could sense that youre lying but i wont push it since i know u dont want to talk about it.

If you really that upset just tell him straight forward, over text or voicemails rather than face to face.

He probably was trying to cheer you up after he upsets you so just tell him that you are serious about it.

Im like that but im really emotional and cant sleep if i upset those close to me! It happen the other day with my scorpio friend and i decide to deal with it leaving voice mails 🙂

Wishing you a happy birthday!

Naw thank you so much.. It really upset me for a long time but I went out and danced it all off..... they r such sensitive sensitive soul .... but it's a shame those feelinfs can't be expressed properly.... It must be pretty difficult having such placements.....

Haha, I don't know about making silly faces. I'm a bit too self-conscious about that that!
But I'd usually talk with them alone if I sensed it was more serious than I originally thought.And like Virgorilla said, I'd feel super gloomy if I caused someone pain of any kind.

Has he spoke to yet about it?

Posted by Whispy
Has he spoke to yet about it?

Yay, I kind of bursted out in messages n he called me to straighten things up... in his kind of way... We are ok now.. I think I need to be more patient and more tolerant of it and if he ever upset me again I may need to speak up rather than holding it all in and burst later.... Cap moon.... Sensitive soul.... Aqua moon we analyse our feelings so much it comes across as cold and non feelings... Strange combination... Hehe

I"m glad you guys were able to talk it over, from what I've read it sounds like you guys are really close. With that being said, if you guys are close wouldn't he know some of the things that may bother you and vise-versa? 😢
Even just a little bit?

I can't say that I've met anyone with an Aqua moon (or maybe I'm not paying attention), but wouldn't mind getting to know someone with this placement. I'm still a novice at astrology and just studying by looking at my chart, so I'm just starting on the moons. At least you acknowledge what you feel, I just hide it.... very terribly! 😄
Of course I'm just speaking for myself. I don"t know about the others with cap moons.

And strange is fun! There's never a dull moment 🙂

Posted by Whispy
I"m glad you guys were able to talk it over, from what I've read it sounds like you guys are really close. With that being said, if you guys are close wouldn't he know some of the things that may bother you and vise-versa? 😢
Even just a little bit?

I can't say that I've met anyone with an Aqua moon (or maybe I'm not paying attention), but wouldn't mind getting to know someone with this placement. I'm still a novice at astrology and just studying by looking at my chart, so I'm just starting on the moons. At least you acknowledge what you feel, I just hide it.... very terribly! 😄
Of course I'm just speaking for myself. I don"t know about the others with cap moons.

I honestly don't know what it is... It's like he knows but somehow still did things that way... knowing it may annoy me....
Almost on purpose to cause drama.. Could be the venus in Scorpio.. haha... He hasn't got pretty placements at all.... _??

Okay, I think i may understand a little (still a noob). Most of my placements are in capricorn so I can't give you any insight on that...sorry. But I think you could find some answers in the astrology forum. 😉
I've been lurking for a few weeks and created this account quite recently.

Just realized what I typed was misleading... crap.