Things are fishy, maybe you can help. I'll try to make this short and sweet. I am a taurus (black woman) in love with a pisces (white man). Fish started off as my best friend thru highschool..always hanging out together etc...he moves into my parents neighborhood into an apartment with his girlfriend...at the time we were just friends so it was cool for me to hang out with them and think nothing of it (even though deep down i was feeling something more for him) when he and his girl broke up he called my friend and asked her to get a hold of me (at college) to come home and chill with all of them for a weekend so I do and me and my fish friend have sex for the first time. it was so romantic and passionate and it felt like we were both releasing this built up tension and longtime secret desire to be with each other. Later he moves out of the neighborhood and we still kick it all the time. This time around it's just me and him. He takes me on dates (movies, dinner, bars etc..) picks me up and i pick him up to..(very mutual and giving relationship). we even shared walks in the park together. however we spent most of our time in hotels (after our nights of going out)we would drink and do some other things and make love all night (he would call it making love) any ways, after college (last december, I moved away) I told him i was looking for jobs but he didnt expect me to leave so soon. when i left, i wrote him a letter telling him goodbye and that he is always welcome to come visit..etc..i gave the letter to my friend to give to him because i didnt have time to meet up with him. It took him a week to get the letter from my friend because of their diff. work schedules but once he called her and said "i wonder what that letter says, i wonder if she said she's inlove with me and i'm the world's greatest lover and she wants me to move down there and get a job and have babies" but he said it in a joking way. So throughout this whole year (since I have moved) whenever i go home for a holiday or whatever, I am with him. it had been like that for awhile. Once in august i came home and my car was parked infront of my parents business and Fish seen my car, pulled over and asked to see me while i was home and we spent a whole sunday together. So come thanksgiving , i come home and hear he is living with a girl in another town. I was so sad but i didnt expect him to wait on me because i did move away and he never actually knew how i felt. so 6 months later he calls (right before valentines day) and leaves a looong message saying "hey it's me, your ex-lover, how you doin baby? I just called to talk about old times and he goes on to say he wanted to come down for a 3 day weekend. later i return his call and he tells me that he and his girl broke up because he couldnt handle the fact that she had a kid and etc..and he makes plans to come down in a couple weeks. So I go and buy him b-day gifts to give him when he comes down. Now here's the climax of my story: I call him before his b-day and his grandma says he moved back in with that girl. I felt so crazy and hurt. I laid in bed (depressed for a weekend) and i wrote him an 11 page letter...confessing my feelings...telling him i love him (something thats not easy for a taurus to do) and i sent him the gifts along with the letter. I asked him to move down here and to be with me. and i explained to him that if he doesnt feel the same that its o.k. cause he is always my friend and i may have misread everything. In the letter i asked him to contact me and tell me what he thinks of the letter if I'm wrong about his feelings for me. I explained that even if it's not what i want to hear, i still need that closure. So a month goes by, and he leaves me a message on a friday morn' when he knows i'm at work to tell me thankyou for the gifts and that he would call back later that evening. Needless to say, he has never called and it is May. I am very hurt and sad and i dread going home this summer...can anyone
Need some advice from a pisces (man preferably)
I can see that you do have the capacity to write an 11 page story. Only because you said you'd keep this note short and sweet, but yet it's "loooong." I get the feeling that you and your fish are just (more or less) bed-buddies. I actually took the time tooo read it. Sorry... Look for a full time compatible mate and stop fooling yourself!
Hey, I can attest to that fact. Girl, I'm a Black woman who was attracted to a White Piscean man. I thought it was the color thing too but noooooo... Pisces men are Pisces men- they are flirtatious, and you just never know whether they're coming or going. I think you really should get a stable mate. Pisces are very wishy-washy-not knowing what they want from one hour to the next. If you like to live a rollercoaster life, fine; but being a Cappy, I had enough-just wasn't for me. Don't think he's for you either. So girl, give him up for your own sanity!
-Been there/Done that
-Been there/Done that
well, i am white too who is dayting or seeing black man and i would say, i love him but it is a racial problem for me unfortunately but it is just me, you guys were different, did not hide from parents, right? Another thing, the fact that you live apart from each other, very complicated for any relationship! and he is still a man with his sexual needs and he may injoy sleeping with other people. he is a dick, forget about him, or forget about that, i mean you were the one who left him...be cool, calm down, you ll be fine, go ahead and find another dait.
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