Need help; getting easily hurt: Pisces man Aries woman

Hi, I am here seeking for some guidance. I have a love relationship with an Aries girl. I really love her, and she really loves me, but I am easily and deeply hurt by almost anything. She is really sincere but sometimes really blunt, while I am on the docile and subtle spectrum, always trying to say things in the least "bad" way possible so I won't hurt her feelings.

Sometimes I can't take it anymore and my Cancer mars has a meltdown, screwing up everything and creating unnecessary fights.

Sometimes I feel she is oblivious to my feelings, and from time to time I have to remind her that I am feeling sad because of the way she talks to me and ask her to try to be a little more subtle if possible. She says she tries but she just can't do this, and that sadly she can not do anything about it. I try to cope with this.

She has a short temper and gets angry easily with simple mundane stuff. I am spared from some of this anger management issue of hers, but sometimes it leaks and I get really hurt with the way she treats me loses her temper.



I have my fair share of guilt on the fights and I openly admit it because I am always the initiator, and it is always because I am sad or hurt about something that she did, said, or did not say. The fights happens the most through WhatsApp, because I have a really hard time when it comes to "relax" or "stay cool" when I am far from her; I feel in a dire need to always talk to her and to have her give me atention whenever she can (and I know this is bad). I am basically restless (and I blame it on my gemini moon).

When we are physically togheter, there are rarely any kind of fights, and things are really sweet between us.

Here is our natal chart:

Mines:

Pisces sun

Gemini moon

Pisces mercury

Taurus ascendant

Aries venus

Cancer mars

Libra jupiter

Aquarius saturn

Cappy uranus

Cappy neptune

Scorpio pluto

Hers:

Aries sun

Pisces moon

Pisces mercury

Aquarius ascendant

Pisces venus

Leo mars

Saggy jupiter

Pisces saturn

Cappy uranus

Cappy neptune

Saggy pluto

It is important to say that I do not want to play the victim here, I am just feeling really sensitive and things are hurting me more than they should. I just want to know where I can improve, or how can I deal with my Aries woman. I really love her and I am decided to stay with her and make things work because I have hope on this relationship.



I'm sorry for any grammar errors; english is not my native language.

Important facts that may be relevant: The sex is really, really great;

She has a really tough daily routine due to work and college, so is always tired from monday to friday;

We really love being with each other and that is what we desire the most;

Even with all these kind of issues, we really try to make it work and we are not willing to give up on each other. Both have hopes on our relationship.

I feel I am draging the relationship down and I told her that. She tells me to not think this way, and that she loves me the way I am, regardless of my issues with my own feelings.

I am 24 and she is 22.

Posted by Distilled
Has nothing to do with her chart.

Your chart is more dominant... Other than that Cancer Mars.

Stay off Whatsapp and talk in person. If you are long distance I'm not sure.

Show the dominance and don't back down. You have an Aries Venus. Don't be afraid to speak up and follow through.

Good luck.

We are not having a long distance relationship (fortunately). Our jobs/her college are just too demanding right now, so we are seeing each other two times each month for the past months due to the lack of each other personal time. This will change in july, which is when she finishes her graduation, making her have more time for our relationship.



I am very afraid to show any kind of dominance when it is about any non sex related thing. It does not feel so natural to me and I am always reconsidering my thoughts and hesitating. I can see I have to work this side of mine. I just feel an urge to avoid conflicts and never disappoint, which makes me very hesitant. I will look into this trait of mine and try to work on it.



Thanks for the advices.