Gemini moon and emotions.

What's the best way for us to express?

I like giving gifts but sometimes I think of giving gifts to people who may not deserve it, or I think they do but maybe they dont.

I got the cap a necklace from my trip to The Bahamas but I don't know if I should give it to him... on the other hand my bday is this coming week and he hasn't said anything about it when at the beginning of the month he mentioned my bday several times.

I don't mind giving something and not getting anything in return because I'm like that but in a few occasions my friend pointed it out as being something bad, like I'm giving him a place but in all we have a good friendship too.

Hmm :/

I'm a Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon.

Here is my motto:

Generosity is given, it's not earned...but measured on what the other person is capable of doing with this level of generosity.

If it's unappreciated and exploited...the first gift will be the last.

If it's appreciated....then there will be other gifts to follow.

As a Gemini Mooner, I tend to detach pretty quickly,

No love lost here for users.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I'm a Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon.

Here is my motto:

Generosity is given, it's not earned...but measured on what the other person is capable of doing with this level of generosity.

If it's unappreciated and exploited...the first gift will be the last.

If it's appreciated....then there will be other gifts to follow.

As a Gemini Mooner, I tend to detach pretty quickly,

No love lost here for users.

I gave him the fist gift for his bday last year, it was pretty soon about 3 months since I met him and he has worn them (bowties), he even has it hanging above his bed unlike the others.

After that a while later things went "bad" so I didn't giving him anything else.

For his last bday (last month) I didn't give him anything. Since we are still in a weird situation.

But when I saw this necklace I thought of him, so I got it, but I may feel awkward if my bday comes and he doesn't seem to care about it.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I'm a Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon.

Here is my motto:

Generosity is given, it's not earned...but measured on what the other person is capable of doing with this level of generosity.

If it's unappreciated and exploited...the first gift will be the last.

If it's appreciated....then there will be other gifts to follow.

As a Gemini Mooner, I tend to detach pretty quickly,

No love lost here for users.

Pretty much all of this^

Posted by Aerazo


But when I saw this necklace I thought of him, so I got it, but I may feel awkward if my bday comes and he doesn't seem to care about it.

This seems to be contradicting this:

Posted by Aerazo


I don't mind giving something and not getting anything in return...

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If you saw something and thought he would like it, why are you making it contingent on whether or not he acknowledges your birthday? Two separate issues imo. What are you gonna do, throw it away or give it to him months later when he demonstrates he deserves it?

If you feel he takes you for granted or doesn't express he cares, then address it preferably in an assertive way.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by Aerazo


But when I saw this necklace I thought of him, so I got it, but I may feel awkward if my bday comes and he doesn't seem to care about it.

This seems to be contradicting this:

Posted by Aerazo


I don't mind giving something and not getting anything in return...

If you saw something and thought he would like it, why are you making it contingent on whether or not he acknowledges your birthday? Two separate issues imo. What are you gonna do, throw it away or give it to him months later when he demonstrates he deserves it?

If you feel he takes you for granted or doesn't express he cares, then address it preferably in an assertive way.

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you're right, it really isn't about my bday. I just feel weird giving him things because that obviously shows I care and I just don't know if he cares about me the same way. 😕

He's an Aries moon, as confusing as they seem to be he's the same way. lol

If you’re not giving with an open heart, you’re setting yourself up for resentment.

Posted by hippiecrite
If you’re not giving with an open heart, you’re setting yourself up for resentment.

With him everything I do is with an open heart. or I wouldn't do it.

Posted by tiziani
For me it's like what's been said: I give more and more nowadays unless what I'm giving only seems to be spoiling them. If gifts just bring out the brat side then it's not doing anyone favours.

Expressing how much I dig someone romance-wise usually involved me shaping my time around them. Like the gift issue though, I learnt the hard way to stop doing that too soon into getting to know someone otherwise it can really spoil the "getting to know" time with a bunch of assumptions.

Same! I take time to see him if I can or shape my time around them, learned not to do that either. Gifts, same thing, I learned to wait..but then I feeel like I need to express myself or that I want to be close to him and that's a little hard to control but I don't say anything because I don't want to put pressure :/

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Posted by Aerazo

Posted by tiziani
For me it's like what's been said: I give more and more nowadays unless what I'm giving only seems to be spoiling them. If gifts just bring out the brat side then it's not doing anyone favours.

Expressing how much I dig someone romance-wise usually involved me shaping my time around them. Like the gift issue though, I learnt the hard way to stop doing that too soon into getting to know someone otherwise it can really spoil the "getting to know" time with a bunch of assumptions.

Same! I take time to see him if I can or shape my time around them, learned not to do that either. Gifts, same thing, I learned to wait..but then I feeel like I need to express myself or that I want to be close to him and that's a little hard to control but I don't say anything because I don't want to put pressure :/

I hear you. It sounds like the wider issue is you feel more invested than him.

