MichelleT
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Cap moon burn out
Posted by MichelleTyour Pisces Sun may have a lot to do with why you are more prone to these things ...
Cap moon friends,
Do you get burned out on always being there? Do you get tired of the people you spoil and take care of not appreciating you or failing to show their appreciation? Do you get annoyed that the people who care about you give others attention and forget about you because you are tough and don’t seem to “need” it, but you really do? Do you get self conscious that people think you’re extra or annoying?
How do you pull it all back? How do you stop all of that and at the same time not look like a bitter angry person, because when I pull back and change, I get accused of being angry and different.
Posted by DeadInside
let's them die and watch them agonise
That’s what I usually do. Trying to not get there.
It’s like one day I just flip the switch to off and I’m the coldest meanest bitch you ever met.
I don't, really. Few people who really count don't recognize when I need some loving. I give because I want to, not for any recognition. In fact, giving low-key is something that makes me feel good.
I suppose I could get upset when people expect too much or don't reciprocate, but I really don't think about it.
Edited to add: if someone starts taking advantage of my nature, then I'll cut them off. It isn't that I want a pat on the back for doing something for you, but never getting gratitude for it makes me not want to give it.
I suppose I could get upset when people expect too much or don't reciprocate, but I really don't think about it.
Edited to add: if someone starts taking advantage of my nature, then I'll cut them off. It isn't that I want a pat on the back for doing something for you, but never getting gratitude for it makes me not want to give it.
Posted by sultrykittyyou got that right - for whatever reason we seem to be very adept at manning those types of borders - and then on the other hand we don't quite understand why others aren't like that as well or why they can't be like that - we do better being around stable, normal people who are neither givers nor takers but "sharers" because the best thing I think we do is share
I don't, really. Few people who really count don't recognize when I need some loving. I give because I want to, not for any recognition. In fact, giving low-key is something that makes me feel good.
I suppose I could get upset when people expect too much or don't reciprocate, but I really don't think about it.
Edited to add: if someone starts taking advantage of my nature, then I'll cut them off. It isn't that I want a pat on the back for doing something for you, but never getting gratitude for it makes me not want to give it.
Posted by MichelleTdamn, i've been feeling this way towards myself and my relationship with others for months and the way this was phrased really hit it in the head.
Cap moon friends,
Do you get burned out on always being there? Do you get tired of the people you spoil and take care of not appreciating you or failing to show their appreciation? Do you get annoyed that the people who care about you give others attention and forget about you because you are tough and don’t seem to “need” it, but you really do? Do you get self conscious that people think you’re extra or annoying?
How do you pull it all back? How do you stop all of that and at the same time not look like a bitter angry person, because when I pull back and change, I get accused of being angry and different.
at the end of the day, i give to those that i cherish (which is not many folks) most because they need it. they need that support. i don't ask for much, and yeah i totally feel like my kindness sometimes gets taken advantaged of or i'm seen as one who could handle it, but than i realized, i can handle it. yes its nice to receive that in return, but i like being low key about it. just last night, i spent my night with someone i really cared for and with whom i felt didn't truly appreciate me after all i did for her. it was bothering me and i almost bought it up, until she just kinda dropped what she was doing and told me she loved me for the first time. it was bizarre. i didnt know how to react. she expressed her gratitude and the rest is history.
you gotta surround yourself with people who emit positivity in your life. time will tell whether or not they truly do value u. if it really bothers u, just ask if it gets to that point, but the ppl worth giving that appreciation to will unveil themselves over time while the others can go f themselves.
Posted by DeadInside@Deadinside I think the problem I have with that is that in the past when I go cold, I’m the asshole. Maybe it’s a male female double standard, I don’t know. I know that the change perceived is never well received.Posted by MichelleTwhat's the problems with thatPosted by DeadInside
let's them die and watch them agonise
That’s what I usually do. Trying to not get there.
It’s like one day I just flip the switch to off and I’m the coldest meanest bitch you ever met.click to expand
Posted by MichelleTyou could just be dealing with immaturity in being able to express your emotions - been there myself - it gets better with age and wisdom and trying - you can say no with a smile on your face, it doesn't have to be a death stare (which we know so well lol)Posted by DeadInside@Deadinside I think the problem I have with that is that in the past when I go cold, I’m the asshole. Maybe it’s a male female double standard, I don’t know. I know that the change perceived is never well received.Posted by MichelleTwhat's the problems with thatPosted by DeadInside
let's them die and watch them agonise
That’s what I usually do. Trying to not get there.
It’s like one day I just flip the switch to off and I’m the coldest meanest bitch you ever met.click to expand
Posted by MichelleTI don't get angry and bitter. I just take a rest for myself. Take a holiday socially and work wise.
Cap moon friends,
Do you get burned out on always being there? Do you get tired of the people you spoil and take care of not appreciating you or failing to show their appreciation? Do you get annoyed that the people who care about you give others attention and forget about you because you are tough and don’t seem to “need” it, but you really do? Do you get self conscious that people think you’re extra or annoying?
How do you pull it all back? How do you stop all of that and at the same time not look like a bitter angry person, because when I pull back and change, I get accused of being angry and different.
Posted by DeadInsideIt is getting worse with age. I don’t want to be like this though. I think, as another poster suggested, I need a break. From everyone.Posted by MichelleTPosted by DeadInside@Deadinside I think the problem I have with that is that in the past when I go cold, I’m the asshole. Maybe it’s a male female double standard, I don’t know. I know that the change perceived is never well received.Posted by MichelleTwhat's the problems with thatPosted by DeadInside
let's them die and watch them agonise
That’s what I usually do. Trying to not get there.
It’s like one day I just flip the switch to off and I’m the coldest meanest bitch you ever met.
more i get older, less pity i have
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I know what you mean, but I agree with @tctao that it probably will get better with time.
Also, this could worse because of other placements in your chart. For example I have Pisces mercury and Cancer Mars, both of which make me really want to take care of other but also e really sensitive to not being taken care of when I need it.
Just try to conserve energy, realize who deserves how much.. And if you want to be kind and forgiving to people who are never gonna return the favor and might not even be effected by that, learn to accept that as part of the bargain.
Its best no to give to others with the expectation of getting something in return. The good ones will in any case give, whether you expect it or not 🙂
Good luck!
Also, this could worse because of other placements in your chart. For example I have Pisces mercury and Cancer Mars, both of which make me really want to take care of other but also e really sensitive to not being taken care of when I need it.
Just try to conserve energy, realize who deserves how much.. And if you want to be kind and forgiving to people who are never gonna return the favor and might not even be effected by that, learn to accept that as part of the bargain.
Its best no to give to others with the expectation of getting something in return. The good ones will in any case give, whether you expect it or not 🙂
Good luck!
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Do you get burned out on always being there? Do you get tired of the people you spoil and take care of not appreciating you or failing to show their appreciation? Do you get annoyed that the people who care about you give others attention and forget about you because you are tough and don’t seem to “need” it, but you really do? Do you get self conscious that people think you’re extra or annoying?
How do you pull it all back? How do you stop all of that and at the same time not look like a bitter angry person, because when I pull back and change, I get accused of being angry and different.