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5 Signs You're in a Relationship with an INFJ
4. The negativity of the world overwhelms them. If sharing the local news over the dinner table has your significant other seem distant for the rest of the evening, they may be an INFJ. Just hearing news of a lost kitten can be hard for them to hear and they need a little processing time. If you happen to mention something more intense, like a school shooting, expect to give them a little more space for dealing with the intensity. And as for that horror film? Go ahead and see it, but keep the details to yourself.
5. They shut down. Sometimes for no apparent reason at all, if your partner seems to close themselves off to you indefinitely, it is possible they are an INFJ. Try not to take it personally and definitely donât push too hard to get them to open up as the harder you push, the further away theyâll drift. Sometimes general life can become too overwhelming for an INFJ, whether itâs the negativity mentioned above, the millions of scenarios they run through their mind or just the everyday menial tasks of life, and they need to mentally escape from it all. Try to be patient and respect their need for space.
If most of these signs sound familiar to you, then it is very probable that you are in a relationship with an INFJ. Take heart knowing that their behavior, though bizarre and eccentric to you, is actually very normal and purposeful. Be excited that you have found such a rare specimen and try to learning as much as you can about how they tick. If you still arenât sure, encourage them to take a Myers-Briggs Personality Test. It may help them immensely as well.
5. They shut down. Sometimes for no apparent reason at all, if your partner seems to close themselves off to you indefinitely, it is possible they are an INFJ. Try not to take it personally and definitely donât push too hard to get them to open up as the harder you push, the further away theyâll drift. Sometimes general life can become too overwhelming for an INFJ, whether itâs the negativity mentioned above, the millions of scenarios they run through their mind or just the everyday menial tasks of life, and they need to mentally escape from it all. Try to be patient and respect their need for space.
If most of these signs sound familiar to you, then it is very probable that you are in a relationship with an INFJ. Take heart knowing that their behavior, though bizarre and eccentric to you, is actually very normal and purposeful. Be excited that you have found such a rare specimen and try to learning as much as you can about how they tick. If you still arenât sure, encourage them to take a Myers-Briggs Personality Test. It may help them immensely as well.
one more - trust is overrated and this is definitely not a hangup. it is coming from the understanding of the nature of life and people.
yep. i love staying in the closet alone lol cozy, safe and quiet
@Op I am in this group INFJ-A and I'm am an Advocate under Myers personality test.
The mind category= is 55 introverted.
The energy level= is 69 intuitive it never fails. People want to know why I get cold.
The nature category= is 49 thinking and 51 feelings.
The tactics category= is 69 judging
The identity category= is 62 assertive.
The mind category= is 55 introverted.
The energy level= is 69 intuitive it never fails. People want to know why I get cold.
The nature category= is 49 thinking and 51 feelings.
The tactics category= is 69 judging
The identity category= is 62 assertive.
I'm an INFJ, there are those who dont believe in meyers-briggs saying it is basically the same as astrology. Ironic that we are posting about it eh?
Posted by SensitiveBluesYou should have been an ENTJ they make the most:
I'm enfj. We're infinitely better
http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/11/06/this-is-how-much-money-youll-make-based-on-your-personality/
Posted by rabidtalkerMy brother asked me if I did this test and I said not sure. So he sent me the link and that's my results. I feel better I'm not alone in this world and how I perceive the society and environments surrounding it and my own self storage.
I'm an INFJ, there are those who dont believe in meyers-briggs saying it is basically the same as astrology. Ironic that we are posting about it eh?
And since this is an astrology section of personality charts why the heck not post it. There's pages of different personality charts. Great forum to have. Great people to entertain or learn from.
Well, in that case here's another article on INFJ and relationships đ
http://liveboldandbloom.com/09/relationships/infj-relationships
http://liveboldandbloom.com/09/relationships/infj-relationships
Here are 8 reasons INFJ relationships are extraordinary and powerful:
1. INFJs seek meaning.
We tend to seek out relationships that are far more than superficial. We crave deep, intense, meaningful interactions with people who share our commitment to intimate connection and growth. It might take us more time to find our âtribe,â but once we do, our relationships have a level of depth and sincerity that is profoundly fulfilling.
2. INFJs are warm and compassionate.
Whether youâre in a friendship or romantic relationship with an INFJ, youâll find they are selfless, warm, and trustworthy. Because they so highly value relationships, they strive to be the best possible friend or partner. In fact, they are always desiring to improve or perfect their relationships. They are excellent listeners and extremely supportive and compassionate. If a conflict arises, INFJs are usually the first to seek resolution and are very willing to find compromise.
