How Emotional Are You?

The guy I'm currently dating told me the other night that I'm different from anyone he's ever dated, because I'm not emotional. He said he's used to feeding off the energy of his partner and he finds it difficult to feed off my energy, because I don't have much range of emotional reactions. Because of my lack of emotion he also finds it hard to tell where I stand towards him or really, anything in general. This is a common observation about me from anyone I've ever met or dated. An ex bf from years back described it best when he told me he thought I was very contained.

What's frustrating is that it's so far from the truth! I have a lot of emotions and sometimes it's difficult for me to regulate the intensity of my emotions! For whatever reason, once I feel something my immediate reaction is to shut it down, internalize it and experience it within myself. Expressing an emotion on cue to someone causes the same kind of fear and panic speaking in front of an audience does...total paralysis and the inability to even get a word out. If I express an emotion in the moment it's on an intellectual level...I'll say what I feel, but my tone, affect and expression still remain flat, which confuses people. I'm incredibly uncomfortable sharing my emotions with anyone other than myself and I've never really known why.

Do any other Pisces have this problem?? Or is it possible it's my Libra moon?

From hanging out with a lot of pisces, my experience is that most do seem contained. But a intuitive individual can see so much that dwells beneath the surface.

I can relate in some ways. I never liked to be open with my emotions and the way I grew up, I never really learned how to express myself. The only emotion I show properly is anger. This has led to partners being confused on how I feel even if I've voiced things. I've sort of grown out of that. I still tend to keep things to myself but if I feel the need to express my feelings or if someone asks about my feelings, I can convey it much better than I could before.

So basically, I consider myself to not be very emotional, though my how and why are different than yours.

Emotions are not ugly and the right people will not reject you for showing your emotions. Be comfortable with this and who you are and it'll get easier. Even those who have a fear of public speaking can overcome it by gaining confidence in themselves and experiencing it enough. Same goes for expressing yourself. : )

Posted by PiscesLove7
The guy I'm currently dating told me the other night that I'm different from anyone he's ever dated, because I'm not emotional. He said he's used to feeding off the energy of his partner and he finds it difficult to feed off my energy, because I don't have much range of emotional reactions.

You are an introvert dating an extrovert. Extroverts feed on other's energy, while introverts can recharge by themselves.

You could either get rid of the "vampire", or drink a strong coffee and talk him under the table. It's not your emotion, it's your interaction with him and your energy level he finds lacking. He used some polite words to let you know he finds you rather boring (for his taste), and you certainly aren't.

keeping one's own emotions inside is a very pisces thing IMO
I don't express emotions for several reasons:
-it is like showing my weaknesses
-I don't want to be in the spotlight,I like to observe without interacting in order to gain knowledge
-I hate people trying to empathize with me, etc...generally fakers
-I don't see the point of expressing emotions and I don't care about social interactions
-My emotions are generally too wild and destructive, even for myself
-sometimes I don't feel anything or I feel contradictory emotions
-it makes me feel powerful, like a vulcan or a cyborg


Sometimes I let the kraken out, when I think I can use the emotion for a purpose

You're Mars in Aries, girl! Get up and kick some ass 🙂!

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Posted by PiscesLove7
The guy I'm currently dating told me the other night that I'm different from anyone he's ever dated, because I'm not emotional. He said he's used to feeding off the energy of his partner and he finds it difficult to feed off my energy, because I don't have much range of emotional reactions.

You are an introvert dating an extrovert. Extroverts feed on other's energy, while introverts can recharge by themselves.

You could either get rid of the "vampire", or drink a strong coffee and talk him under the table. It's not your emotion, it's your interaction with him and your energy level he finds lacking. He used some polite words to let you know he finds you rather boring (for his taste), and you certainly aren't.

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But, of course, you're the slut who thinks that it's her place to fuck every man who decides it's your turn to bend over in front of him .... AND you believe that to be a woman's place in life.

So, anything you say isn't credible.

Posted by Scenic
I can relate in some ways. I never liked to be open with my emotions and the way I grew up, I never really learned how to express myself. The only emotion I show properly is anger. This has led to partners being confused on how I feel even if I've voiced things. I've sort of grown out of that. I still tend to keep things to myself but if I feel the need to express my feelings or if someone asks about my feelings, I can convey it much better than I could before.

So basically, I consider myself to not be very emotional, though my how and why are different than yours.

Emotions are not ugly and the right people will not reject you for showing your emotions. Be comfortable with this and who you are and it'll get easier. Even those who have a fear of public speaking can overcome it by gaining confidence in themselves and experiencing it enough. Same goes for expressing yourself. : )

Same here. I'm actually pretty good at expressing anger. It's the positive emotions I'm lost on. My family wasn't too encouraging on expressing emotions either, so I'm sure that's contributed to it.

Thanks for the kind words! I do work on it and even though I hear this complaint a lot, it's been awhile since anyone else has said it.

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Posted by PiscesLove7
The guy I'm currently dating told me the other night that I'm different from anyone he's ever dated, because I'm not emotional. He said he's used to feeding off the energy of his partner and he finds it difficult to feed off my energy, because I don't have much range of emotional reactions.

