Tired of Dreaming

Hey Everyone,

I'm a virgin to this site but after looking around a little, I reckon you guys could probably help me sort through some of this crap in my head. I'm a Pisces who about a month ago came out of a 2year relationship with a gorgeous Gemini girl. We always had an incredible physical attraction, aswell as intellectual but for some reason we faught over the most stupid and insignificant crap. One minute we would be wispering sweet nothings in each others ear, the next we would be trying to rip each others ears off.

I chose not to believe all of these compatability charts that stated loud and clear that Pisces and Gems are not a good idea. But after trying every approach in the "How to make a relationship work" book we realised it was time to part ways. This is the hard part, every time I feel like I'm getting closer to getting over the break up, my uncontrollable mind goes wondering, dreaming about how it could be if this happenned or if that happenned.

My Gem girl seems to be coping a lot better than I am. I know where I need to get to mind wise but I'm struggling to get there. Does anyone think that maybe because we are natural dreamers it makes it harder for us to get over stuff than our less more grounded counterparts?

Water is the emotion element.Air is intellect element but thier also very unattached to emotions and carefree.

And nice to chit chat with ya i'm a newbi too but a scorpio.

I am relatively knew to this board as well. A warm welcome to both of you. Everyone here is so kind; you will really enjoy the time you spend here.

From what I have read from other posts there is more to compatibility than just the Gem/Pisces thing. So maybe there were other aspect that were unfavorable in your charts. Such as a negative Sun-Moon aspect.

I am a pisces and find I am in love with a Gemini and I am finding it incredibly difficult to enter into a relationship with my Gem; for fear of getting hurt. Even though we have this absolutely amazing connection. I was surprised to hear that you two argued because I have known my Gem for 14 years and never had an arguement.

I have done some research on Gem/Pisces relationships. I found an interesting website that talks of Gem/Pisces relationships maybe it could help you find a place in your heart and mind for your Gem girl and be able to move on.

The site is www.mystir.com/scope.htm

Good Luck!

BJ- I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time- Don't cut yourself down about being a dreamer though- the dreaming does go with the (pisces) territory- And it's natural to suffer a bit when coming out of any relationship... and to think of the shoulda's, coulda's, woulda's... just don't stay stuck forever :-)

I find this extremely fascinating- This gem/pisces stuff- Gem/Pisces is really a mystery to me- I've been looking very deeply into this. I have a super close connection with a gemini male- He is TWICE my age, we are very, very different, but we have this "awesome" connection that is actually pretty scary- I say it is the mercury/neptune thing. It is said that when neptune and mercury merge, a rare, beautiful, spiritual connection is made. My gem friend and I think we were together in a past life!!- My gem has a deeper "emotional" side than the typical portrayal, so this baffles me also- He tells me to "get a new book" because he has spent his life "living from the heart" rather than the mind... But, man, this guy is so "intellectual"-I am in the process of doing his birth chart so that I can see the influence of the other planets- because I've read, time and time again, that gems and pisces don't mix- and, it can't be that "cut and dry"... I really think that the "attraction" and subsequent "connection" between these two signs is quite underestimated-

baffled by Gem also:-)

Don't rush yourself. I know after a break-up, we try so hard to forget so we can get the past the pain faster. The bad thing is, it just takes as long as it takes. It takes me a reeeealllly long time to get over relationships. And whatever period of time you're thinking, add about two years to that..and that's how long it takes me. 😉

We are idealistic. We want so much for everything to be perfect, and when something or someone does not meet our expectations, we come crashing down. But, you'll be swimming again and loving life, fishie. Just give it some time. 😉

Thanks heaps to everyone who read my post.

Caridad, I read the article that you suggested and it was spot on. Of cousre it all comes down to the individual and how we take things on but I found a lot of the scenarios to ring true with my situation. I feel in a friendship Gems & Pisces would have no reason to come head to head because of there not being such a strong emotional involvement. Most of the arguements I had with my Ex came from either me not getting enough emotional stimulation and affection or me not being able to read her mind.

