Someone give me some insight on a pisces woman please.

So I met this pisces girl a fee weeks ago. We hit it off amazing, we talked for hours, set up a date, went on it this past saturday. Everything went well she said she loved it. Well the next day things started getting strange, she was texting me but it just wasn't the same. I backed off but she would still taken initiative to communicate even though she was short and not enthusiastic like she was prior and kept telling me she didn't feel good. We'll finally today I got it out of her that I did nothing wrong, I was a gentleman and it was an amazing date, but something just didn't click for her. At that point I told her that I can no longer talk to her because I can't catch feelings if she isn't feeling it. Is it possible for them to change their mind when left alone? Or is there no hope?

Perception does not always = reality.

You thought you hit it off 'amazingly'.

She said it didn't click for her.

So let it go. It shouldn't be that hard of work at the very beginning especially.

Yeah if it doesn’t click both ways, it doesn’t click. Move on and find someone where the feeling is mutual. Reciprocity is the only way for success.

Well it's harder than I thought. I'm not a man who falls easily but for 2 strait weeks we would talk in the phone or video chat for literally hours, she would be all mushy and even tell me how she felt. Then all of a sudden we meet, date goes great, 5 days later here we are. All I'm asking is if they typically are back and forth with their emotions.

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Well it's harder than I thought. I'm not a man who falls easily but for 2 strait weeks we would talk in the phone or video chat for literally hours, she would be all mushy and even tell me how she felt. Then all of a sudden we meet, date goes great, 5 days later here we are. All I'm asking is if they typically are back and forth with their emotions.

Chatting over the phone is a lot different from meeting in person. Something was missing for her... the chemistry, attraction, etc. Or it might have had nothing to do with you and just her realization she's not ready for a romantic relationship... only she knows.

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If she doesn't feel the same, why is she stringing you along?

Moreover, why are you being a doormat?

How is she leading him on when she was up front and said the spark wasn’t there for her? Is it because she is being friendly and still texting him as a friend that makes it come across like she’s stringing him along? They just met in person not even a full week ago.

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Its a pattern with him. The female is always to blame in every scenario.

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

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The first date was on Saturday, the confession on Wednesday. It's not like she dragged out the situation for months and years.... She let him down gently.

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If she doesn't feel the same, why is she stringing you along?

Moreover, why are you being a doormat?

How is she leading him on when she was up front and said the spark wasn’t there for her? Is it because she is being friendly and still texting him as a friend that makes it come across like she’s stringing him along? They just met in person not even a full week ago.

Its a pattern with him. The female is always to blame in every scenario.

If the woman straight up ghosted him she would be called a bitch, stuck up, etc.

but since she was friendly while trying to process her feelings before coming out with them, then she is stringing him along.

Damned if we do, damned if we don’t. Lol

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Pretty much. Makes me think of this

Lol and now I'm reading that women are responsible for giving men false hope.

Your emotions are your emotions. Don't blame that on our shoulders.

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

The first date was on Saturday, the confession on Wednesday. It's not like she dragged out the situation for months and years.... She let him down gently.

But she still needed prompting. How long would she have carried on the charade for, had the OP not pressed her?

Life's too short and she gave the OP false hope. It doesn't matter if it was for half a day or three, that's what she did...

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Well, he still hangs onto some hope, that's why he came here. Because hope is a good feeling to have. Proven to be false, indeed, but only retrospectively. It doesn't turn itself on and off like a tap.

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

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We as Pisces need to think things over first and be absolutely certain before we tell you how we really feel, good or bad. We dont want to hurt people so it takes a lot to think it over and make sure that how we feel 100%

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

The first date was on Saturday, the confession on Wednesday. It's not like she dragged out the situation for months and years.... She let him down gently.

But she still needed prompting. How long would she have carried on the charade for, had the OP not pressed her?

Life's too short and she gave the OP false hope. It doesn't matter if it was for half a day or three, that's what she did...

Well, he still hangs onto some hope, that's why he came here. Because hope is a good feeling to have. Proven to be false, indeed, but only retrospectively. It doesn't turn itself on and off like a tap.

And that's why I've criticised both parties - her for giving him false hope and him for being a doormat...

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At least he wasn't hope-less 😄

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

We as Pisces need to think things over first and be absolutely certain before we tell you how we really feel, good or bad. We dont want to hurt people so it takes a lot to think it over and make sure that how we feel 100%

Cut the bullshit. Don't wanna to hear it...