You are an introvert dating an extrovert. Extroverts feed on other's energy, while introverts can recharge by themselves.

You could either get rid of the "vampire", or drink a strong coffee and talk him under the table. It's not your emotion, it's your interaction with him and your energy level he finds lacking. He used some polite words to let you know he finds you rather boring (for his taste), and you certainly aren't.

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It's funny you say that, because I find him kind of boring! lol
He's a Virgo and definitely not what I would consider an extrovert, unless if the basis for comparison is me, than sure, he's pretty outgoing. But he's more introverted, like I am and is used to relying on the other person to bring him out, which is what I tend to do in relationships as well. I try to bring him out, but I can't carry that load.

Posted by hydorah

-I don't want to be in the spotlight,I like to observe without interacting in order to gain knowledge

-sometimes I don't feel anything or I feel contradictory emotions

I don't like being in the spotlight either. That's definitely what it feels like when I'm in a position to express an emotion.

I experience a lot of contradictory emotions as well. I'm never sure how to handle that.

I do find that in a lot of situations when someone would react I have no reaction or if I do have one, it's delayed.

Posted by Undine
You're Mars in Aries, girl! Get up and kick some ass 🙂!

Sadly, anger is one of the emotions I'm most comfortable with! lol
I can be pretty feisty and combative. It's the positive emotions I suck at...like excitement, joy, happiness, interest. Those emotions I generally feel or think, but don't display outwardly and am uncomfortable doing so. That's when people start getting confused...

LOL! A Virgo complaining about an emotionless Pisces! Who would have thought ? The only Pisces I know who's stuck in such an unfortunate relationship is P-Angel. According to her, Virgos are unable to understand emotions. So your efforts could be in vane. Perhaps she decides to give you advice herself, instead of shadowing me?

I would recommend you to date an air sign. They may not even notice your "shortcomings". Or a Cap. Highly recommended!

*instead of hiding in my shadow* lol

Posted by mrdesperado
From hanging out with a lot of pisces, my experience is that most do seem contained. But a intuitive individual can see so much that dwells beneath the surface.

OP, this is a man who would appreciate you 😉!

Just find someone who's compatible with you, instead of trying to change yourself.

BZW, can I say that I admired the way you contained your emotions when interacting with us on this thread? You've got my respect, girl.

Posted by Undine

OP, this is a man who would appreciate you 😉!

Just find someone who's compatible with you, instead of trying to change yourself.

That's right, show nothing..continue to play the guessing game and see how many ex's you can tally up.😢

A little bit emotional. I just don't go crazy over my emotions. Though if I only honestly love someone I could tell them,but it's a bit hard since I don't like going fast. But if there was ever a comfortable time to say it then I would. After that, my Pisces moon would get all emotional over me. 😛

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Posted by Undine

OP, this is a man who would appreciate you 😉!

Just find someone who's compatible with you, instead of trying to change yourself.

That's right, show nothing..continue to play the guessing game and see how many ex's you can tally up.😢

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I told him I would work on it. I also emphasized in the beginning that I'm not very vocal, am terrible at that stuff, but am very affectionate and better with the nonverbal expressions. W/e. There's nothing stopping him from developing his personality further instead of relying on the other persons energy to feed off of! *shrug*

Posted by hydorah
keeping one's own emotions inside is a very pisces thing IMO
I don't express emotions for several reasons:
-it is like showing my weaknesses
-I don't want to be in the spotlight,I like to observe without interacting in order to gain knowledge
-I hate people trying to empathize with me, etc...generally fakers
-I don't see the point of expressing emotions and I don't care about social interactions
-My emotions are generally too wild and destructive, even for myself
-sometimes I don't feel anything or I feel contradictory emotions
-it makes me feel powerful, like a vulcan or a cyborg


Sometimes I let the kraken out, when I think I can use the emotion for a purpose

Well put.

I can identify with a couple of these-- although empathy doesn't bother me; it's the threat of sympathy that is just..

idk *wrinkles nose*

Like someone has something over me-- bleh.

Posted by Undine
The only Pisces I know who's stuck in such an unfortunate relationship is P-Angel. According to her, Virgos are unable to understand emotions.

I would recommend you to date an air sign. They may not even notice your "shortcomings". Or a Cap. Highly recommended!

Ughhh, that's my experience with the air signs! That they are unable to understand emotions...kinda like dating an alien. I'd consider dating one more Gemini before I rule out the sign entirely and Libra men I can never get a relationship off the ground with.

Posted by Undine
BZW, can I say that I admired the way you contained your emotions when interacting with us on this thread? You've got my respect, girl.

lol, thanks!

Posted by PiscesLove7

Posted by Undine
The only Pisces I know who's stuck in such an unfortunate relationship is P-Angel. According to her, Virgos are unable to understand emotions.

I would recommend you to date an air sign. They may not even notice your "shortcomings". Or a Cap. Highly recommended!

Ughhh, that's my experience with the air signs! That they are unable to understand emotions...kinda like dating an alien. I'd consider dating one more Gemini before I rule out the sign entirely and Libra men I can never get a relationship off the ground with.

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Aqua man


Gemini man

Libra man