Pisces male - am I reading it right?

Hi all,

I am writing to get some genuine feedback on Pisces guy. I am sure you read similar stories many times (and I tried to read through the threads to get my answers).

So met this Pisces guy at work about 6 months ago, started as friends and then it became apparent that he is interested in me and wooed me and eventually confessed he liked me. So for the last 2.5 months it was amazing, even we dont get much time together cause of his shift work, there would be lot of texting, sharing of personal info, ideas, stealing kisses at lunch time etc. He told me few times that he loved me and that I am the only one making him happy etc. all the things that girl likes to hear. When I went on holiday for 10 days he would bombard me with sweet texts and calls, upon my return it was still amazing.
Up to about week ago everything was going great, then suddenly I can feel some distance. He told me that he is not in good mood for last few days and also he is very busy at work so I gave him the space while doing stuff with my other friends and not contacting him, he would still text me 2x a day over the weekend to say hi/how are you doing but not much else which is quite big difference form our usual texts.
Yesterday we played badminton and when I asked him if he wants me to walk to car he did but then he did not kiss me good night, which is first time, saying he is tired. To explain we can only kiss in car not in public as we live in middle east (yet both expats).
I am sure you are all now shaking your head that I am over reacting and perhaps I am, but it is first time I experienced this change in him. Further today when I passed his department he looked at me in very strange way (not the usual sweet one) and did not even reply to my text. And as you can imagine when you are center of someone's attention and then it suddenly stops you feel somewhat puzzled. I simply miss him however I understand he can have own issues that he needs to resolve that is why I am here asking should I just back off and give him more space (ignoring him) and let him come to me or is there other approach in this situation.

Thank you for any input especially from Pisces males.

::: shakes head :::


You should chase men. Pour your heart out to him, bombard him with everything you got, and never let up ...


... afterall, it's about him and what he wants. You don't matter.

Thank you for your replies. However I am little puzzled by the comment that I throw myself at him...when it is him who initiates communication most of the times and we both have separate social life (which he is sometimes jealous of as mine is busier). He is the one who has been showering me with romantic words and gestures. Me being capricorn i fall slowly yet deeply and that what happened. I only wanted to confirm that you guys prefer be alone then giving extra attention during moody days. It is first time that he went distant so of course I was taken by surprise by that. still I mirror his communication...no going extra mile or asking whats wrong, I let him come out and say when he is ready.
And pangel i know exactly what i want and i know my value that doesnt mean i cannot feel confused and ask questions, especially knowing how special and sensitive you pisces are.

I have no interest in playing nice with people who don't think for themselves, and have to go to random people on a forum to ask them to make a sound judgment call for them.

He probably feels the same way ... I would think that most adults do.

If you can't manage your own feelings, and rationalize what is in your best interest ... then you're just another chucklefuck.

You are over reacting over some minor issue that has nothing to do with you but him. so he has dark moods dont we all some hide this better than others and by god he did not 'kiss' thank the heavens above he didnt god only knows what he was thinking previous to then.

Ok guys and gals get into so-called 'dark moods' this is their way of testing to you to see if you do actually 'care', its a control thing that you obviously already know of being a cap yourself so I dont understand why you would come to this boards and whinge and complain about some seemingly distant idea of what you wanted.

Its something that so called humans do to try and convert you to their way of thinking and being and to hell if you dont do what they want you to do. Been there done that aint going back there at all!!

Have you any other interests besides being a perpetual pest or nowadays a virtual pest?, If so, plz continue on with them it may lead to some where who knows. Get you off the people care wagon much faster than I can say.

Oh yes cynical you say? Nah I reply I am like I am coz I am realising that there things far more important than relationships and whether or not someone likes me or not and crap like that.

Much akin too, Yeh, Heck! Killing Evil has not been more fun, ah fuck it, cant spell.

So what up fuckers?

Yes, Is this Dark side of which you speakth Evil? If so plz tell me and I will take care of it, my word!

Djbuck good point there about my investment, perhaps i allowed to be swayed quickly then i should have but the romance and intensity overwhelmed me. No excuse but explanation. Yes backing off emotionally is right move but thats much easier said then done as you know. Btw he is Indian and I am European...the reason he chased me that much or fast because i get many admirers heRe due to my relatively exotic looks. Anyway thank you for the opinions.

Cappieg-

Would you like a gun pointed at your head?

Btw out nationality difference make an extra pressure, especially for him. Just informative input

We all have many dark sides to us all and its those who can face these all and remain standing at the end who live to tell the legend of it all.

Now do ihave to repeat myself again and again to make myself be hear or do you get that I DON'T CARE?

About meaningless drival of other peoples lives I am at war here with things you have never ever wanted to have conceived of. Much like a dream that is redcurrant haha had to put that in.

So you too have "deep" depression we all do to some extent, i can put you out of your misery if you like? Just nod your head and I'll be there.

Crazy nah to I may appear to be like but i am reality in its entirity too much for most to handle so get a handle on your self if you ever want to see the light day buddy.

Times are hard if you havent noticed and they aint gettin no better so instead of makin shit up about your perceived love mere interest get into something thats real and tangible and something that makes you wake up to yourself. Hell hit yourself in the head for all i care. Its wake up time hon if you aint noticed yet.

You hear the people crying outside you door thats coz of you. You aint doing what your supposed to do so I suggest politely that you strap yourself in and get on with what your supposed to do, if you really care at all.

I feel some what better now, thank you

Posted by Cappieg

... i get many admirers heRe due to my relatively exotic looks.

Well, now we know where the problem is, don't we?

