Just a question, please, I need to broaden my perspective

This pisces and I were dating during three months. He kept in touch with his ex and I broke up with him, but we kept in touch too as friends: no kisses, no sex, some hugs, yes, but not too many. It's been nine months since then, and he was the one who was always looking for me. Somehow he wwas respectful. He proposed sex, yes, he said things such as: "what if you stay with me at home?, would you like to "sleep" with me?", but I always said no. He never took advantage, as I said before, there were no kisses at all. Two months ago I knew he was back with his ex (whom he doesn't see that much since she lives in a city 1.5 h far from here), and I don't know how long he has been with her in these 9 months... maybe the nine months and I didn't know... well, i've become cold and distant. I don't look for him anymore and he knows it, but since then he has told me he doesn't know if he made the right decision, he says he wonders if what he decided for he and me was correct, it is as if he was not convinced of the choice he made. I don't tell him nothing at all because I am not going to decide for him... I want a man who tells me: I know I want you, but I don't know if I should have fighted for him a little bit or I should leave this story behind... But how can I fight for someone who has a girlfriend?

He made his choice and he went for her. I feel stagnant in all senses, and I could never show him the Cancer I am: affective, passionate, tender, romantic, sweet... there was always a wall (his and mine) that restricted me from showing my feelings. I feel upset... I think I made a big mistake, but we are so similar in terms of insecurity... Two days ago we kind of fight by text messages (we never fight, but this time we did, and he hasn't looked for me anymore... Maybe I lost him, but can I lost him if I actually never had him... He would be the man I want for me... And I don't know what to do... Everything is so confusing... Please, anybody who might fire a light on me I would really appreciate it.

he's probably had her all along...wants his cake and eat it with no commitment to either of you. I would move on. you're worth more than half a bloke aren't you?

Posted by scorp66
he's probably had her all along...wants his cake and eat it with no commitment to either of you. I would move on. you're worth more than half a bloke aren't you?

😔 thank you

yeah, he doesn't know what he wants and you surely can't trust that - or him for that matter - find someone who is all in and that you can trust to know what he wants

I agree that he wants his cake and wants to eat it too - he's playing with the other woman as well - no~