Cometh you peeple. Cometh.

This topic was created in the Personal Development forum by Coochiecoochiecoo on Wednesday, November 7, 2018 and has 7 replies.

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What if you draw your line and create a very solid and immovable boundary which results in a few individuals bowing out of your life because they can’t handle that you’ve spoken up and told them not to cross said boundary

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Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Then that’s what happens. Most people are aware of those potential consequences when they make a choice like that, otherwise there probably wasn’t a reason to set up those boundaries. If they can’t respect your boundaries then they aren’t good for you in your life anyways. There’s more people out there anyways, 7 billion of them lol

What if it’s a boundary that they think is too rigid or something they don’t consider to be a boundary personally? For instance they are fine with doing certain things/saying certain things to close personal friends but you make it clear that it’s unacceptable to you. They find it difficult to accept and think it shouldn’t be a boundary. They decide to distance themselves or stop associating with you.

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Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Then that’s what happens. Most people are aware of those potential consequences when they make a choice like that, otherwise there probably wasn’t a reason to set up those boundaries. If they can’t respect your boundaries then they aren’t good for you in your life anyways. There’s more people out there anyways, 7 billion of them lol

What if it’s a boundary that they think is too rigid or something they don’t consider to be a boundary personally? For instance they are fine with doing certain things/saying certain things to close personal friends but you make it clear that it’s unacceptable to you. They find it difficult to accept and think it shouldn’t be a boundary. They decide to distance themselves or stop associating with you.

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was never a problem for me - I don't want someone in my life / around me that doesn't have respect

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Posted by LethalFantasia

Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Then that’s what happens. Most people are aware of those potential consequences when they make a choice like that, otherwise there probably wasn’t a reason to set up those boundaries. If they can’t respect your boundaries then they aren’t good for you in your life anyways. There’s more people out there anyways, 7 billion of them lol

What if it’s a boundary that they think is too rigid or something they don’t consider to be a boundary personally? For instance they are fine with doing certain things/saying certain things to close personal friends but you make it clear that it’s unacceptable to you. They find it difficult to accept and think it shouldn’t be a boundary. They decide to distance themselves or stop associating with you.

How important is this boundary to you?...

If you can't tolerate it, then say bye bye, they already did - because they couldn't tolerate NOT doing it around you

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Very important boundary of mine. Non negotiable.

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Posted by tctaap

Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Then that’s what happens. Most people are aware of those potential consequences when they make a choice like that, otherwise there probably wasn’t a reason to set up those boundaries. If they can’t respect your boundaries then they aren’t good for you in your life anyways. There’s more people out there anyways, 7 billion of them lol

What if it’s a boundary that they think is too rigid or something they don’t consider to be a boundary personally? For instance they are fine with doing certain things/saying certain things to close personal friends but you make it clear that it’s unacceptable to you. They find it difficult to accept and think it shouldn’t be a boundary. They decide to distance themselves or stop associating with you.

was never a problem for me - I don't want someone in my life / around me that doesn't have respect

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I like your thinking baby

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Posted by tctaap

Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Then that’s what happens. Most people are aware of those potential consequences when they make a choice like that, otherwise there probably wasn’t a reason to set up those boundaries. If they can’t respect your boundaries then they aren’t good for you in your life anyways. There’s more people out there anyways, 7 billion of them lol

What if it’s a boundary that they think is too rigid or something they don’t consider to be a boundary personally? For instance they are fine with doing certain things/saying certain things to close personal friends but you make it clear that it’s unacceptable to you. They find it difficult to accept and think it shouldn’t be a boundary. They decide to distance themselves or stop associating with you.

was never a problem for me - I don't want someone in my life / around me that doesn't have respect

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Can we dm some nuggets of wisdom

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Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo

Posted by tctaap

Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Then that’s what happens. Most people are aware of those potential consequences when they make a choice like that, otherwise there probably wasn’t a reason to set up those boundaries. If they can’t respect your boundaries then they aren’t good for you in your life anyways. There’s more people out there anyways, 7 billion of them lol

What if it’s a boundary that they think is too rigid or something they don’t consider to be a boundary personally? For instance they are fine with doing certain things/saying certain things to close personal friends but you make it clear that it’s unacceptable to you. They find it difficult to accept and think it shouldn’t be a boundary. They decide to distance themselves or stop associating with you.

was never a problem for me - I don't want someone in my life / around me that doesn't have respect

Can we dm some nuggets of wisdom

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I'm all out of rabbits

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