When all else fails, the female resorts to her ego ... because she can't handle the truth of her weakness.

Probably you are moving so fast and intoxicating him,that`s scaring him and making him think if you are the right person or not.

Looool you guys really are out there. I wonder why you bothered to waste so much energy to write all the unecessary butter just to make a peronally aggressive point. Next time ignore posts from people like me it and invest your precious time in something more fruitful to people around you.

Ah, another one of those people ... they seem to gravitate to dxp

Posted by P-Angel

I have no interest in playing nice with people who don't think for themselves, and have to go to random people on a forum to ask them to make a sound judgment call for them.

He probably feels the same way ... I would think that most adults do.

If you can't manage your own feelings, and rationalize what is in your best interest ... then you're just another chucklefuck.

You confuse two things being "Nice and being "Polite"

It's difficult to assess the situation from the outside, but it seems to me that he could be feeling hurt because maybe you don't reciprocate enough ( or at all ?) the attention he is giving to you.
Pisces can be very insecure and you said you had many admirers and made him feel jealous, and this is not the kind of situation that a pisces can tolerate for too long.

Also: I don't buy into all the "give pisces man room to breath" bs that I hear here all the time. I for example can have very dark moods, but they are generally short enough that I can hide them from the S.O., especially at the dating stage. I would never want to subject a woman I love to these, or anybody else for that matter. I always keep my dark mood for myself and I can find enough alone time for that inside a normal schedule. I was married for 8 years and never asked for any of those "give me room" moments to my wife.

What I know OTOH is that I can be dating someone very intensely for a while and being very caring, but I can suddenly snap out of love very fast if I realize that I am not receiving any affection in exchange. That happened a few times.

Once again, I might be wrong, as I don't know what is the state of your relationship.

I personally don't think you are over reacting, however when a man claims to be too tired to even give you a kiss goodnight, well that's not a man who is into you at all.

I know you say he initiated everything etc and how strong he came on, but something has stopped the fire burning. It could be your lack of initiation for example. Were you always waiting for him to initiate? If so, that kind of apathy gets tired real quick.

Whatever it is, being too tired doesn't cut it. I wouldn't be surprised if he's met someone else.

Sorry 😢

Thank you for the nicer comments. I agree that unless you guys new the whole story then it is difficult to see the full picture. We were "friends" for 4 months first during thist time he was wooing me, I was trying to go slowly and only after he came out and told me he is in love with me we started officially date (now 2.5 months).
It is not him contacting me first all the time, sometimes I say hi first. He seems always happy to hear from me, but not always in talkative mood so I don't press, just let him know that I think of him. I do show him that I care for him and express it often. Some days he seems so over confident and next insecure, like when he asked me couple times why I like him, I always told him the truth and mentioned all the characteristics and things I like about him. Little confusing too.
Due to where we live and work we cannot be seen romantically together (which is frustrating but necessary precaution) so he cannot kiss me in public, but once we go to different places then we do of course.
Btw he text me 2x again last night this time in much warmer and romantic way which I have reciprocated. So it answered my post itself.. yes it is better give space when having moody times yet be around for support when he reaches out.

Time will tell how things progress.

And yes I can tell he is jealous sometimes by the attention I get and asks what I do, who I hang out with in subtle way, gets little possessive etc but I always make sure he knows he is the only one I am interested in. I do not play games, straightforward cappie who treats others the way I want to be treated.

Btw interesting the opposite points of view on my story.. some people commented that I "throw myself" at him while others that I don't show enough attention.

I guess the thing is we're not there to see what goes on and we can only go on what is written and how we interpret that.

My only real advice to you is not to have it all go his way, remember you are in the relationship as well. He needs to control his moodiness and not run so hot and cold but be consistent.

If it were me I would be addressing this in a calm, non-emotionally driven way and simply explain that when he runs cold it's hard on you.

Women tend to over-think at the best of times, moreso when there is a perceived issue!

Best of luck with it all.

I lauged at a lot of this. Just saying =p

Being a capricorn I am straightforward and honest. All relationship is about two people making it work and for their needs to be communicated and met.
My gut feeling is telling me that the guy really likes me but he is unsure what to do. He came on very strong for 2 months which stirred me big time and I do believe it was genuine.
However now the reality of things have settled.. like that he works 6 days a week min 12hrs shifts (so we can barely spend time together, more so as we must keep it secret at work, he hates his job and wants to change it as soon as possible, logically these factors are not ideal for starting relationship. And I feel if I ask him directly he will actually not have an answer for me.
I guess sensible thing would be to walk away, but at this point my heart is still too involved. I will back off little and let things happen.

It is also possible that your social life style s aren't so compatible , like maybe he is not very social.
It is also possible that he is socially intimidated because he's indian and you're a white woman.

but you should really ask him rather than ask an internet forum of srangers.
And think of where you yourself want this relationship to go and try to take it there, or not if it's not possible.

Posted by Cappieg

... i get many admirers heRe due to my relatively exotic looks.

It's only a matter of time before he realizes your inflated ego ... and decides you're not worth him.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Cappieg

... i get many admirers heRe due to my relatively exotic looks.

It's only a matter of time before he realizes your inflated ego ... and decides you're not worth him.

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Inflated ego or just an honest assessment? If she is "exotic" looking it could mean she is a blue-eyed blonde in a country filled with brown-eyed brunettes. Naturally people will be drawn to her because of it.

You can be frank about being admired for your looks without being egotistical...just saying!

Earthonfire,

Thank you. That is exactly the case as I am the only European woman (blue eyes/red hair) in our workplace and one of few in town in Middle East region where are only Arab, Indian or Filipino people.