Pisces and No Passion? (Page 2)

"Man, when I saw "set him back financially" I thought that must be marriage!!! "

😛😛
THAT was sooo Cappy.

"Calixte:
That is definitely an ego bruiser."

I know, Lady_M. How should I have handled it? Kissing is VERY important to me. I just came out with it very bluntly, but offered him a bunch of suggestions as to how he could do it. I even offered to help him out with the expense.

He is SO sweet and SO sexy, but how could I overlook something like that? Would it be important to you guys that your guy have at least decent teeth?

Yes I like good teeth, I dont know if I'd demand the get to get it fixed though. I probably just wouldnt kiss him (depending on how bad it actually is)I see kissing IS very important to you.


I could only imagine how his little pisces heart sank...they are really sweet and take everything to heart..

"But I meant it in a fair sense though, when there is a merge or de-merge, both sides can suffer not just men due to the liquidation and re allocation of assets."

haha, I know...but you must admit 😛

Is everything okay with you sagigoat? You said you were messed up.

Solution:

Going off archers suggestion....show him you still love him regardless of the teeth and lay a big one on him. 🙂

...along with the other good stuff that follows of course....
🙂

"I could only imagine how his little pisces heart sank...they are really sweet and take everything to heart.."

Yes...you are right on. That's what I think happened. It broke my heart to see his reaction. At that point, I felt that I was falling in love with him. His type of devotion is something I have never experienced, and I regretted it deeply that I hurt him like that.

I have gone back and forth since then with whether I did the right thing. Was it good to lay my cards on the table, or did I just really blow it?

If theres still a chance with you too...you have to build hi confidence in himself, you, and the relationship.

I do think thats when he decided he couldnt handle you (in the sense of being a guy you want).

"yeah kissing is very important... no two opinion.
virtual chemistry may not translate into real chemistry—? (I would be scared how it would be in real)..."

You're right.

Interesting - his new girlfriend is a Sagittarius.

"How would you know your desire for him wouldn't overcome the condition of his teeth for you to just grab him and kiss him when you two meet— You haven't met yet how do you know you can't stand his teeth— It just sounds a bit strange to me..."

I don't know that. He actually has some missing teeth though from some accident he had years ago that he's never done anything about. Wouldn't that bother you?

aaah yes missing teeth would deter me...

what location though...side missing isnt that bad...

"aaah yes missing teeth would deter me..."

Yup. So I guess I did the right thing. He must know that this would deter many women. He was married too long and his wife was ill for several years.

I have no idea why this current woman is okay with it, although they are not passionate, as I mentioned in my first postings. Maybe that's why. Or maybe she's just not very attractive herself and she feels this is the best SHE can do.

As we age, things DO start falling apart. Sometimes women get breast cancer and would have to have a breast removed. That would be a major issue if single and trying to meet new men. So, one must accept the fact that we are not going to be perfect physical specimens. However, there are things you can do to accommodate things like missing teeth and a missing breast even!

DC that is terrible! I don't want to make a joke out of this, but that did make me laugh.

thats just wrong DC. lol

are front teeth missing??

"calixta,

I think the situation is kinda clear now.... wht next...

its imperative, wht will you do now? any plans..."

Well, I was hoping that his sexual nature would win out and he would change his mind about this woman and reconsider "my conditions." But, it appears that's not going to happen. So, I will move on - reluctantly. It is unfortunate that we couldn't get together at least once to actually meet. It's really too bad to connect so well with someone online and then have it not work out.

health insurance can help with good ol' dentures.

"are front teeth missing??"

I don't know, but I think so. In his photos, he's never smiling. He's a very sexy, good-looking man though, aside from that.

He actually may get dentures. Would you guys be okay with someone taking their teeth out at night?? I suggested getting a few implants to anchor bridgework. That way, the teeth would be afixed permanently in his mouth. He wouldn't have to take anything out.

However,implants are super expensive. I think they're like $ 1,500 to $ 2,000 each!!

I would be alright with it...its all he can afford. Besides, pardon me, but he is old.

"actually yes.. almost same like sagi, I mean living in real world, you hardly get an exact replica of dream guy... and would love him and try to find a way for him to have fixed dentures with bridge... not only for the sake of kissing but, also so that he does not develop more mastication related problems later on.

....
nothing hurts more than a comment on 'physical appearance'... and nothing works better than gentle persuasion."

Well, then it appears it's too late for me. I apologized profusely for being so insensitive and tried to assure him that I would be patient so he could take care of things in his own time. I thought we made up. In the meantime, his platonic correspondence with this other woman got more intimate and they decided to meet. Plus, she only lives a couple of hours away.

"I would be alright with it...its all he can afford. Besides, pardon me, but he is old."

Not that old!! 50s and 60s are now the 30s and 40s of thirty years ago. How old are you?

haha! I am what is the new "40's and 50's" 😛

Show up on his doorstep.

Red pumps and a rain coat (it is rainy season of course) 🙂🙂

nothing else!

"it appears it's too late for me"

"I'm sorry . I wonder why he wants to remain friends. Maybe there is more to it. What if you suggest to meet would he turn it down? I wonder what a bold attempt to pull him back to you would do?"


This happened back in early March where he rejected me. Up until recently, I was totally pissed at him. If I hurt him, he definitely got me back. He announced his new relationship on our political forum without telling me first! Talk about a low blow. After the conversation about my conditions, we made up and had our closest times ever. The following weekend he's meeting his new woman. The following Monday he announced that they were a couple. I was devastated. For a while, we did not communicate at all and he stayed away from our discussion group. Then he started hanging around again. I didn't warm up to him again until last month when he sent me a sweet e-mail after my mother died. He feels very guilty about what he did.

hehe, use the guilt...


