Pisces fixation

I was just curious to know why so many pisces men seem to obsess over one woman in their life? I have known several pisces men and they seem hell bent on self destruction by loving woman that seem out of reach to them. I'm fascinated by this as i have a friend and he is deeply in love with this woman who is quite willing to be his friend and nothing more, he will see other woman, sleep with other woman, and these woman would be willing to be in a relationship with him but he drops them like a hot coal whenever his special friend calls?? Why do they do this? This seems to be very unhealthy for him as i have seen his personality change drasticaly, he is much darker and angrier than before. I know another pisces male friend who has been hanging on for a woman since 1995 and he is still hoping for a relationship, i mean why— and it.s odd because the pisces woman seem much smarter and well savvy when it comes to relationships.

As dreamers we tend to idealize the woman we love to a mythical goddess-like status. As romantics lost causes are a natural undertaking.-

But how can you possibly put someone on a pedestal when they have faults?And these said faults stand out like a sore thumb? And how can someone love another person, even though that person does not want them? How can they keep being there for that person and allow themselves to be used over and over again, can't they see the truth? Or is love realy that blind—

Well, as demonstrated by the comments here, female Pisceans are smarter in that regard and know better. As for us male Pisceans, it's a whole different story... I would know, I??ve perished by the same blade many a time.-

Posted by Sizzurp

Posted by XV2
As dreamers we tend to idealize the woman we love to a mythical goddess-like status. As romantics lost causes are a natural undertaking.-

I beg to differ. Your comment is a beautiful notion but that's a potentially hazardous view! Maybe I'm just cynical haha!

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Well no, I agree with you, and as you know there are a few distinctive "types" within Pisces. I could really identify with the story of the O.P. and I spent many years trying to even understand this in myself. Some articles I read on Pisces clearly laid out how some of us tend to idealize partners all the way to mythical status. She asked for a perspective on that type of situation from a Male Pisces perspective and I felt I could offer an insight from personal experience.

But yeah: Don't try this at home kids! It's not something I am particularly pleased with.-

Oh yeah...

But regarding the O.P.??s second post, I think it tends to go something like this:

When you first meet someone "it's all about marketing", people tend to put forth the best in themselves. If there are certain characteristics we like in the person, and she doesn't reveal her faults up front from the begining, and either glosses them over, or conceals them altogether, our idealization has already registered this person as a composite whole, our own idealization overlooking those glossed-over faults. With time, as these faults begin to make themselves more and more apparent, they threaten to shatter the IDEA (key word here) of what we thought the other person was, and the notion that this will shatter becomes paralyzing, we desperately want to keep that together. But, once it breaks "Neither all the kings?? horses nor all the kings men, can put Humpty Dumpty together again." We keep trying, and it takes a really long time to realize that it just won't happen, sometimes years.

Had I seen this so clearly when I was 14 or so I would have spared myself years of grief.-

I suppose it depends on the faults in question, some are easier to overlook than others. Say -random example- she snores during sleep, might be easier to overlook or work through than: she??ll fuck anything that moves including your best friends, or... she's a junkie and will devolve into a black hole of self destruction. Some things are beyond idealization.-

A Pisces tends to see the whole essence of a person and love them regardless...the downside is being blinded by the potential of thatperson. For some Pisces it's an unspoken attraction to an element which is unpredictable, and speaks of danger...for others it could be self delusion and the fantasy of a person is so strong it takes on its own life.

Otherwise, it's an unconditional love that the Pisces has chosen to bestow on one person...

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Ah, so does the idealising comes from a wish-fulfillment perspective vs a unrealistic pedestal basis?

Wish Fulfillment: "I hope my love continues to be as wonderful as she seems to be now!"
Versus
Unrealisitic Pedestal: Even though she is missing several teeth all you can see is a mouth full of pearly whites sparkling in the sun.

That kind of thing? it's not being defined.


I'm just curious--its an interesting topic. 🙂

No...for the Pisces it doesn't matter. If they have chosen to love you...you're allowed to be as you are, warts and all...accepted with understanding and compassion. But you can see how this isn't always healthy...if the love is given to the wrong person, the Pisces will have to fight with themselves to disengage the bond

Posted by IntriguedScorp
Ah, so does the idealising comes from a wish-fulfillment perspective vs a unrealistic pedestal basis?

Wish Fulfillment: "I hope my love continues to be as wonderful as she seems to be now!"
Versus
Unrealisitic Pedestal: Even though she is missing several teeth all you can see is a mouth full of pearly whites sparkling in the sun.

That kind of thing? it's not being defined.


I'm just curious--its an interesting topic. 🙂

In the context I described previously, I think it relates mostly Wish Fulfillment. The need to preserve things as wonderful as they are in the begining, and this becomes impossible because the begining was based on false pretenses. The bases were not built upon reality so the entire edifice comes crashing down.-

You should know, you??re responsible over whether you have shown him your true self or led him on with false pretenses.- 🙂

I mean it when I say my Love One is amazing. She is not the pretiest outside but inside she is .... cant explain in words.

When I met her she just sound diffrent, I felt a special confort arround her, she is everything for me.