That probably sounds a little one sided but this is MY story. The truth is I don't have any bad feelings toward my Ex over our break up. We both put in as much as we could whilst trying to maintain who we are but just couldn't pull it off. I found that my Gem girl didn't find it as easy as I do to express her emotions. I found for her there was a time and place showing affection which for a paranoid Pisces just left me wondering how much she really loved me.

Although brilliant with words and more than capable of spinning me into a web of confusion with them, I found my Gem girl quite unwilling to communicate when it came to matters of the heart. This of course depended on which Gemini twin I was dealing
with at the time. I also found My Gem to crack the shits and get uptight very easily over what seemed to me to be trivial stuff. To the free flowing fish this was just Focking up my high. So it was these small things that were slowly eating away at our relationship. Every action had an equal or greater reaction.

There was a piece in the article that talked about the Gemini taking the Pisces apart and not putting him back together properly. I guess that's how I feel right now. I used to be so proud to be a fish, a wise old soul who could empathise with and relate to almost anyone. The twins have forced me to look at all my insecurities and to be frank... I'm not sure I like what I see.

I know it's not that cut and dry.My suggestion would be to compare your natel charts to find out what is really behind those situations.Whether its a good thing she changed you or if it was just a childesh temper tantrum on her side because she can't relate to people(one of the reasons I generally don't like gems which you will find out on other threads.)

Gems do seem to be known for their mood swings and tanties. Of which when asked they will tell you they can't help it. They know they do it but simply can't control it. These situations were major contributors to the demise of our relationship.
Being a Pisces, I don't understand why you'd want to put yourself through these feelings. Life doesn't have to be that hard.

Gems are also known to be good communicators. In my experience, I found Gems are great with words but as far as being the first to come out and say what they really think when it comes to feelings, that's another story.

I may be a dreamer but I never hesitate to put it all on the table when there's something on my mind.

I am sorry that your relationship with your Gem was difficult. I have only know two Gems but they are both extremely different. My Gem cousin sounds exactly like your Gem girl. My Gem friend is very emotional and is able to express it. He is very "lovey-dovey" but he has alot of water in his chart.

I know what you are saying about "a time and place for showing affection". My Cappy was that way and it lead to our break-up. He would never show affection in public. Holding hands was a "no-no". At first I thought it was me. However I asked his ex's and they said "that is just the way he is" Drove me absolutely batty.

BJ please remember the wonderful things that make you a pisces. Gentleness, patience, generosity, mystical, poetic, vulnerable, sensitive, intuitive, kind, compassionate, introspective, inspired, subtle, charming, insightful, and imaginative just to name a few.

I think you should try a Cancer native. They are so kind and generous with their affection.

My ex was a gemini (my moon sign)...I attract mainly gemini men and earth men- from experience, pisces really do have a great connection with cancers and scorpios- we are all water and very deep thinkiers/feelers & we are all cautious.

Leos and libras bring some spice into our lives- not the best for long term, but great to laugh with and strong attraction.

Back to geminis. I observe my brother who is born may 25- full blown gem. in my book: they are intelligent, witty: can really make you laugh from the pit of your stmach and just fun to talk to- yes, they love to communicate. I have a gemini moon and pisces sun- nickname = "phone operator" from my family.

Astrology works- it would be better to do a composite/synastry chart to look at your aspects. But hey, things happen for a reason- there are so many people out there. I just got out of a 4 year relationship that was slowly crumbling. My gemini ex. didn't shed one tear even though I left him. Nope, those geminis never show emotion.

Not all geminis are cheaters, but they have 2 personalities- this is true. One can be very understanding while the other is flaky and critical.

I dont know how old you are, I just turned 24 and have alot of relationship experience. The best advice is to get your head out of cloud nine. Being a pisces, I can totally relate to the day dreaming. However, it could get out of hand and give you false hope- our greatest challenge is to be more realistic and get out other foot out of the land of make believe. Good luck!