Help. Pisces/Virgo break up

Which is the 2nd most superior sign, Mr. Defense?

Just wondering.

Posted by Roseshavethornstoo
Was with my Pisces for 3 months. He treated me amazingly and we would always spoil one another. We really hit it off and nothing could have gone wrong, until his parents found out who I was. Turns out they knew everything about me and my family, he told me his father absolutely hates my father. This was the reason for the breakup, because his father didnt want him with me. I don't understand how the day before this happened the relationship was fine, but once his father told him the news he called me the next day to end it. Seriously a phone call?! I texted him a few days later just with questions, not even asking to get back together but I got the coldest response out of him, saying that I'm gonna be fine and that it was good it didn't happen down the road. I just can't understand this whole situation. A trusted source told me that he keeps subtly trying to bring me up again and that he knows he messes up, but I don't get why he won't try to contact me directly. I miss him like crazy, we had so much chemistry and appreciation for each other. I texted him happy birthday and got back a thank you, but it hurt texting him without really coming clean with my feelings. Is there any hope if I were to reach out to him? Should I even bother texting him to see how he is? I just miss him, us, what we had...

..it didn't cross your mind to discuss your family or his in 3 months? Or at the very least about family? That doesn't add up. Must be some really bad shit.

No, it doesn't add up at all ... I think she's pissing and telling us it's raining.

Posted by Roseshavethornstoo

He treated me amazingly and we would always spoil one another. We really hit it off and nothing could have gone wrong, until his parents found out who I was. Turns out they knew everything about me and my family, he told me his father absolutely hates my father. This was the reason for the breakup, because his father didnt want him with me.

It's common for people to become totally deluded when inside the energy of their own feelings, and it looks like this is what happened to you. According to you, nothing could have gone wrong, it was amazing .. this means that you viewed this relationship as perfect. And though, being a Virgo, you will look for perfection, this is also a Virgo flaw in that you will be floating around in your own, one sided feelings of perfection, and not really recognize that there is another person there ... in this delusion, you are in awe of the concept of feelings, and not really him as a person.

This is where the Fish recoils. We are so realistic that once we sense a person is living in a fantasy and thinking it's real .... we recoil away.

According to what you've written here in that you described your content in living within just the bubble of amazement, without any practical thought on your end .... that was probably enough for him to decide to bail out on you.

In all likelihood, he uses his family as an excuse to part ways with you ..... because the typical Piscean nature when in love, or when in deep like of another human being = we bond tightly, no matter what anyone says. We will defy our own family if necessary.

So, the reality is, what you described of him as a person having the same feelings for you that you have for him ... he would wrap his entire universe around you, and live for you, live within his environment of .. family wouldn't stop him, nothing would stop him ....... IF ....... he felt the way you've deluded yourself into believing, which your belief is based on nothing except your own entrapment of yourself and your own feelings.


It's very common of Virgos to do this. They tend to shrug off the expression of feelings, and in so doing, they are amateurs at understanding feelings. If a person doesn't own how they feel, for expression of feelings, then they never really gain the ability to grasp what it is they are feeling.

Pisces, on the other hand, being the opposite of you ... we take every feeling we have, no matter how tiny, and embrace it to the fullest .... so, we therefore understand every feeling the moment it arises.

So, as a Pisces, he likely saw in you what I see just from this thread, in that he's real, and you're plastic in terms of realizing feelings .... and so he bailed on you, because as a Pisces, he needs to be with a person who is realistic, not with a person who lives in fantasy, like you.

If it's been only three months, I would hang in there and cool my jets if I were you. If he's trying to pump friends to find out about you this suggests to me that he's still into you and may be regretting his hasty decision. Just because a man leaves, doesn't mean he won't come back, especially with a new rela like this. I actually think Virgo/Pisces is a good combo. Virgo grounds pisces and pisces brings imagination and romance to virgo. You gotta work on not harping. Virgo ladies tend to do that even if it's just your way of showing you care. And he's gotta work on being more present in the rela. All relationships are work and most go thru rough patches. It's love that binds people together and makes the work worth it. Don't give up and by all means float him a text to say you're thinking of him. Somebody's gotta be the one to throw down the gauntlet and pisces can have a hard time swimming back if they feel they embarrassed themselves in leaving to begin with. Good luck!

Nemesis, I read that she's young & she's been with this dude for all of three months. I've known lots of solid couples who broke up or took a break and I'm a product of a long lasting biracial marriage where both families objected so that's not end game either.

On a side note, it's funny you come out with the "women who think like you" BS because making assumptions based on snatches of what I write is so 20th century. Leave it to a woman to go after another woman. You don't see men do that. We call ourselves feminists and yet go around policing other women, or deluding ourselves that we can.

Posted by Este8

Virgo grounds pisces and pisces brings imagination and romance to virgo.

You're reading from a damn book, and not offering real life experience, at all.

Are you a Pisces?

Are you a Virgo?

No, to both .. so you don't know squat about what Virgo or Pisces brings to a relationship ... the only thing you got is a book you're copying.

Posted by Este8

Somebody's gotta be the one to throw down the gauntlet and pisces can have a hard time swimming back if they feel they embarrassed themselves in leaving to begin with.

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The above quote is bullshit, and shows that you've learnt nothing about Fish in all that reading you are doing.

This is making me even more confused! Will I look desperate if I just text to see how he's doing or should I just ignore it all together? I just can't seem to get over him

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Posted by Wynter
Which is the 2nd most superior sign, Mr. Defense?

Just wondering.

sadge of course 😄 lol.

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Hahaha! 😛

Posted by Poisson

Posted by Wynter
Which is the 2nd most superior sign, Mr. Defense?

Just wondering.

1) Virgo
2) $

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LOL! 😄

Posted by Roseshavethornstoo

know for a fact the family got involved because his sister is the one who told his parents exactly who I am, and now she can't even face me but instead hides from me.

Everytime you allude to the fact that you know you're not allowed to be with him, due to family/culture bullshit ... you make yourself look dumber and dumber for falling for your own lack of emotional control, rather than having emotional strength.

This is exactly what I was telling you, which obviouly flew right over your head and you had zero comprehension in what I was saying.

so much for the virgo being intelligent.

Posted by Roseshavethornstoo

Being a virgo I'm very logical and this situation just makes no sense. There is genuine feelings towards him, and I know he reciprocated them. Why would be bother to keep trying to bring me up in conversations to be set up again and admitting to knowing he messed up? Idk, I could just be over thinking and making this all up in my head that there's a happy ending.

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Because you lack any knowledge in emotional understandings of your own life .... you are with a person you KNOW you can't be with, and instead of listening to the voice of reason and logic in your head, you choose to be ignorant of it and proclaim confusion instead.

I don't feel sorry for you. You're not a victim of circumstance = you already knew about your culture's rules, and made your choice to be weak of heart, rather than strong of courage.