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Your truth is yours, this is mine.

I recently had same thing happen to me but I was the one not feeling it. It took me 2 days to tell the guy. I did not text him but he'd text me. The 2 days I replied in a cool matter and said I needed time to think. I was deciding if I wanted him in my life as a friend still or not. I already told him on the date that I'm not at same place with my feelings as him but he would not want to hear it. That even made me re-evaluate the friendship on its own. I came to conclusion that I cant even give him that at this moment cause of what happened on the date. It took a lot of me to come to that conclusion as I valued the friendship a lot. So yeah, Pisces need time to think things over... dont care if you think its bullshit. Thats how we are and what we do. Deal with it. Ohhh and ghosting = rude! Very rude! Disrespectful even.

Right. To be fair I did have to get it out of her, for some days before I would even back off some and she would take initiative to send me a good morning text and start the conversation. I just don't get that mentality I suppose.

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

We as Pisces need to think things over first and be absolutely certain before we tell you how we really feel, good or bad. We dont want to hurt people so it takes a lot to think it over and make sure that how we feel 100%

Cut the bullshit. Don't wanna to hear it...

Your truth is yours, this is mine.

I recently had same thing happen to me but I was the one not feeling it. It took me 2 days to tell the guy. I did not text him but he'd text me. The 2 days I replied in a cool matter and said I needed time to think. I was deciding if I wanted him in my life as a friend still or not. I already told him on the date that I'm not at same place with my feelings as him but he would not want to hear it. That even made me re-evaluate the friendship on its own. I came to conclusion that I cant even give him that at this moment cause of what happened on the date. It took a lot of me to come to that conclusion as I valued the friendship a lot. So yeah, Pisces need time to think things over... dont care if you think its bullshit. Thats how we are and what we do. Deal with it. Ohhh and ghosting = rude! Very rude! Disrespectful even.

You obviously haven't read my posts properly because you're so triggered. Your problem not mine.

What you did was very different to what the Pisces did in the OP's story. At least you communicated it with your date in advance. This Pisces didn't.

So, if you want to continue acting bitchy, please carry on...

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Well, you dont know if she did or didnt cause you are reading an one sided story. You are not reading her side. For all we know, she did communicate but he didnt listen properly. So yeah, I'll be a bitch and bitch about it. Dont care....

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So I met this pisces girl a fee weeks ago. We hit it off amazing, we talked for hours, set up a date, went on it this past saturday. Everything went well she said she loved it. Well the next day things started getting strange, she was texting me but it just wasn't the same. I backed off but she would still taken initiative to communicate even though she was short and not enthusiastic like she was prior and kept telling me she didn't feel good. We'll finally today I got it out of her that I did nothing wrong, I was a gentleman and it was an amazing date, but something just didn't click for her. At that point I told her that I can no longer talk to her because I can't catch feelings if she isn't feeling it. Is it possible for them to change their mind when left alone? Or is there no hope?

It can be anything! Does your breath smell? Do you have BO? Are you shorter/taller than seemed?

Do you bite nails? Or skin? Any disgusting habits?

She is done. It’s for future. So you won’t make same mistakes...

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i met someone offline before and he stunk so bad and had holes in his shoes. and he tried to touch my ass 😢

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I agree with ladyneptune that the conversation can be great but sometimes when you meet someone in person you just know that it’s not there for you. I have experienced this myself. At least she is being honest with you though. I don’t blame you for telling her you’d prefer space to get her out of your head, I’m sure she will respect that.

But she wasn't being honest. She dragged out the situation until the OP forced her hand...

We as Pisces need to think things over first and be absolutely certain before we tell you how we really feel, good or bad. We dont want to hurt people so it takes a lot to think it over and make sure that how we feel 100%

Cut the bullshit. Don't wanna to hear it...

Your truth is yours, this is mine.

I recently had same thing happen to me but I was the one not feeling it. It took me 2 days to tell the guy. I did not text him but he'd text me. The 2 days I replied in a cool matter and said I needed time to think. I was deciding if I wanted him in my life as a friend still or not. I already told him on the date that I'm not at same place with my feelings as him but he would not want to hear it. That even made me re-evaluate the friendship on its own. I came to conclusion that I cant even give him that at this moment cause of what happened on the date. It took a lot of me to come to that conclusion as I valued the friendship a lot. So yeah, Pisces need time to think things over... dont care if you think its bullshit. Thats how we are and what we do. Deal with it. Ohhh and ghosting = rude! Very rude! Disrespectful even.

