Pisces Guy Reached Out

It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

Posted by Koniuchaa
No idea why he is doing that, but I certainly wouldn’t bother with someone like that

Thank you, I agree!

Posted by kiirsttnae

Why does he dip a toe and then run?

because he's spineless...

pisces men can be real bad about doing s h * t like this, you gotta let 'em know on the front end that the wishy-washy bulljunk isn't going to fly, otherwise that's all you're going to be dealing with from now til however long you can stand for it to go on...lol

cause pisceans don't get tired of their own games like the other signs eventually will (aquarius is an ace in this particular instance because they catch on quicker than any other sign when it comes to the BS meter)...lol

anyway,

a firm, yet slightly gentle guiding hand is all it takes in most instances...

we don't secretly whisper "you lead, i follow" to ourselves for no reason lol 😉

cheers!

--Jack

Posted by yellow01gt

Posted by kiirsttnae

Why does he dip a toe and then run?

because he's spineless...

pisces men can be real bad about doing s h * t like this, you gotta let 'em know on the front end that the wishy-washy bulljunk isn't going to fly, otherwise that's all you're going to be dealing with from now til however long you can stand for it to go on...lol

cause pisceans don't get tired of their own games like the other signs eventually will (aquarius is an ace in this particular instance because they catch on quicker than any other sign when it comes to the BS meter)...lol

anyway,

a firm, yet slightly gentle guiding hand is all it takes in most instances...

we don't secretly whisper "you lead, i follow" to ourselves for no reason lol 😉

cheers!

--Jack

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Very interesting and good to know! I was trying to be nice and understanding but I guess I should've nicely said something the first time. I appreciate you always helping! I am used to very direct people.

I've a friend like this....lovely woman but as flakey as hell



We go long periods of time not meeting up, but I very much enjoy her company

You either accept or not, I guess

It wouldn't work for me wifh a man as I would lose patience

pisces just love someone who gives them the benefit of the doubt...

oh, and the next thing you know he will be playing the victim....

lol sarcasm) 🙂

Posted by MyStarsShine
lovely woman but as flakey as hell

I would lose patience

you said it, my friend...

flakier than a pie crust...and patience goes quick...like there is a deadline or something lol

and the part that's hard to explain is...like, pisces don't intend to be that way in most cases...but then that wave of emotion can surface out of nowhere, like during a snuggle bear commercial or some dumb stuff like that...

then the 'lovely woman' can shapeshift instantly and all of a sudden you don't even know who you're talking to...

but lovely is actually a good word as well because, yes that is most likely the case...unfortunately, it will eventually come down to ... do i really want to sacrifice my nerves because she (or he) is 'lovely'...

it's cute at first but it's like eating a chocolate bar, it tastes good but there's no substance lol

Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

Was the timeing of the second date near/around the holidays? People get busy this month with Holiday parties and traveling to see their family and nye celebrations. Kinda makes sense he disappeared for a minute.

He reached out and made and effort and you rainchecked. You should be the one to reach out next. How are you communicating?

Call him, let him know your in town and want to meet up.

Posted by yellow01gt

Posted by MyStarsShine
lovely woman but as flakey as hell

I would lose patience

you said it, my friend...

flakier than a pie crust...and patience goes quick...like there is a deadline or something lol

and the part that's hard to explain is...like, pisces don't intend to be that way in most cases...but then that wave of emotion can surface out of nowhere, like during a snuggle bear commercial or some dumb stuff like that...

then the 'lovely woman' can shapeshift instantly and all of a sudden you don't even know who you're talking to...

but lovely is actually a good word as well because, yes that is most likely the case...unfortunately, it will eventually come down to ... do i really want to sacrifice my nerves because she (or he) is 'lovely'...

it's cute at first but it's like eating a chocolate bar, it tastes good but there's no substance lol

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.......and you are a Pisces yourself

Very honest of you....most people get very defensive when others criticise thier sun sign, for some reason (ego probably)

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

Was the timeing of the second date near/around the holidays? People get busy this month with Holiday parties and traveling to see their family and nye celebrations. Kinda makes sense he disappeared for a minute.

