Pisces Women and Domestic Abuse

Hello

I suppose this is an open ended question. Please feel free to share personal experiences and leave feedback.

In your opinion do you think that pisces females are especially prone to attract and stay in physically and emotionally abusive relationships?

I have read a lot about us piscean women are most likely to refuse to leave an abusive relationship because we are quick to say "but I love him" in reference to the abuser. There are also numerous comparisons of pisces women ( in various astrology books that I've read) to the character blanche in the famous play "a street car named desire" who again is another female archetype known for the abuse she undertook from the character stanley. Rihanna another pisces female took Chris Brown back after that famous physical assault. What's interesting is that my mother , another pisces , defended Chris Brown's actions. Two of my best pisces female friends dated abusive partners. One knew about her partners past with meth , as well as being physically abusive to past partners and stayed with him for about a year after knowing that information. My other best friend , another pisces female recently got out of an abusive relationship. He never physically harmed ( with the exception of an incident where he pinned her down on the bed and violently shook her) her but emotionally abused her for most of the duration of their relationship.

Lastly my ex is currently married to a gemini man. I'll give a synopsis of her situation in a separate post.
I'm not trying to make light of the situation . I'm merely sharing an observation in my life that has greatly impacted my emotional sensibilities towards domestic affair as well as in essence something I find troubling in general.

I do believe domestic abuse takes place in all types of relationships and in essence has nothing to do with astrology. However i do believe there maybe a proclivity for certain types of women to be victims , especially victims of continuous abuse. It's really sad.

This post isn't about me but a close loved one. I'm posting this in the hopes that a woman who finds herself in a similar situation will have the courage to finally break free.One of my closest loved ones is a pisces female who is married to a gemini man. They have been together for about a year and half. At first she told me that everything seemed wonderful. Like similar posts have said after about a week of dating he told her how much he loved her and within a month he was talking about marrying her and taking her back to his home country. Long story short she got pregnant and was forced into marrying him so that he could get his green card anyway. I've speculated that that may have been his plan the entire time as his student visa expired merely months before they met.She disagrees of course. She also later told me that she recently found out that he proposed to another girl two months before they met. Again it seems like he had an agenda from the very beginning. After they got married she told me everything changed. Since then he's been emotionally and as of recent physically abusive towards her. In addition he flirts with other girls and completely disrespects her to her face. He only makes an effort when she musters up enough self esteem to stand up for herself and attempt to break up with him. I believe he only makes an effort , apologizes, says that he loves her etc. because he still needs her for financial support , housing , as well as to secure his green card. Breaking up with her now would jeopardize all of that. Like other post have said the gemini man will pretend like nothing happened after a fallout in attempt to get back with his mate. Their mates will assume that he has a mental problem or that it was just all in their head. Gemini men can be very manipulative. Women with low self esteem are also easy prey. I pray to God that she will eventually see the truth and break away before he can do more harm to her emotionally and physically. He choked her last time. I'm scared of what he will do the next time they have a fight. On average, a woman will leave an abusive relationship seven to nine times before she leaves for good.

Here are some common characteristics of women who are abused ( some of these are very piscean***) :

They have a low self-esteem.
They have a submissive personality.***
They feel inferior to others.
They depend on others, emotionally and financially.
They have unrealistic expectations.
They feel they need to be controlled (or —protected??) by others.
They are excessively tolerant and accommodating.***
They don't stand for their rights.***
They deceive themselves by thinking that —one day- magically, the abuser will change.
The blame themselves on other people's problems, or they blame it on the world, or life, or luck or a given situation.
They are not aware of the fact that they allow abuse to occur.
They tend to have a difficult time with setting boundaries and saying "No??.****
They tend to have fairy tale type thinking (i.e. - everyone has "some good" in them),***

Posted by flowingwater
They have a low self-esteem.
They have a submissive personality.***
They feel inferior to others.
They depend on others, emotionally and financially.
They have unrealistic expectations.
They feel they need to be controlled (or —protected??) by others.
They are excessively tolerant and accommodating.***
They don't stand for their rights.***
They deceive themselves by thinking that —one day- magically, the abuser will change.
The blame themselves on other people's problems, or they blame it on the world, or life, or luck or a given situation.
They are not aware of the fact that they allow abuse to occur.
They tend to have a difficult time with setting boundaries and saying "No??.****
They tend to have fairy tale type thinking (i.e. - everyone has "some good" in them),***

Sadly, the bold explains me at times. When I was younger my Venus in Pisces was very apparent but as I've gotten older my Aries has just dominated my chart. I only show true love to those who deserve it.

The ones you bolded I do too, granted I don't tolerate abusive relationships, but I do note that piscean women who do share characteristics with me. The one core difference I note between that type of thinking and my own is the "The blame themselves on other people's problems, or they blame it on the world, or life, or luck or a given situation." That I cannot really tolerate in anyone, I might have doormat moments, but I own them and either change the situation or leave.

Its about having the wisdom to know who you truly are, accepting that, and then acting accordingly in doing whatever you need too to keep yourself safe.

I'm currently reading 'Stalking the Soul' by M. Hirigoyen, translated into English by Helen Marx. It's about abusive relationships, not solely romantic relationships but also familial and working relationships. Whilst I've only read a little so far, I consider it a helpful book, and recommend it to anyone who is in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship (most of us, in some way, at some time!) and seeking clarity or self-understanding on the subject. Obviously ppl can only get free when they are ready to, but I think this book is helpful in elucidating the structures and patterns that pertain in/underpin abusive relationships. I came across the book by chance, whilst looking for something else, and am reading it in the spirit of 'forewarned is forearmed', as well as to better understand and give me a space to reflect upon past (and some ongoing) relationships... Very saddened to hear the stories above. x

No a March pisces - specifically
Pisces sun
Mercury in Pisces
Moon on Taurus
Venus in Aquarius

And he's a June Gemini
Specifically
Gemini sun
Mercury in Gemini
Scorpio moon
Cancer Venus

I agree with you whole heartedly Lex . I also think really truly loving yourself too would aid in the ability to resist or leave abusive courtships . The last time I talked to her she kept blaming herself for all that went wrong in their relationship . She had moments of clarity in which she acknowledged her underserving mistreatment but ultimately she went back to him . Again using him as someone who help defines her and give her self worth . Stating that " we " are trying to figure out what's best to do in reference to her and her abusive spouse .

To be fair lady of rebirth Aries placements are good in that they crave and are good at change . I have 3 Pisces women in my life including my mom that all have Aries Venus signs . They almost always are the ones to initiate break ups and are better at not looking back than other people I know . But I do agree with you . I feel for your sister as well the mom of March 19 ...its tough knowing that a loved one is in an abusive situation and is susceptible to various forms of mental emotional and physical harm .

Seems like the Gemini sun and Scorpio moon aren't a good combo . I had a former friend who was a gay male interesting enough with those placements who was very verbally abusive towards his female best friend. I don't think he was with his male taurean lover though . His best friend warned me about his other side when we had just started hanging out . I got to see his other side once but I was numb to the whole experience since I expected it . I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt .He was very vicious though . I still can't believe some of the words that came out of his mouth .It was the last time we had correspondence with each other .