You obviously haven't read my posts properly because you're so triggered. Your problem not mine.

What you did was very different to what the Pisces did in the OP's story. At least you communicated it with your date in advance. This Pisces didn't.

So, if you want to continue acting bitchy, please carry on...

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The funny part is tho, men keep stringing women along for weeks, months, years and thats socially accepted and women are being told to toughen up and take the reigns into their own hands but when we take a few days to think things over, we're instigating, stringing the guy along, and we're a bitch.

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Right. To be fair I did have to get it out of her, for some days before I would even back off some and she would take initiative to send me a good morning text and start the conversation. I just don't get that mentality I suppose.

What's your sun and moon?

Ok so I get that they need time to decide how they feel. Now I want to know if there is any way of winning the heart? Because if there's a way I'll do it. I'm a man who never gives up on something until it is entirely hopeless.

Pisces girlies wanna play and surprisingly, in my exp, like wishy washy dudes just like them.

They take forever to commit.

Remember, Pisces is the sign of the 'journeyman'.

Use astrology to your advantage. 🤐😋

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Lol and now I'm reading that women are responsible for giving men false hope.

Your emotions are your emotions. Don't blame that on our shoulders.

Girl. Men will lead women on for 5 whole years promising marriage and white picket fence and nobody flinches. Defends the guy and say he needs time to “get his ducks lined up”. But will be mad about a woman being ambiguous for 5 whole days. 🤣 like wait, WHAT?!

Preaching to the freaken choir here.

Not to mention the fact he was the one to back off after the date which was most likely the reason she was keeping her text communication short. That and idk the fact she told him she wasn't feeling good!!

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Well the next day things started getting strange, she was texting me but it just wasn't the same. I backed off but she would still taken initiative to communicate even though she was short and not enthusiastic like she was prior and kept telling me she didn't feel good.

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For me, if I sensed someone back off after a good date and I was the only one taking initiative... I'd probably come to the same conclusion as her, "its not clicking".

No, I didn't start backing off until her texts became short and not near as often. I didn't begin to back off until early monday.

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No, I didn't start backing off until her texts became short and not near as often. I didn't begin to back off until early monday.

Did you even ask her if she was feeling better after she told you she wasn't feeling good?

Like, show any concern... at all.

You said her texts were shorter and she said she wasn't feeling good. Did you not think the 2 are connected?

Anyways Pisces like to be pursued. Not super aggressively, but we do like to see some effort from the other person. Perhaps you backing off and changing your behavior was the catalyst for her thinking its not 'clicking' for her.

Did you suggest a second date at all?

Yes, I did all of that, kept asking her how she felt, I suggested a 2nd date the day if the first one and she said maybe another day when she is kid free but didn't know when that would be. She also went from not feeling good for 2 day's to "not knowing what was wrong with her, just off her norm." But I definitly did not back off unless it was necessary, I would stay engaged until she basically was giving 2 word text answers and taking hours to do it.

Gut feeling....she's dealing with someone/something else.

She's not in a spot to make you her priority.

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Yes, I did all of that, kept asking her how she felt, I suggested a 2nd date the day if the first one and she said maybe another day when she is kid free but didn't know when that would be. She also went from not feeling good for 2 day's to "not knowing what was wrong with her, just off her norm." But I definitly did not back off unless it was necessary, I would stay engaged until she basically was giving 2 word text answers and taking hours to do it.

So all I got is maybe don't date a woman who has kids and has the time to send you paragraph responses so you get the attention you need.

No, that's not it at all, I also have a kid so kids aren't the issue. For 2 solid weeks she still Sent massive texts and would talk or video chat with me all night. Nothing put of the ordinary happened until after the date.

Ok well let me ask this. By the way I appreciate some of your all's feed back. So we are still friends, I can tell she values our friendship we have aquired, would it be acceptable for me to just shoot her a text maybe once every week or 2 just to say hey, just seeing how things are going? Or do you think with her knowing how I feel.now (which was a mistake on my part to tell her) would she maybe be bothered by this? Would it be acceptable for me to maybe ask her after some time has passed if she would be intrested in hanging out as friends, we have things in common that we could do together like go to the gym. I feel now especially since its been so soon that maybe being friends for quite some time and sticking around may spark something after some time? Idk just throwing out a few ideas here, and I'm not a female lol, but I know how I would react if the tables were turned.