He reached out and made and effort and you rainchecked. You should be the one to reach out next. How are you communicating?

Call him, let him know your in town and want to meet up.

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Thank you for your response! It was definitely around the holidays, so I do understand, it does make sense. I just wish he would've told me he was busy.

I asked him a few days after I got home if we could meet up but he has ignored me again. It makes me feel stupid for trying, you know? It's like, are you interested or not? It's so back and forth haha

Posted by yellow01gt

Posted by MyStarsShine
lovely woman but as flakey as hell

I would lose patience

you said it, my friend...

flakier than a pie crust...and patience goes quick...like there is a deadline or something lol

and the part that's hard to explain is...like, pisces don't intend to be that way in most cases...but then that wave of emotion can surface out of nowhere, like during a snuggle bear commercial or some dumb stuff like that...

then the 'lovely woman' can shapeshift instantly and all of a sudden you don't even know who you're talking to...

but lovely is actually a good word as well because, yes that is most likely the case...unfortunately, it will eventually come down to ... do i really want to sacrifice my nerves because she (or he) is 'lovely'...

it's cute at first but it's like eating a chocolate bar, it tastes good but there's no substance lol

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Ha! You're seriously so candid and I appreciate it. I can see the patience thing, he seemed annoyed that I wasn't available when he was ready to reach out again but I was hundreds of miles away.

I am a pisces moon and I am definitely like you described with the emotions surfacing, so I get it. I think that's why it's hard for me honestly -- hah

Posted by MyStarsShine
I've a friend like this....lovely woman but as flakey as hell



We go long periods of time not meeting up, but I very much enjoy her company

You either accept or not, I guess

It wouldn't work for me wifh a man as I would lose patience

Thanks! It's definitely the fact that it's a guy I barely know but I am trying to get to know. I love my pisces friends though.

Posted by kiirsttnae

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

Was the timeing of the second date near/around the holidays? People get busy this month with Holiday parties and traveling to see their family and nye celebrations. Kinda makes sense he disappeared for a minute.

He reached out and made and effort and you rainchecked. You should be the one to reach out next. How are you communicating?

Call him, let him know your in town and want to meet up.

Thank you for your response! It was definitely around the holidays, so I do understand, it does make sense. I just wish he would've told me he was busy.

I asked him a few days after I got home if we could meet up but he has ignored me again. It makes me feel stupid for trying, you know? It's like, are you interested or not? It's so back and forth haha

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How did you ask? Text, call, etc.

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Posted by kiirsttnae

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

Was the timeing of the second date near/around the holidays? People get busy this month with Holiday parties and traveling to see their family and nye celebrations. Kinda makes sense he disappeared for a minute.

He reached out and made and effort and you rainchecked. You should be the one to reach out next. How are you communicating?

Call him, let him know your in town and want to meet up.

Thank you for your response! It was definitely around the holidays, so I do understand, it does make sense. I just wish he would've told me he was busy.

I asked him a few days after I got home if we could meet up but he has ignored me again. It makes me feel stupid for trying, you know? It's like, are you interested or not? It's so back and forth haha

How did you ask? Text, call, etc.

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Oh, sorry, I meant to reply to that question -- we just text. I feel like we aren't on a level to call each other

Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

have you met on a dating site? or thru friends? do you have mutual friends? sorry, I dont remember the back-story

If you met on a dating site, then he has somebody else, who he is hung up on, and only contact random people when he is bored, or he feels guilty to not reaching out....

I wouldnt take it too seriously, and definitely wouldnt send him a text "telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up."

it seems he has interests somewhere else....

I would only initiate a meet-up, if I was not really interested in him, so I wouldnt mind if he says yes or no.... if you are really attracted to him, then its a russian rulett with your heart, because its not about being busy, he has somebody else

PS. but I dont know the back-story, so I can be wrong

Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this.

