Virgos is that your personality?

He is working with me and I like him a lot. Sometimes I can see from his actions that he likes me too. He even he asked me for my number. He was calling me every day, every hour and asking about me.

He touches my hands as if he doesn't [—?]

He told me I miss you when i went travelling.

At first, he just told me that he wanted to be friends only and I accepted, although I wanted to be more than friends. His actions is like he is my lover. Even when he travelled he gave me his watch. He asked me to keep with me and look at it whenever I miss him.

I know it seems normal to you guys but I am really attracted to him. I know Virgo man is hard when it comes to emotions. Yesterday he told me that I care a lot for him, that this not friendship, that i am crossing my limits and I should less care for him.

He was rude but I told him "I care about you because you do the same." My voice changed because I was going to cry. He said "if you don't love me and I am your friend why has your voice changed?"

I couldn't hold my self. He told me "we are crossing the limit. It's more than friendship now. I just want you to care less."

I started not to go to places in the work just to avoid him telling me that I came just to see him. He used to see me every day but yesterday when he didn't see me he came to the other building were I work. He called me he said that he brought something for me. Again, the next day he came sending me snaps that he is in my building. I kept myself busy and got in to my car before he came to my office.

If he is telling to keep a gap, why does come and make excuses to see me?

Why is he testing me? Or maybe he is analysing me?

What shall I do now? For 2 days he didn't call me. He just text asking about me. Sometimes he keeps calm. I call him and he knows that I worry a lot so how can I treat this guy? And what does he want? Does he like me? And what should I do should I stop caring? Please HELP he is more distant than before

Making the same thread over and over again won't result in different answers.

He doesn't see what he's doing. He wants the affection but doesn't want the commitment.

Your own feelings are getting in the way.

Based off of my own experience, he might want you as a lover, but something is holding him back, whether it be because you're not what he's looking for or because he's not ready for a relationship, so he's settling for a friendship.

This almost sounds like emotional manipulation. He wasn't listening to you when he should've and he's completely ignoring your worries while enabling it at the same time.

If a guy can't even accept responsibility for his actions and see what he's doing, he's too childish for a relationship.

I think you should ignore him until you feel more in control. Ignore his snaps. Ignore his cowardly texts to other people. You're at work to pay your bills. Don't let someone else ruin that for you. He's becoming distant because you have feelings and "wants you to cool down" aka he doesn't know what to do. Use that time to justify being distant yourself.

As for being "friends", as far as I could tell from your paragraphs, you guys were more than friends to begin with.

Posted by Lilianni
He doesn't see what he's doing. He wants the affection but doesn't want the commitment.

Your own feelings are getting in the way.

Based off of my own experience, he might want you as a lover, but something is holding him back, whether it be because you're not what he's looking for or because he's not ready for a relationship, so he's settling for a friendship.

This almost sounds like emotional manipulation. He wasn't listening to you when he should've and he's completely ignoring your worries while enabling it at the same time.

If a guy can't even accept responsibility for his actions and see what he's doing, he's too childish for a relationship.

I think you should ignore him until you feel more in control. Ignore his snaps. Ignore his cowardly texts to other people. You're at work to pay your bills. Don't let someone else ruin that for you. He's becoming distant because you have feelings and "wants you to cool down" aka he doesn't know what to do. Use that time to justify being distant yourself.

As for being "friends", as far as I could tell from your paragraphs, you guys were more than friends to begin with.

Hi dear

Thank you for your reply I really felt that you have experienced such a thing earlier, what you said it makes sense to me but the sudden change really effected me because we used to talk everyday now we are talking but by text and am making short as much as I can no phone calls so you are telling me to do as he said he said let's just less care about each other which made me crazy just be friends and ignore him too? Do you think it will help do you think he will miss those long conversations

and he sends snaps the place were we were going to and most our conversation was going there which really confused me sometimes. Sometimes I think he miss me and sometimes not I want prove to him that I can live without him and I want to hide my feelings towards him.

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Posted by Lilianni
He doesn't see what he's doing. He wants the affection but doesn't want the commitment.

Your own feelings are getting in the way.

Based off of my own experience, he might want you as a lover, but something is holding him back, whether it be because you're not what he's looking for or because he's not ready for a relationship, so he's settling for a friendship.

This almost sounds like emotional manipulation. He wasn't listening to you when he should've and he's completely ignoring your worries while enabling it at the same time.

If a guy can't even accept responsibility for his actions and see what he's doing, he's too childish for a relationship.

I think you should ignore him until you feel more in control. Ignore his snaps. Ignore his cowardly texts to other people. You're at work to pay your bills. Don't let someone else ruin that for you. He's becoming distant because you have feelings and "wants you to cool down" aka he doesn't know what to do. Use that time to justify being distant yourself.

As for being "friends", as far as I could tell from your paragraphs, you guys were more than friends to begin with.

Hi dear

Thank you for your reply I really felt that you have experienced such a thing earlier, what you said it makes sense to me but the sudden change really effected me because we used to talk everyday now we are talking but by text and am making short as much as I can no phone calls so you are telling me to do as he said he said let's just less care about each other which made me crazy just be friends and ignore him too? Do you think it will help do you think he will miss those long conversations

and he sends snaps the place were we were going to and most our conversation was going there which really confused me sometimes. Sometimes I think he miss me and sometimes not I want prove to him that I can live without him and I want to hide my feelings towards him.

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"Just be his friend and ignore him too?" No just ignore him.

Don't open his snapchats. Just leave them there, or block him.

Text him telling him that you need a break from him. It's best to be honest and straightforward saying you're catching feelings and don't want to, so you might need some time away from him. If that's a little bit too much, you could say instead that you need a break because you're stressed.

This sounds like he might have his Venus in your 12th house.

I think this guy is damn manipulative. Listen carefully, dont invest in someone who doesn't want to invest in you. He just wants some attention and your giving him that...he doesn't want a real commitment. He made it clear to you that you should care less...what you need to tell him is "Thanks for your advice I will start to care less like you told me to...I really liked you and I thought things could progress on a deeper level but it seems like your not ready for such a commitment which is totally fine that doesn't make you a horrible guy but we are not on the same page right now...please stop contacting me as I can't be JUST your friend because I was starting to catch some feelings and you don't want that to happen!"

Say goodbye nicely and politely smile and make sure you smile make sure you act happy, you don't want him to feel like you have lost something precious because you DIDN'T... and tell yourself that it is good that he said it out loud honestly that he doesn't want anything more than a friendship...you need to move on move on move on.

Winners dont wait winners move on. Stop wasting your time there are millions of guys out there who are looking for commitment. If you keep on worrying about this guy you will be stuck for a year or two and before you know it your getting older and still stuck!

Please I beg you to move on!