Im evil; I know.

'who knows the sparks may cause some short circuit and re-wiring'

lets hope the boards actually do work. hehe 😛

"hehe, use the guilt...


Im evil; I know."

What do you mean, "use the guilt?"

". Then he started hanging around again. I didn't warm up to him again until last month when he sent me a sweet e-mail after my mother died. He feels very guilty about what he did."

this.

"Given that he is feeling guilty, ask to meet so you can make up and be friends once a for all. And then Calixta shows up in a rain coat? "

hmmm, not quite..but you've got the jist 😛

DC. I understand what you're saying. And, yes, I think he feels that I am out of his league. After seeing one of my photos, he actually said he wasn't "worthy." And, maybe we aren't really compatible. There are certain things about him though that I miss terribly.

I think I would want to meet first before I was convinced that I was in love with him and was willing to say what you suggest would reassure him. Unfortunately, we did not and he is now committed to someone else. Maybe it is for the best, but I still think he is moving too fast and is perhaps selling himself out for the sake of security.

I think the demands should have been set once you guys actually statred meeting. Asking him to move, etc...might have been a little to fast (this was only an onling thing)...let alone teeth restoration.

You guys could have just finally met and spent a weekend together first or something.

Thank you, archer.


"Did he refuse to meet you?"

DC, I suggested meeting him in a major city near his home, when I went to visit my mother who lived in a state closer to him. At first, he was all for it. After I told him about "my conditions" (and I did bring it up again), he ignored it.

"I think the demands should have been set once you guys actually statred meeting. Asking him to move, etc...might have been a little to fast (this was only an onling thing)...let alone teeth restoration.

You guys could have just finally met and spent a weekend together first or something."

Perhaps you're right. Maybe we should have met first before I started setting conditions. But DC is right. Many people meet online these days and they question each other a lot to see if there are "deal-breakers." Why go through the effort, and in my case the expense, of traveling to his state, if there are already things that one person wants and the other person is unwilling to accommodate? Plus, one wonders why he wouldn't want to fix his teeth for himself. This was a long-standing health condition. It makes me think he's not taking care of himself.

He sure is a lovely man though in other respects.

Also, I didn't ask him to move. This was something we discussed. Also, I'm not unwilling to move from where I am, although I would have had a difficult time finding as good a job as I have where he lives.

I understand calixta, the deal breaker issue is very true. But you were in a neighboring city...

No LM, I live about 1,700 miles away from him. I was agreeing to make a stop on my way to visit my mother. I was thinking about May. It just so happened she died in May. It actually wouldn't have been that expensive to stop there, but he stopped discussing it after I set the conditions.

All of this talk is making me think I just need to give it up. I was just hoping there was a chance that we could make it work. You know Cancers - they have a hard time letting go. Plus, I have a Taurus moon. I have always been extremely stubborn.

I know how sexual a man he is and I cannot imagine him being content with a woman with whom sex is not that exciting. I know that as time goes on that intense sexual desire does fade, but would you want to start out with someone with that already the case?? Like I said about my Capricorn boyfriend above where there was no passion, I was never happy, and was always on the fence about staying with him.

Wish you all the best cali 🙂

Thanks LM.

"Sometimes, 'the dream is better than the reality'.

Why not just maintain the friendship and enjoy all those things you like about him? You never know what the future holds!

Appalling use of cliches there."


Much of what I liked about him was sexual!!🙂 He's not going to engage in that kind of thing if he's committed to someone else. And, I wouldn't do it anyway...I don't think.🙂 We'll see. I need to get my butt out there and get my social life more active. I spend too much time online. If things start rolling along, and I feel less attached to the idea of winning him back, then perhaps we can be friends.

And, I went to see a psychic yesterday. She indicated that he probably would remain in my life in some way, although I was probably going to meet another man as well.

"And, I went to see a psychic yesterday. She indicated that he probably would remain in my life in some way, although I was probably going to meet another man as well."

Although I just realized that if I was a psychic and some lovesick obsessed woman wanted my prediction, I probably would say the same thing.lol

Thank you all. Very good feedback.

"Piscean men often make decisions that, to the rest of the world, make no sense at all. But to him, it will be perfectly logical and reasonable. He will never listen to anyone else anyway

Since most decisions are based on how we feel, rather than what we, or anyone else think .. they are often not great decisions. But we're impulsive, stubborn and will do what we're going to do!"

Hi DC,

I'm reviving my topic here to ask a couple more questions.

Regarding Pisces men and decisions, do they change their minds, or do they stick with what they decide? You mentioned that Pisces men are stubborn. One doesn't normally think of Pisces as being a stubborn sign - Taurus and Leo yes, Pisces no.

Also, one reads that Pisces men like stable women who have their feet planted solidly on the ground. Is this true? Is this normally assumed because Pisces men are flakes or somehow unstable??

How do you get the various smiley faces?

Also, do you live in England, DC?

Regarding Pisces men, I wonder if there are two varieties. My two bosses are both Pisces, February 26 and March 20, and they are both with women who do not work and seem a little needy.

I have never been to England, but I am fascinated by things British. What is the "hot bit?"

So, there are Pisces men who prefer strong women so they can be taken care of and there are Pisces men who like to do the caring? Or are they wrapped up in the same person, just at different times?

"Hero fish" - I like that.

Depth Charge - somehow, all of your previous posts from Sunday got deleted from this topic. Did you do that?

I have a strong personality.

Yet my pisces guy keeps coming back for more...no matter how many times he says I heart his feelings 😛

I am guessing as long as it is comfortable.

"I have a strong personality.

Yet my pisces guy keeps coming back for more...no matter how many times he says I heart his feelings"


Do you two have a romantic and physical relationship?