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Posted by kiirsttnae
I just wish he would've told me he was busy.

i am not a pisces but i have dated/been friends with a number of them.

in my experience, they arent best w/ direct communication, unless they have something else going on in their chart. phone communication is hard. they'll read a text, put the phone down, & totally space out on something else - forgetting to respond back.

the pisceans i have known, just kinda rely on other people's intuition to communicate. they'll feel a certain way & expect you to sense it. bc of this, i find pisceans best in person. & you have to do a lot of the leg work, at first. they kinda like to have things flow to them, instead of reaching out & grabbing it. the hard work you put in, usually pays off, in the end.

i once dated a pisces man who didnt even have my phone number until ~3-4 months of dating!! we would just run into each other & spontaneously hang out. i found it quite exciting but, other people may find it frustrating lol.

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Ah, thank you, that's helpful. That explains why he seemed more attentive during our time together as opposed to being apart.

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this.

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"He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this."

I dont think its really dependent on a sun sign... (althou some signs are better at being "players" or just "lost souls and/or unhappy)...

most people (man and woman alike, regardless of sun sign) dont answer or ignore people, when they are hung up on somebody else and contact others only when they are bored or the person, who they love, is dating somebody else as well, so the person tries to "move on" and "date others" - isnt it the most favourite advice on forums? move on and date others? so, this pisces maybe did this

lots of people does this.... but most people only think about their "heartache" and dont think about what their mindless "moving on" can do to other people, who they start dating, when they are not ready..

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

have you met on a dating site? or thru friends? do you have mutual friends? sorry, I dont remember the back-story

If you met on a dating site, then he has somebody else, who he is hung up on, and only contact random people when he is bored, or he feels guilty to not reaching out....

I wouldnt take it too seriously, and definitely wouldnt send him a text "telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up."

it seems he has interests somewhere else....

I would only initiate a meet-up, if I was not really interested in him, so I wouldnt mind if he says yes or no.... if you are really attracted to him, then its a russian rulett with your heart, because its not about being busy, he has somebody else

PS. but I dont know the back-story, so I can be wrong

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First, I appreciate your advice! We met through a mutual friend by chance one night. We just kind of connected. He mentioned that night to our friend that him and his girlfriend had broken up a couple weeks earlier, so I was hesitant when he initially asked me out.

Honestly, I think you're right though. He's probably not over his ex or juggling multiple girls. BUT UGH ON MY EMOTIONS haha

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this.

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Boo! I was hoping it wasn't that.

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

have you met on a dating site? or thru friends? do you have mutual friends? sorry, I dont remember the back-story

If you met on a dating site, then he has somebody else, who he is hung up on, and only contact random people when he is bored, or he feels guilty to not reaching out....

I wouldnt take it too seriously, and definitely wouldnt send him a text "telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up."

it seems he has interests somewhere else....

I would only initiate a meet-up, if I was not really interested in him, so I wouldnt mind if he says yes or no.... if you are really attracted to him, then its a russian rulett with your heart, because its not about being busy, he has somebody else

PS. but I dont know the back-story, so I can be wrong

First, I appreciate your advice! We met through a mutual friend by chance one night. We just kind of connected. He mentioned that night to our friend that him and his girlfriend had broken up a couple weeks earlier, so I was hesitant when he initially asked me out.

Honestly, I think you're right though. He's probably not over his ex or juggling multiple girls. BUT UGH ON MY EMOTIONS haha

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do you know how long they were together? sometimes the right people meet the bad time.... so, if you felt a connection with him, dont send him any text, maybe when he is over her, you two can have a chance... maybe he doesnt love her anymore, but its still too fresh... and the holidays are always hurtful after a fresh break-up....

so, if you leave this thing alone for now, not reacting angry or anyhow, you two may have a chance after some time have passed after their break-up...

he may have felt a real connection with you as well, but ... bad timing... his mind is somewhere else now probably

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

have you met on a dating site? or thru friends? do you have mutual friends? sorry, I dont remember the back-story

If you met on a dating site, then he has somebody else, who he is hung up on, and only contact random people when he is bored, or he feels guilty to not reaching out....

