What's this pisces guy's motivation?

Hiya. Just wondering if any of you pisces people can throw some lihgt on the bahvior of my latest paramour. We share a house, we slept together twice a little over a week ago.

A brief sketch of events: broken up with a Virgo guy whom I had been seeing for 3 months, a week before (not that that's relevant to this post). Was chatting with this guy M in the TV room. Previously we would have brief conversations about different things. I found him to be slightly shy and a gentle personality inspite of his rocker/Anthrax style black and red clothing. He had told me that he found it difficult to speak to women he cares for as he had been fancying some woman in his university faculty and she ended up copping off with some Italian stallion because he never got the guts up to ask her out.

So anyway, we chat for a while, I say I'm off to bed, he touches my arm and pulls me back on the sofa (classic Hollywood manoeuvre!) and then we kiss and he says I'm a good kisser. I look in his eyes for the first time and see them to be much darker than I thought initally. He asks me do I want to snuggle with him for the night to which I say "yes please".

We get into my bed both with our night attire on, we cuddle and then he's moving against me and then he whispers to me that he wants to **** me all night which he pretty much does. And he's good and I like it and we kiss a lot too and he turns out to be an amazing lover. 2 nights later, I call into his room and we have a chat and a beer and he asks me was it ok that he did what he did and that he hoped I'm not upset by what happened and that it wasn't just a rebound thing for me. Then I say it was fine and I kiss him and we sleep together agian in his room this time. He kisses me afterwards and we hold eachother all night.

So a few nights later, it's saturday night and I'm feeling a bit silly and tipsy and I drop a note under his door saying Hi and hope he's well xx etc etc. He has his earphones in as he's working on a university paper or something and I open his door gently and attempt to clos it but he hears me and comes out to say he's busy and was on a work buzz. I say that's fine although I'm feeling really stupidand embarassed and the next mornng I feel awkward around him.

So since then I have't seen him at all. He has been coming back to the house really late every night and I'm guessing he's trying to avoid seeing me. I'm wondering why he is? Does he realise he made a big mistake sleeping with me and that he doesn't want to have to endure me knocking on his door wanting again some night? Or is he shy? Or or what??

By the way I'm an aquarian with venus and mercury in Capricorn so I can be kinda conservative in all the wrong departments!

MellowDee... I'm not a Pisces, but since I've been in contact with you, I figure you wouldn't mind.

Anyway, pardon me for being harsh- but hear me out..

This encounter you had with this guy.... ever thought that maybe it was just good fun for him? Perhaps he found you attractive and wanted to know what it was like to "have" you.. and once his curiousity was satisfied, he now wants things to fall back to the way they were-- in terms of your friendship with him. Maybe also he sees how you took it more seriously than he does.. and it's freaking him out.... I mean, because, sex and then avoidence is generally indicative of this (or at the very least a BAD thing).

Also, I want to ask, have you identified YOUR feelings about this person? As a matter of fact, are you SURE you really like this guy before you're going through the trouble of "figuring him out"? Never mind whether or not he really likes you.. how do YOU feel?

Here's what I think..... On a even more deeper level, going back to what I ( and others ) were trying to tell you on the Virgo board, you gotta take time out for yourself.

Seems to me that relationships are some sort of validation for you- which allows you to find yourself in predicatments with an "incapatible" mate. Of course, I could be wrong, but I'm only asking you to consider it.

I found that once I got comfortable in my own skin- relating to others became less confusing.

Yeah, as there was no date and not much conversation, I'm sure he was just thinking it was a casual sex thing. Do you want a relationship with this guy?

No not a relationship as yet. Just another few encounters would be nice and then if he doesn't feel anything for me or vice versa that there would be a smooth breaking off period. Like there have been occasions where I have slept with people that I realise afterwards that I don't really gel with and I have had to tell them something to that effect as I will _expect_ them to be in contact with me, like it's convention, if you know what I mean. We're sharing a house and my room is next door to his so he's playing a bit close to home (!) if he just fancied an inconsequential shag without putting me in the picture too! Although it is possible I don't think so as in the 9 months I have been in the house he has never had anyone back and also he has been coming back every night since then quite late in order to avoid me I guess. Now wouldn't it be better for him if he just spoke to me and cleared the air of any awkwardness.

Yeah but all this conjecturing is indeed making me avoid considering why/whether I should care so much. Good point. I just want a nice man maybe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!