3. INFJs are invested love partners.
INFJs fall deeply in love and enjoy showing love to their partners and sharing their rich inner life with their soulmate. They are committed to the relationship and will work tirelessly to maintain a strong and intimate bond. INFJs are service-oriented, so making their partner happy is very important to them. Because they have such high expectations from their love relationship, INFJs do best with a partner who is equally committed and invested in a healthy, meaningful connection, and someone who is willing to offer affirmation and emotional intimacy.
4. INFJs are soul-filled lovers.
For INFJs, sex is an expression of love rather than lust, and they will rarely engage in it casually. They view sex as a communion of the souls, adding to the bond between them and their mate. INFJs are passionate partners, and see sexual intimacy as a way to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just being in a relationship, but the joy of becoming one with another person, in mind, body and soul.
5. INFJs are empathic.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They can read the mood of a room and get strong feelings about other people. They have natural intuitive abilities that allow them a depth of understanding and compassion other types donât possess. Many INFJs are highly sensitive people (HSPs) or empaths and can almost feel the emotions of those around them. Because of their empathic and caring nature, INFJs attract many people to them, although they are generally selective about their closest friendships.
6. INFJs are values-oriented parents.
Most INFJs take their role as a parent very seriously. They are devoted, warm and loving parents, and they want their children to grow as independent individuals with strong values and principles. INFJs listen to their childâs point of view and will take into consideration their ideas and suggestions, as they want their children to learn to think on their own and make sound decisions. As their children become adults, INFJs especially enjoy having a deep and meaningful relationship with them.
7. INFJs are creative and visionary.
INFJs try to express their complex inner worlds through creative pursuits. They have rich imaginations and can easily visualize their ideas. The are excellent communicators and writers and have a high degree of imagery and metaphor in their writing. INFJs often use their creativity to draw people to a mission, to beautify the environment, to help people envision possibilities, and to improve the human condition. They tend to notice patterns and trends to develop creative visions and ideas.
8. INFJs are dedicated, principled workers.
When INFJs are in the right careers, they are highly valuable employees or professionals. They want a career where they can make a difference, while utilizing their creativity and organizational skills. They are creative problem solvers, have innovative ideas, and are principled workers who can envision, plan, and carry out complex projects aligned with their values.
In team environments, INFJs are mindful of group process, and will listen attentively to the opinions of others while synthesizing ideas and input to create a unified vision. Youâll often find INFJs in helping professions such as counseling, teaching, or the ministry.
If you see yourself as an INFJ, you might also recognize some of the less positive traits of this personality type. In spite of our warmth, compassion, and creativity, we can sometimes be dismissive, intolerant, and intense. We may have unreasonable expectations of others and be less that patient with their weaknesses. But because we value self-awareness and inner growth, INFJs can improve these problem areas through self-reflection and by applying the same insight and determination we use for causes we value.
Posted by rabidtalkerThanks for this.
Well, in that case here's another article on INFJ and relationships đ
http://liveboldandbloom.com/09/relationships/infj-relationships
Here are 8 reasons INFJ relationships are extraordinary and powerful:
1. INFJs seek meaning.
We tend to seek out relationships that are far more than superficial. We crave deep, intense, meaningful interactions with people who share our commitment to intimate connection and growth. It might take us more time to find our âtribe,â but once we do, our relationships have a level of depth and sincerity that is profoundly fulfilling.
2. INFJs are warm and compassionate.
Whether youâre in a friendship or romantic relationship with an INFJ, youâll find they are selfless, warm, and trustworthy. Because they so highly value relationships, they strive to be the best possible friend or partner. In fact, they are always desiring to improve or perfect their relationships. They are excellent listeners and extremely supportive and compassionate. If a conflict arises, INFJs are usually the first to seek resolution and are very willing to find compromise.
3. INFJs are invested love partners.
INFJs fall deeply in love and enjoy showing love to their partners and sharing their rich inner life with their soulmate. They are committed to the relationship and will work tirelessly to maintain a strong and intimate bond. INFJs are service-oriented, so making their partner happy is very important to them. Because they have such high expectations from their love relationship, INFJs do best with a partner who is equally committed and invested in a healthy, meaningful connection, and someone who is willing to offer affirmation and emotional intimacy.
4. INFJs are soul-filled lovers.
For INFJs, sex is an expression of love rather than lust, and they will rarely engage in it casually. They view sex as a communion of the souls, adding to the bond between them and their mate. INFJs are passionate partners, and see sexual intimacy as a way to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just being in a relationship, but the joy of becoming one with another person, in mind, body and soul.
