Everytime I Turn Around. . .

Good Morning/Good Evening Everyone,
It's Dreamy-Eyez. I'm kinda sorta in a depressed mood because I'm starting to think that relationships are not my forte'. I haven't been in a serious relationship, but after seeing how my relationship with my father, mother, and sister are. . . I'm just staying single to spare myself from the possibility of coming across another unhappy one. You all saw my post about "the Backstabbing Gemini"? Yeah, that's my sister. I really don't know what her deal is. She cries on my shoulder about alot of things and I offer to help, then in turn she just gnawwing into the flesh in my back when its turned. She cries about not knowing who her father is. After getting a tear soaked sleeve, I took it upon myself to go to the hospital to check out birth records to find him for her, but there is a fee and I'm un-employed (for now.) She acts so funny towards me like the flip of a quarter. My mother? My relationship with her was all about holding things back. Atleast that's how she did it. She harbored alot of frustration for me and blamed me for her hardship. I helped her financially by giving her a few grand and being around the house to help out, yet in turn her and my sister would always withdraw and talk amongst themselves about me. She said that I was "Selfish and only cared about myself". That is a load of bullcrap!!! That only left me being resentful and it only drives me into doing better things for myself. I'm wondering how is having goals is being selfish? They never communicate with me and expect me to read their minds, when I can't. I cannot please their every whim when it comes along. This feels like a no win situation. My relationship with my father isn't good either, but that's a long story within itself. This is why I am single and happy, because it spares me from voluntaringly entering an unhappy relationship, when I was involuntaringly borned into troubled ones.

I say get a job with your own house and get out of there.

Awww *HUGS* Yeah, it's difficult because our families influence SO strongly what we end up being drawn to in our relationships with others. Ultimately, we are drawn to the familiar, and if the familiar is messed up because of the environment we were raised in, we can unwittingly seek those same things out.

Some people break this mold, though Dreamy. They search for the EXACT opposite of what they grew up in. Sounds like that might be the best option for you. There's no rush, and if you're happy being single, just keep on keeping on. The one for you will come when and where you least expect it, and when you're definitely not looking for it. That's the way it always happens. 😉

I can say that I got a fcuked deal in the family department as well BUT I also found a great relationship at the first round by being considered "stuck up" by my family.Being legal age and out of the house first anyways there was high school relationships and dating.I was tired of the whole hood rat getto life my mother and stepdad was so fond of.I started doing extra schooling,nicer clothes,career goals(which got alot of laughing from family members),I'm the only jock in my family,etc.I agree with haffo on the what to do suggestion,find a job and apartment or a roommate.I can also tell you by looking for cheap ghetto apartments and trailers however,it does help save alot of money for an actual house though.Doesn't really matter what type of job either,you have so long as you budget your spending and put the extra aside.