when a Fish has swam . . .

He is your friend.

that was gentle two-by-four . . . thank you.

I can make it harder 🙂

You are reading too much into his gestures, trying to find a reason for him contacting you to mean more .... his actions, according to what you have written sounds like he's simply a friend, keeping in touch once in a while.

no, no that first gentle wack was sufficient! thank you for responding . . .

I disagree.

He never swam away. He wants things on his terms only. I bet the reason he wanted to back away in the first place was because you started to need him in some way. This guy wants to have his cake and eat it too.

Calling you to see if you're dating anyone...checking up on the new developments in your life...for what? Because he still thinks he might want you. And as long as you're on standby (single & answering his questions) he feels as if he might could still have you if and when he decides he wants you again.

Do you want him? If so I would recommend you start moving on and dating other guys. If you don't I would suggest you set him straight about asking about your love life and stop answering his calls.
Both of these will increase call volume from him and he probably will tell you whata mistake he made and how he wants you.

Get with him if u want, but this will not stop the periodic false swims in the future.

P-Angel/ Gem/ Ioflye . . . many thanks for taking the time to read and advise.

Imitation, I think the comments are not necessarily in disagreement. Now, he is a friend . . . on his terms . . . probably with the idea that we could be intimate again.

That sums up the above I think.

But yes, I pushed too quickly at first, you are correct there. I am dating others but even if I wanted more from this fish (would I write if I didn't?), I do not think I can force it with expressing the idea. (I am a ram, believe me, I could go there if I thought otherwise.)

No one really defined "swam" but this is probably more a male/ female thing than fish/ ram. Was just looking for some meaning I suppose . . .

(shakes head . . . damn fishes & boys!)

When fish truly swim, they do not come back; but that should be conditioned by the fact that if they do, it will never be completely.

"When fish truly swim, they do not come back; but that should be conditioned by the fact that if they do, it will never be completely."


Sort of .. but, not entirely.

What has to be acknowledged, moreso than whether they actually swim away, or not ... is whether they actually ever swam towards, in the first place.

A person cannot lose what they never really had.

A Piscean love is not on the same level as others ... our closest relatives would probably be a Gemini.

Two existences ... love is divided.

KC .. to help clarify the term, "swim" .... and keep in mind here, that swimming away isn't a physical thing. A Pisces is perfectly capable of swimming away, while living in the same house with you ... and they are capable of living in another country, while being "with" you.

Swim = emotional ... and NOT a physical state of being.


If, and when a Fish says something like, "I don't care about blah blah" .... that is your sign.

The word "care" .... I don't care what you say, I don't care what you think, I don't care where you go, I don't care whether you like it or not ............. if he says he doesn't 'care' .. he's gone.

I guess it depends on what u call a friend kc. I wouldn't call him ur friend based on what u typed in here.

Bottom line. He wants you. He's just not sure he can live up to what u need in a relationship.

And what pangel typed about the "don't care" stuff I disagree with. When a person truely doesn't care...they don't say it...they show it.

I don't know how many times I've heard "I don't care"....."don't talk to me ever again"...."bye then!!!" From my pisces ex.

Only to find him a few days ( or weeks or months) later sitting at my doorstep like a little lost puppy. Lol. Cute....

In his mind it wasn't that long. This is the point when most chicks panic. During those times he called asked who I was dating....told me he was dating someone...I played it cool & by the end of the convo he told me he lied & that he just wanted to see what I'd do...he misses & wants me...etc

I'd say become more mysterious...odds are ur too predictable. Ur the constant in this "relationship" he's the variable. Just come outta left field with something....

OMG GemGal is that really you?! For some reason I pictured you to be a brunette, like a witch or Angelica Houston type, attractive but sinister. You look like Glenda the good witch!

Last year, she had a pic up that looked completely different, and more like you envisioned, Klover, only not sinister.


Full, round face, dark brown hair, pretty eyes ... very attractive. Head slighted tilted downward, and expression of innocence with a slight sultry touch.


Demure comes to mind .... with a hint of naughty.

Shape shifters

Whoaaaa...

Gemgal when did you and p angel start kissing each others azzes?

"was saying maybe she should just ask him.. instead of coming hear asking people that dont know him.."

You mean, COMMON SENSE? I forgot what that looked like. 🙂

"sounds like she is the one who is looking for an answer of how she should react.. not how he should react"


^^^^^^^

I swear your hair was brown .. or maybe it was a black and white picture, and it only looked brown .. or else, I'm going color blind.

Put up the old pic .. my curiosity has to know.

He swam...from my own "swimming away experience" he's gone...lol. heeeheee...