Unrequited Love Stress

Hey fellow fish.

I'm currently in a difficult situation. This girl who I developed very intense feelings for lives in another state, and is currently dating another guy. Basically I missed my chance to be with her, out of understandable fears and practicality and naturally, she moved on.

However, since she's moved on I realized I had fallen for her and didn't even recognize it before - because we talked daily and now the quantity and quality of our conversations has definitely dropped. And I miss her. So I'm trying to bide my time, and like get over it, but my heart literally is aching and thoughts of her invade constantly. Also, I keep dreaming of her, which doesn't help things.

The worst is that she says someday she sees herself with me, but I mean, come on... let's live in reality. In a way it is unfair of her to say that to me because I can't stand idly by while she dates another.

I'm trying to back off but my heart is like in agony. I'm trying to focus on work, and exercise, and distractions like TV and books, even meditation. But still it just hurts hard right now.

All this stress started about a month ago, and really intensified over the past 10 days or so.

I just need some advice on how to remove the stress and sadness this all is causing me. I feel like on the verge of tears a lot lately. Lame.

Actually just writing out my feelings here brings me some relief in a way.

I told you the deal the first time ..... the fact you can't handle the truth sounds like the only real problem you are faced with at the moment.

Get that through your head ... and all this other bullshit will come into focus.