I wouldnt take it too seriously, and definitely wouldnt send him a text "telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up."

it seems he has interests somewhere else....

I would only initiate a meet-up, if I was not really interested in him, so I wouldnt mind if he says yes or no.... if you are really attracted to him, then its a russian rulett with your heart, because its not about being busy, he has somebody else

PS. but I dont know the back-story, so I can be wrong

First, I appreciate your advice! We met through a mutual friend by chance one night. We just kind of connected. He mentioned that night to our friend that him and his girlfriend had broken up a couple weeks earlier, so I was hesitant when he initially asked me out.

Honestly, I think you're right though. He's probably not over his ex or juggling multiple girls. BUT UGH ON MY EMOTIONS haha

do you know how long they were together? sometimes the right people meet the bad time.... so, if you felt a connection with him, dont send him any text, maybe when he is over her, you two can have a chance... maybe he doesnt love her anymore, but its still too fresh... and the holidays are always hurtful after a fresh break-up....

so, if you leave this thing alone for now, not reacting angry or anyhow, you two may have a chance after some time have passed after their break-up...

he may have felt a real connection with you as well, but ... bad timing... his mind is somewhere else now probably

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I am not sure how long they were together, I think for almost a year. I appreciate the optimism! I just don't know how I feel about the fact that I feel like he's playing me and so damn wishy-washy. You know what I mean? I will continue to just stay back and if he decides to try to contact me, then I will go from there AGAIN. I just don't know what to say if he does

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Bottom line, it shouldn’t be like this in the beginning. Pisces or not, a man will show his interest if he is in fact interested

This, this, this.

Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

It would be more informative to know both his mars and venus placements. With the limited information available though, are you sure you're the only one he's dating/seeing?

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

It would be more informative to know both his mars and venus placements. With the limited information available though, are you sure you're the only one he's dating/seeing?

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I just looked - his Venus is Aquarius and his mars is Taurus.

No, I’m not sure if I’m the only one. I’m sure I’m not the only one after some responses haha

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

It would be more informative to know both his mars and venus placements. With the limited information available though, are you sure you're the only one he's dating/seeing?

I just looked - his Venus is Aquarius and his mars is Taurus.

No, I’m not sure if I’m the only one. I’m sure I’m not the only one after some responses haha

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Oh this dude is gonna be slow as molasses in romance and fairly aloof to boot. If you really wanna pursue this one - which it sounds like you will chiefly be the one pursuing, be prepared to go slow. Aqua will either run from pressure or become illogically stubborn.

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

It would be more informative to know both his mars and venus placements. With the limited information available though, are you sure you're the only one he's dating/seeing?

I just looked - his Venus is Aquarius and his mars is Taurus.

No, I’m not sure if I’m the only one. I’m sure I’m not the only one after some responses haha

Oh this dude is gonna be slow as molasses in romance and fairly aloof to boot. If you really wanna pursue this one - which it sounds like you will chiefly be the one pursuing, be prepared to go slow. Aqua will either run from pressure or become illogically stubborn.

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Very informative, thank you! I’ve sorta given up hope at this point but still very good to know!

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this.

"He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this."

I dont think its really dependent on a sun sign... (althou some signs are better at being "players" or just "lost souls and/or unhappy)...

most people (man and woman alike, regardless of sun sign) dont answer or ignore people, when they are hung up on somebody else and contact others only when they are bored or the person, who they love, is dating somebody else as well, so the person tries to "move on" and "date others" - isnt it the most favourite advice on forums? move on and date others? so, this pisces maybe did this

lots of people does this.... but most people only think about their "heartache" and dont think about what their mindless "moving on" can do to other people, who they start dating, when they are not ready..

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yeah lots men especially do this BUT

the disappearing / lack of communication is more of a scorpio pisces male thing.



a fire sign or air sign is better usually at juggling multiple women

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

He's dating another girl and bad at juggling.

