Tired of trying to change myself

Its been 6 years i have been trying to change/ improve myself since i was 14.

But you know what i got tired. Reading self help books,lock myself in to find myself.

Thats shit. Have you been through anything like that? You get even more frustrated.

Astrologically i believe its my cap stellium .But at this point i am fed up with everything.

I mean my life is pretty good and with my current behavior i can achieve a lot of stuff ....why do i still want to improve to fit others standards? uhh :/

Posted by clownloyal
same, but i'm starting to realize it's not for others but for myself I can't help it I just want to be the best so I can finally love myself and stop picking myself apart

I dont even know what i want i believe the most things i think i want where suggested by others and i just adopted them...so its not for myself its makes me miserable when theres no reason to

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Posted by FieryOceana
Its been 6 years i have been trying to change/ improve myself since i was 14.

But you know what i got tired. Reading self help books,lock myself in to find myself.

Thats shit. Have you been through anything like that? You get even more frustrated.

Astrologically i believe its my cap stellium .But at this point i am fed up with everything.

I mean my life is pretty good and with my current behavior i can achieve a lot of stuff ....why do i still want to improve to fit others standards? uhh :/

The goat in you just wants to climb that mountain.

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This goat is way too ambitious and wants to be in the top of the world for no reason but my 7 cap placements xD are going to rip apart my poor Sag sun this way

Posted by tiziani
Self-improvement for self-improvement's sake, it's flavourless food.

It wasnt meant to be just for the sake of it....but i lost myself more in the whole self discovery journey, maybe to finally accept i am good enough...

Posted by UnicornSag
Maybe you should realize you'll never fit everyone's standards cause that's impossible and shouldn't be your goal. There will always be something that doesn't fit someone, do you really want to go for that? Or can you look at your life and your accomplishments in it and think how happy you are for what you have? You can set your own standards that don't need to be anything like someone's else. When you achieved those standards be happy cause you met your goal and make peace with a fact you can't please everyone and no one else can. So why even bother with it?

Thank you i agree with you! 😄

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Posted by tiziani
Self-improvement for self-improvement's sake, it's flavourless food.

It wasnt meant to be just for the sake of it....but i lost myself more in the whole self discovery journey, maybe to finally accept i am good enough...

That's fair enough. In astrology, "self discovery" I feel really gets thrown around as a euphemism for a number of other things going on with someone, so it makes sense.

There are plenty of good things to be said about enjoying where we are right here and now.

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Well maybe thats all about it really....

Posted by RooSagicorn
It is important to accept yourself. You don’t need to conform to other people’s standard. Self-improvement should be because you desire a change for yourself. Climbing the mountain should be about finding your own path.

I did self-improvement after my life wasn't working so well and I desired a change. You know they say parents or others are the tapes in your head, but is very important to find that little voice that is your own & trust it.

Thats what i tried to do....i dont think everything of that journey got lost and for sure it played a role on the person that i am today....but its enough for now.....maybe self acceptance needs to take place now cause the little teen i was got a bit confused of the order of those haha