Confusing pisces

Hello everyone,

The last year i've been confused by a guy in my life.
He is pisces sun (i don't know the rest of his chart). He is a classic pisces basing on his outer qualities; he's artistic, daydreams and has idealistic views on many things. Also he is very romantic (when he wants to). Oh- and very confusing (which i heard is common with some of these men...)

Our relation started a year ago. He pursued me for a long time, in a very intense manner. I dont think ive experienced anything similiar. We have a friend in common who says he's been obsessing over me, analyzing my texts and really wanted to start something with me.
I was very unsure about him, but i started feeling more and more attracted. I felt myself extremly drawn to him, and i had several dreams where i just felt my body being dragged against his like a magnet. It ended up with us starting hanging out more and more - and the sex was very intense and good. We had constant contact during the days, and he often spent his days at my house. I felt a little "choked" at the beginning because i wasnt sure if this was a guy i wanted a relationshio, and i felt he was coming on very strongly. After a while it felt more natural and we had a good time, and we undoubtly have a very strong chemistry.

After a few months, he disappeared.
He didnt answer my texts, and when he did he was too busy to hang out. This continued for a few months where i felt my feelings grew and grew. I was very upset.
He never gave a good explanation. One night he asked to meet me - and I went. He told me he had been feeling things that he didnt know how to handle, and that he cared a lot and had missed me. We talked all night and ended up having sex again.
A few days after when i contacted me he was acting the same way as before - said he was busy, and said he didnt want a relationship (which i never said i wanted!).
A few months went by again and i struggled to get over him. Then he contacts me again and tells me that he liked me a lot, has a good time with me, and is extremly drawn to me physically - BUT he has no romantic feelings. Also he says his "head" can't fall in love. We end up together that night again after arguing ALOT. (blaming the physical chemistry here...). Anyway - Im really confused. What is it with this guy? Is it me? I guess no one can tell - but from what i've heard pisces guy tend to disappear. Im confused by how he can be so attracted but has no feelings of a romantic art?
I still have fee

Stop giving up the goods everytime you see him.

Well thanks for not replying at all AND slutshaming me. Great forum....
People and relationships are often more conplicated than that.

No - you are right. Im aware of the facts here. i just dont like being slutshamed. Yes we had sex and we shouldnt. Still, i guess its no more complicated than that.
What do you suggest I do?
Ignore him or just tell him off at once to end whatever arrangement he thinks we have?

Posted by Mystik_Enigma
Stop giving up the goods everytime you see him.

You read this as slut shaming?

It's actually the key to the cycle you are questioning.

Also you don't have to ignore or tell him off.

Speaking your mind respectfully to him, that the roller coaster of appearances by him clearly doesn't work for you. And then stand your ground.

You need to own up to what it is that you want from this guy though. Do you want a relationship? Friendship? Nothing?
Figure that out, and then don't let his actions sway you if it isn't what you are looking for. But you can't blame him if you aren't being clear about what you want.

Posted by corncapri
Well thanks for not replying at all AND slutshaming me. Great forum....
People and relationships are often more conplicated than that.

Lady you got issues this forum can't help you with if you think my answer was slutshaming.

If I wanted to call you a slut I would....

Also, like many that come here, you don't want to hear the truth.

Posted by Mystik_Enigma

Posted by corncapri
Well thanks for not replying at all AND slutshaming me. Great forum....
People and relationships are often more conplicated than that.

Lady you got issues this forum can't help you with if you think my answer was slutshaming.

If I wanted to call you a slut I would....

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Actually her issues are not anything this form cant I help with. You just decide to focus on one aspect of this whole situation (her sexuality), which, in reality, played a very minor role in why he is acting the way he is. His actions are the reason why many women ignore men when they try to speak to them on the streets or in passing. His actions are the reason why women are insecure about why men approach them . They put on a facade that they're interested in the women then leave. the woman is simply a conquest for their cheap, pathetic ego. His problematic approach is the common symptom of how many boys are taught to be hateful towards women and see women as trophies and prizes not a human being with feelings. He used her body as a weapon to hurt her and to make make him feel good about himself as a man with no regard for how it would make her feel to be treated that way. The issue here is not her having sex with him. The issue with the fact that he uses sex to manipulate and hurt her. He uses sex to keep her on a string because he knows that she has feelings for him and is not strong enough to break the bond yet. He uses her emotional dependency of him as a means to abuse her.

I disagree KK. We teach men how to treat us.

Maybe calling it slutshaming was a bit off. I was only disappointed by the only answer i got was making it seem like its all my fault for "giving it up". We had a relationship based on much more than that for a good while, and i care for him, which is why things kept happening...it just felt a bit harsh even if i see your point.

I suppose he can never give me what i want

Posted by Mystik_Enigma
I disagree KK. We teach men how to treat us.

I agree with that up to a certain extent. However, alot of how we interact with each other is the direct reflection of years of socialization. Even you tried to blame yourself for the way a man treats you is how women are raised to be.

You guys are right.
Ill stop seeing him, its not good for me.
Its sad how it feels like my personality wasnt enough for him to get emotionally attached

Posted by corncapri
You guys are right.
Ill stop seeing him, its not good for me.
Its sad how it feels like my personality wasnt enough for him to get emotionally attached

there is some amazing guy waiting to love and adore you. Im sorry the Pisces dude wasn't him but trust me: this guy is no loss. It wasn't that you weren't good enough for him. It was that he wasn't good enough for you.

He told op on many occasions he doesn't feel the same

Yet she continues to meet up and sleep with him

She wrote he stated he doesn't want to be in a relationship with her

I'm hoping and praying op is like 21 no reason why a woman would pose this question when he's blatanly made it clear by not contacting you and ignoring you and throwing you crumbs to come over and have sex with him

You've got to be kidding me if you don't really "he is just not that into to"

But he's into your pu33y because you allow it!

Im exactly the same way.
I disappear a lot and its not that Im too busy, I just end up being lost in my own world and forget that people around me even exist.
As a pisces we tend to shy away from commitment from someone that hasn't giving us what we need spiritually.
Don't loose yourself in a pisces world its hard to leave.