5. INFJs are empathic.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They can read the mood of a room and get strong feelings about other people. They have natural intuitive abilities that allow them a depth of understanding and compassion other types donât possess. Many INFJs are highly sensitive people (HSPs) or empaths and can almost feel the emotions of those around them. Because of their empathic and caring nature, INFJs attract many people to them, although they are generally selective about their closest friendships.
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INTJ female. Everyone get away from me.
INFJ here also, and I agree with the description to the T. Especially not being able to handle hearing about innocent people getting hurt, I get enraged.
@KittyKnitter, long time no see, and hope you are well..
@rabidtalker what group have you meshed well or not with?
@NostalgicCappy Hey woman how are you?
We are easy, simple amd masterminds. Some people won't get it at all. So you do like the challenge of another soul. For INFJS we have our fair share of experiences and we embrace change or a new being to explore, grow old with, and learn about each other.
What is your partners category ?
Just like sun won't get along its also tied together. And must communicate and work together in teamwork should level out.
@rabidtalker what group have you meshed well or not with?
@NostalgicCappy Hey woman how are you?
We are easy, simple amd masterminds. Some people won't get it at all. So you do like the challenge of another soul. For INFJS we have our fair share of experiences and we embrace change or a new being to explore, grow old with, and learn about each other.
What is your partners category ?
Just like sun won't get along its also tied together. And must communicate and work together in teamwork should level out.
INFJ here as well. đ
In the opening list, the only things that don't match me are responding to emotions instead of other things when someone has a problem. I respond to either or both at the same time depending on what seems to be best and what I can offer to help.
I also don't disappear on people in the way that's described, but I do need a lot of alone time. I'm careful about who I associate with closely, making sure they don't have a problem with my need for time to myself, so that takes care of it.
In the other list posted by rabidtalker, I relate to pretty much all of it.
In the opening list, the only things that don't match me are responding to emotions instead of other things when someone has a problem. I respond to either or both at the same time depending on what seems to be best and what I can offer to help.
I also don't disappear on people in the way that's described, but I do need a lot of alone time. I'm careful about who I associate with closely, making sure they don't have a problem with my need for time to myself, so that takes care of it.
In the other list posted by rabidtalker, I relate to pretty much all of it.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Unfortunately, I havent kept track of this, I think most of my best friends are introverts but some of my bigger circle are extroverts. I havent kept track of anything more than this.
@rabidtalker what group have you meshed well or not with?
INFJ: Advocate (-A/-T) here. I agree with the majority of the description.
I definitely love to help people. Part of my reading said "Advocates tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
I find that bolded part to be so true. I never realized it until I took this test. I like to give ppl advice so that whatever bad they feel, it won't come back. Or at least so those bad feelings or events pop up less in their life.
Being an INFJ is difficult sometimes but I love it. I know I am a good person, not just because I think so and value that, but because I have been told by those close and far to me. I just want to spread love as much as I can.
I definitely love to help people. Part of my reading said "Advocates tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
I find that bolded part to be so true. I never realized it until I took this test. I like to give ppl advice so that whatever bad they feel, it won't come back. Or at least so those bad feelings or events pop up less in their life.
Being an INFJ is difficult sometimes but I love it. I know I am a good person, not just because I think so and value that, but because I have been told by those close and far to me. I just want to spread love as much as I can.
Question for you INFJ's out there. How good/often are you at detecting manipulation or neediness? How do you deal with this?
Posted by rabidtalkerWell is it by experience or my scoring on intuition here. I will detach within a year and leave you wondering wtf happened to me. I also stuck around longer than necessary too. So it depends on the situations..
Question for you INFJ's out there. How good/often are you at detecting manipulation or neediness? How do you deal with this?
I am good at picking up certain things more than others. I also been told I'm easy to read. Which is bad.
But they are some evil manipulators if YOU'RE not careful.
Posted by NostalgicCappyI'm good too. Lol I am just working...
@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'm great, thank you for asking. How are you Miss?
Posted by rabidtalker
Question for you INFJ's out there. How good/often are you at detecting manipulation or neediness? How do you deal with this?
I'm really good at this. As I like to say, "I peep vibes heavy" lol Ever since I was little, I have been aware of these traits in people and I have been right every time. My intuition is pretty accurate. So much so, that I feel like I've had psychic moments lol. Unknowingly, I just thought something... not much thought to it.. sort of a "what if.." kind of context.. and those things happened a few weeks later. I remember 2 accounts when I was a pre-teen, and one a few months ago. All of those things were tragic.