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I would say I get impatient, I tell him what I want and then I try to get away since I don't see anything but he stays there, and finds me and does something. A couple of months later, I get impatient again and set boundaries, I told him I want someone to grow together with etc., I didn't talk to him for a month and he found me again. this time asked me to work together with him, I said yes and now I can't get away and I'm getting impatient again. But i feel like running away from my feelings if I can't express them how I want.

When we are intimate is like the time when I can show him how much I want him without feeling anxious, maybe because this is when I feel he reciprocates. is like we forget about the world outside and everything else.

:/

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I'm a Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon.

Here is my motto:

Generosity is given, it's not earned...but measured on what the other person is capable of doing with this level of generosity.

If it's unappreciated and exploited...the first gift will be the last.

If it's appreciated....then there will be other gifts to follow.

As a Gemini Mooner, I tend to detach pretty quickly,

No love lost here for users.

This describes me perfectly.

You know that old urban myth about the rude old man tipper? The one who puts $ 20 dollars on the table at the beginning of the meal and says "I'll take away a dollar for each time you mess up."

This is me to an extent. I need about two weeks to observe, then I fall completely in. At that point I will do the most for you. However, I'm watching, I'm feeling you out, I'm sensitive. You may think Gemini Moons are cold, but for me- I'm protective. If I am not appreciated, I match you on that.

I'm also very direct.

Posted by heliumfiasco
You know that old urban myth about the rude old man tipper? The one who puts $ 20 dollars on the table at the beginning of the meal and says "I'll take away a dollar for each time you mess up."

This is me to an extent. I need about two weeks to observe, then I fall completely in. At that point I will do the most for you. However, I'm watching, I'm feeling you out, I'm sensitive. You may think Gemini Moons are cold, but for me- I'm protective. If I am not appreciated, I match you on that.

I'm also very direct.

Exactly, I do the same, I show what I want and stay around moving things but if I don't see the same then I pull away little by little.

It would be easier if he just did the same, at some point I end up cutting the person off completely.

I've tried that for a whole year with him and he doesn't stay away.

Posted by vixen14
Pretty much what TaurusBull said. I’ve been burned in the past with my relationships where they’ve taken for granted what I’ve done for them.

The only ones ime who give as much as they’re given are Gemini’s. I have a soft spot for the Gems in my life, so I may be bias on this, but everytime I give, they give and appreciate what is given no matter how small. Whether it’s mirroring, or just their personality, I’ve never had an issue with a Gem not giving back.

I wouldn’t give that guy anything though. Your friend might see the lack of reciprocity on his behalf. So I’d follow her advice.

Yeah that was a while ago but lately she has been the one telling me that he has asked her for me, he told her he liked me a lot, and lastly he told her that he thinks I just wanted him for sex but she told him that it's not that, and that I'm there because I really like him. That's when he started being more consistent and found a way to hold me down. For his bday I thought of finding a way to go to a hotel with him lol but she suggested that it wasn't a good idea mostly because of what he thinks, so I decided to let him lead.

💁 so yeah im in the boat. i have a tendency to spoil and smother what i truly love. this can be good only for the RIGHT person so im very discerning when considering relationships and slow moving. Emotionally I'm very expressive but i tend to stick to the sunnier side of expression unless im just seriously down in the dumps. I choose to spread positivity as much as I can. It's true i think about my feelings a lot but that doesnt mean im not sensitive. im just very mindful.

Posted by heliumfiasco
You know that old urban myth about the rude old man tipper? The one who puts $ 20 dollars on the table at the beginning of the meal and says "I'll take away a dollar for each time you mess up."

This is me to an extent. I need about two weeks to observe, then I fall completely in. At that point I will do the most for you. However, I'm watching, I'm feeling you out, I'm sensitive. You may think Gemini Moons are cold, but for me- I'm protective. If I am not appreciated, I match you on that.

I'm also very direct.

Wow! Thanks. Good to know...

Posted by Aerazo

Posted by PhoenixRising


If you feel he takes you for granted or doesn't express he cares, then address it preferably in an assertive way.

you're right, it really isn't about my bday. I just feel weird giving him things because that obviously shows I care and I just don't know if he cares about me the same way. 😕

He's an Aries moon, as confusing as they seem to be he's the same way. lol

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Okay, well see how you can address that with him. I wouldn't assume someone cares or presume to know the depth of their feelings (aside from an engagement ring I guess) just because of what they gave me and/or when they gave me something.

Posted by tiziani
I'm reading this thinking we're talking about different things.

For me I just meant that when I give, if I see it's not what they need or it's just spoiling their character then I misjudged the situation and I'm not giving anymore, since I made the wrong call.

But I don't look to keep score on who gives what, it's too much energy. I personally know I give because it makes me feel good, so it's already a self-serving thing for me to me to be giving gifts from the get go.

Yeah, I don't keep count plus he does different things for me that help me a lot. I think I see gift giving as a Thank you and I care about you.

The keeping count isn't necessarily about what they do for me, its about what they appreciate. A give and take. I'm very analytical when it comes to relationships.