How does most Aqua moon deal with hurt ?

Detachment completely is my therapy . I just become bluntly cold and ignore all my emotion.. Analyse everything is how I deal with things.. even if it's a lost, grieve .. I just become more unemotional the more I experience lost and hurt... I'm always happy and smiley to everyone though esp strangers but when it comes to my very close friends I find it more difficult to offer the support they need esp my friend cancer who has sun, moon and venus... it's getting harder each day . so, am I normal like an Aqua moon? Is this a typical behaviour?

Posted by aquaboy84
yep pretty normal to me. my Gemini ex detached the hell out of me pretty quickly too . she had an aqua moon as well as myself and I was detached by focusing on my career more than on her, literally the only reason she 'fell out of love with me' or whatever you want to call it... Pretty much as an Aqua moon, all this hurt I've been through really let me feel alright to be emotionally detached in life period. It showed me that people are really cold and I have to be cold too to survive in this world.

I feel you. I always have the greatest heart and always aim for peace and humanity but sometimes I get so hurt and I just quickly snap myseld out of it. I feel like emotion is a sign of weakness and I hate to ever feel it so I snap it out and survive whatever I need to do to survive. People can never notice Is anything is ever wrong.... the thing is, I have a cap moon (Ex) or whatever u wanna call it, he hurt me so badly so I sent a crazy blunt email, blocked and deleted him from everything... 1 week ago he was my truest friend... as much as i wanna keep the friendship it just doesn't work like that with me.. it's so sad... all my exes I did the same thing esp the one I loved a lot or they did it to me etc... if I never loved u then staying friend was easy.... in saying this my ex Aqua moon did the same to me.... wow, this all make sense ! I don't think it's healthy though I think it's a defence mechanism and it's making it harder for me to open my heart up again.

bit why do you detach? why dont you try to express this hurt?

I'm a aqua moon and when something really hurting, for example my father go live in Africa so we live in 7000km and until one month I was like emotionless, I was feeling nothing so when people were like "so sorry" I was just "it's okay 🙂" because...I don't feel anything
Is this typical to feel nothing, like I know that I feel something, but...I don't feel it..

Posted by TxOgal
bit why do you detach? why dont you try to express this hurt?

I do sometimes.. my exs do cop a lot of essay writing when I'm angry like really really angry then I detaxhed completely.... I don't know what I feel half of the time hence the need to analyse and intellect my need or whaf I rhink....

Posted by Scorpiaaaaassss
I'm a aqua moon and when something really hurting, for example my father go live in Africa so we live in 7000km and until one month I was like emotionless, I was feeling nothing so when people were like "so sorry" I was just "it's okay 🙂" because...I don't feel anything
Is this typical to feel nothing, like I know that I feel something, but...I don't feel it..

we r in the exact same both.... my eyes were twitching all night last night n my friend said u must b very stress... but I didn't feel stress but maybe subconsciously I was very angry and very hurt but I detach and snap all of my emotion out hence the cold turkey to feelings.. I don't think its healthy to b this way..... ‚

Posted by aquaboy84
wow I thought I was the only one who sent angry texts haha. But yeah I've sent a lot of angry texts to the girls I koved. The betrayal is just too much. It feels so bad

Yay angry texts and emails R not my fav behaviour of mine.. It gets worst depending on how hurtful I feel.... Maybe after it's been boiled up for so long... do u miss the one u have detached from? ... Do u fall for someone else pretty soon after?

The only way I can truly get over things is to understand why I reacted the way I did, what got me there, how to deal with similar situations in the future, etc. I obviously analyse myself, my behaviour, reaction (or the lack of it), and was it actually necessary and justified, along with the situation itself as a whole. If I manage to figure things out successfully I feel as if I "upgraded" my personality in a way.

Posted by Theatrum
The only way I can truly get over things is to understand why I reacted the way I did, what got me there, how to deal with similar situations in the future, etc. I obviously analyse myself, my behaviour, reaction (or the lack of it), and was it actually necessary and justified, along with the situation itself as a whole. If I manage to figure things out successfully I feel as if I "upgraded" my personality in a way.

you sound exactly like me! The analysing over and over exhausts me. I learnt overtime yet that doesn't stop me from repeating the similar mistakes and I go back to analysing again.... but Ofcoz over time I have improved myself as a person... I seem to feel ok as soon as I figure out the best solution for both parties as I really hate conflicts.... like for e.g. Now after I detached and dismissed the cap moon.... We now agreed to settle for the true friendship and save that.... so far it's been ok... since we havnt seen each other physically yet... but for now I see it as the best decision for us for the time being.. Atleast it makes sense in my wired Aqua moon head... Others probably find it completely wired and silly... lol

Posted by TxOgal
bit why do you detach? why dont you try to express this hurt?

I think we struggle to expres hurt or the feelingd in an emotional way because we don't really feel it.... I mean I do but I dont... if I feel hurt I rather cry about it alone and read and analyse poems and things or listen to music and cry with the music.... I do express hurt only when I'm Extemely angry so the person has no idea it has boilt up inside for so long..... to strangers though I feel absalutely nothing... hence why maybe it's good for us to become a counsellor as we can totally listen and give u advice and be there and we won't get depressed listening to your problems at all coz we don't take any of that to heart... kind of heartless in a way.... ¢

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by TxOgal
bit why do you detach? why dont you try to express this hurt?

I think we struggle to expres hurt or the feelingd in an emotional way because we don't really feel it.... I mean I do but I dont... if I feel hurt I rather cry about it alone and read and analyse poems and things or listen to music and cry with the music.... I do express hurt only when I'm Extemely angry so the person has no idea it has boilt up inside for so long..... to strangers though I feel absalutely nothing... hence why maybe it's good for us to become a counsellor as we can totally listen and give u advice and be there and we won't get depressed listening to your problems at all coz we don't take any of that to heart... kind of heartless in a way.... ¢

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that makes me think....how do u feel if a loved one is hurt or telling you about their problems? do u feel burdened?