It scared me honestly. It's not that I wanted any of those things to happen. For example, I was watching TV as a young child, and the mother of the show had a miscarriage. For some reason, I thought "Wow. That's so sad. What if my mom had a miscarriage? I would never want that to happen. Don't think about it".... like 2 or 3 weeks later, my mom told us that she was pregnant and had a miscarriage. That freaked me THE FUCK out because my mom was on & off with a guy that wasn't my father and she DID NOT want kids or to marry again. I've never told anyone this.... the other events are even scarier because the results were also true.
Sorry for the long reply. But how do I deal with my intuition?.... I don't really see it as something to "deal" with. That makes it seem like a burden, in my opinion. It's a tool or asset of sorts. It comes in handy a lot. Keeps me out of bullshit and nonsense.
http://psychologyjunkie.com/2016/06/27/5-ways-annoy-infj/
- Noise and Interruptions
- Facades and Attention-Seeking Behavior
- Small Talk
- Condescension
- Being Accused of Being too âDreamy'
I agree with most of it except "small talk" and "being accused of being too 'dreamy'" I enjoy small talk, somewhat and I've never been accused of being too "dreamy"
- Noise and Interruptions
- Facades and Attention-Seeking Behavior
- Small Talk
- Condescension
- Being Accused of Being too âDreamy'
I agree with most of it except "small talk" and "being accused of being too 'dreamy'" I enjoy small talk, somewhat and I've never been accused of being too "dreamy"
I have Mercury in Taurus I like small direct conversations, I always dreamed of the fairy tale life but snapped out of it really quick due to my last long ex bff experience. Yikes.
I can't stand too much noise it distracts me. I probably most definitely have adhd. you got my attention If I can hear for here. Lol
I can't stand too much noise it distracts me. I probably most definitely have adhd. you got my attention If I can hear for here. Lol
Posted by rabidtalkerSame. I don't mind talking about things that aren't super weighty, and I'm imaginative and can space out sometime when alone and lost in thought, but not usually around people enough for it to be a problem, plus I'm not clumsy as described in that article - I rarely bump into things or trip.
http://psychologyjunkie.com/2016/06/27/5-ways-annoy-infj/
- Noise and Interruptions
- Facades and Attention-Seeking Behavior
- Small Talk
- Condescension
- Being Accused of Being too âDreamy'
I agree with most of it except "small talk" and "being accused of being too 'dreamy'" I enjoy small talk, somewhat and I've never been accused of being too "dreamy"
Posted by CopperDoveI have so many bumps and bruises not cool, I had ran into a door knob or something similar at work. I had a bruise from that for months and I now have a permanent scar of tissue there. Lol I hope it's not a blood clot.Posted by rabidtalkerSame. I don't mind talking about things that aren't super weighty, and I'm imaginative and can space out sometime when alone and lost in thought, but not usually around people enough for it to be a problem, plus I'm not clumsy as described in that article - I rarely bump into things or trip.
http://psychologyjunkie.com/2016/06/27/5-ways-annoy-infj/
- Noise and Interruptions
- Facades and Attention-Seeking Behavior
- Small Talk
- Condescension
- Being Accused of Being too âDreamy'
I agree with most of it except "small talk" and "being accused of being too 'dreamy'" I enjoy small talk, somewhat and I've never been accused of being too "dreamy"click to expand
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Ow, that must be painful! I hope so too with it not being a blood clot.Posted by CopperDoveI have so many bumps and bruises not cool, I had ran into a door knob or something similar at work. I had a bruise from that for months and I now have a permanent scar of tissue there. Lol I hope it's not a blood clot.Posted by rabidtalkerSame. I don't mind talking about things that aren't super weighty, and I'm imaginative and can space out sometime when alone and lost in thought, but not usually around people enough for it to be a problem, plus I'm not clumsy as described in that article - I rarely bump into things or trip.
http://psychologyjunkie.com/2016/06/27/5-ways-annoy-infj/
- Noise and Interruptions
- Facades and Attention-Seeking Behavior
- Small Talk
- Condescension
- Being Accused of Being too âDreamy'
I agree with most of it except "small talk" and "being accused of being too 'dreamy'" I enjoy small talk, somewhat and I've never been accused of being too "dreamy"click to expand
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1. They constantly seek to improve your relationship. Whether through reading blogs and self-help books or searching out groups and seminars, the INFJ strives to reach an impossible standard for their relationships. This is not an indication that they are unhappy with the relationship, but rather that they cherish it so much they wish to put enormous amounts of effort into making it the best it can be.
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