Think scorpio male.....though scorpios are bit better at this.

Boo! I was hoping it wasn't that.

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it's rare to find someone who is worth dating who isn't dating other people at the time that you meet and actually start dating

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

It would be more informative to know both his mars and venus placements. With the limited information available though, are you sure you're the only one he's dating/seeing?

I just looked - his Venus is Aquarius and his mars is Taurus.

No, I’m not sure if I’m the only one. I’m sure I’m not the only one after some responses haha

Oh this dude is gonna be slow as molasses in romance and fairly aloof to boot. If you really wanna pursue this one - which it sounds like you will chiefly be the one pursuing, be prepared to go slow. Aqua will either run from pressure or become illogically stubborn.

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This sounds exactly like the guy I've been seeing and yes, if you decide it's worth exploring then gather your patience! I reassessed like you and even though it can be frustrating, I came to the conclusion of "what is the rush?" We seem to be in a rush to actually get to know another person and explore whether you really have something to build on. With all the texting and technology, people rush into knowing someone without being face to face. The Pisces I've been out with a couple of times doesn't initiate by text at all, he'll call or we'll meet and talk the old fashion way. Sometimes, I want to fast forward it so much!...but I've resigned myself to pulling back keeping myself as busy as ever and initiating contact from time to time.

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Posted by kiirsttnae
It's me again and I need some insight!!

Just a brief background - I met a pisces guy back in November who was insistent on going on a date, so we met up and had a good time (or so I thought?). He asked for a second date and then swam away before we got together again with no explanation. I was lost and confused just by the fact that he seemed SO interested and I felt like a good one slipped away (apart from his actions).

Now, it's been almost a month and out of the blue, he contacted me again. I was so shocked and honestly surprised he still had my number. He asked me to meet him where he was hanging out that night and luckily, I was out of town but told him when I got back, just in case. I wanted to just not reach out again since his behavior is so confusing but I DID (boo) and he has since disappeared again!!

I am not hurt like I was the first time, more so just confused. It's not like we hooked up, so it seemed interesting that he would reach out again. In my last post a couple of you said he would come back though.

Why does he dip a toe and then run? I thought about sending him a message telling him that I wished he would be upfront and tell me he's not interested instead of initiating contact and then ignoring me when I follow up. My friend said it was too aggressive but I don't like people playing me. Not sure.

Any advice towards his actions and what I should do is always appreciated! Thank you!

It would be more informative to know both his mars and venus placements. With the limited information available though, are you sure you're the only one he's dating/seeing?

I just looked - his Venus is Aquarius and his mars is Taurus.

No, I’m not sure if I’m the only one. I’m sure I’m not the only one after some responses haha

Oh this dude is gonna be slow as molasses in romance and fairly aloof to boot. If you really wanna pursue this one - which it sounds like you will chiefly be the one pursuing, be prepared to go slow. Aqua will either run from pressure or become illogically stubborn.

This sounds exactly like the guy I've been seeing and yes, if you decide it's worth exploring then gather your patience! I reassessed like you and even though it can be frustrating, I came to the conclusion of "what is the rush?" We seem to be in a rush to actually get to know another person and explore whether you really have something to build on. With all the texting and technology, people rush into knowing someone without being face to face. The Pisces I've been out with a couple of times doesn't initiate by text at all, he'll call or we'll meet and talk the old fashion way. Sometimes, I want to fast forward it so much!...but I've resigned myself to pulling back keeping myself as busy as ever and initiating contact from time to time.

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Thank you! Super helpful. After I read what you wrote I honestly asked myself why I was going 0 to 60 so quick. I think the reason I keep obsessing is because he will seem interested and then run away and leave me hanging. Which leaves me questioning if he even likes me at all or is just playing mind games with me.

Can someone give me advice if he does happen to reach out again, what would the proper thing to say is? I want to be strong and tell him that it's not ok but also diplomatic and fair. Does that make sense? Also, we have a mutual friend, so I don't want things to be weird if we run into each other again.