Why does he treat me like his little sister?

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Him
Sun:pisces
Venus:pisces
Moon:libra
rising:gemini

Me
Sun:cancer
Venus:cancer
Moon:gemini
Rising:gemini


do we have too much in common? i dont understand. would he treat anybody like an annoyance? he expects me to get out of our room when hes trying to sleep during the day when everybody else has got a day schedule. he knows he has a bed to sleep in downstairs where its quiet. should i really just leave my room until he wakes up in the afternoon? he threatens to make the computer off limits if i cant find sumthin quieter to do like read or draw. i dont mind if he hangs out with his friends but he just got outa bed today with out tellin me anything about todays plans and said he was taking his friend jeffrey out. i asked if i could come along and he said no bc i went last time. he talks to me like im a pain in his ass and when i told him that i have a life too he just said "i know you do" that was it. he half asses his effort into this relationship. i do my part, i refuse to do his. i make him do his own and when i feel that hes slacking i tell him and he gets mad. hes known for being lazy. he tells me i nag him too much but i dont think i nag unless sumthin isnt right. is it time for me to leave him? do you think hed be happier with out me?
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it would be really hard to leave him right now.. i want to try to work things out so badly. we have a baby on the way and he acts like its MY problem. do you suppose that he just the type that wants his wife to stay home and cook, clean, raise the kids while he works the job and has a life? he told me that he doesnt want me to get a job that he wants to do all the work. i actually have some activities lined up for myself. like sewing classes and parenting classes. he goes to parenting classes with me tho. we are both 20 and 22 and come from very difrent families. so i prefer that we learn how to raise our child together from professionals instead of fight over whats right and wrong and what we learned from our parents.
when i looked for a job a month ago he was all bummed, i could tell he didnt want any1 to hire me, well he got lucky, no1 did hire me i take it its bc im pregnant. he seemed relieved.
does he just want me to be a house wife?
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It's my suspicion that you aren't in love with him, eventhough engaged to be married to him and having his child .. two people who aren't in love usually have a hard time in relationships.

While talking on the Scorp board about how much you care for and about the Scorpio man, the below quote was what you were saying as to why you can't be with Scorpio man ..


" .. but i had to make some changes on myself b4 bringing a new person into my life and i have tried to make him understand that.
i went back to my ex b/c i felt he was my only way out. he got me out of the state i was living in and brought me to a much cleaner environment with very supportive people and now im completly broke loose from what i had to overcome. i found out that im having his baby after i moved with him. so i even quit smoking cigarretts. my fiance and baby have saved my life."


This Pisces man to whom you are engaged was your rescue from yourself and what hardships you were going through, your only way out ... and so I believe you are confused.

You talk about caring feelings when discussing the Scorp
You talk about resentment feelings when discuss the Pisces


Just because he saved your life doesn't mean your heart is supposed to be forever endowed to him .. and I would make the conclusion, after hearing you talk about Scorp man, that you and Pisces have nowhere to go except .... down.

You resent him treating you like he does ... yet, you went to him like he was your father, to rescue you from your life like a child would of a father would ... this is the tone of the relationship that has been set ... it's not going to involve into love, because it isn't, you care about another man.
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Also, about his treatment of you like a little sister, and in trying to control your life and make decisions for you ...

.. you have projected an energy to suggest that you're in need in your life because you don't know where to turn, or what to do when life issues arise, and need rescuing ............ so, in reality, you have presented yourself to him to suggest this kind of treatment you get.

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Well I'll put a positive comment on for you. I hate being woken up. If I asked to get woken up it is fine, but I might want to sleep some more if I am tired. I also always invite my girl along wherever I go, but that is just me. I think he should tell you his plans first though because that is being considerate. Maybe his friend doesn't want you around?

I think he should be around for you because you are pregnant and all. It is his responsibility too, and he can't run from it. Keeping yourself busy would be a good idea, and maybe he won't be so stressed about all the attention you need. I don't know why he wouldn't want you to have a job unless he was raised that way or he wants control over you like most men.

I don't think anyone can speak for him if he wants you or not. Maybe he is just comfortable at treating you like that because you enable him to? He sounds too immature to being having a child.
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No one can say for him. Maybe he does or maybe he doesn't. Maybe he is afraid in the situation that you guys are in and is resentful to you. When I am with someone I love, then I want them with me always even if I am with my friends. We are "together."

Did you ask if his friend didn't want you around?

I would love if my girlfriend was pregnant, when I was ready to be a dad ofcourse. My girlfriend is jealous that I give our dog more affection than to her, but that isn't indicative of how I feel for her. I am not ready now, and would probably freak out if she was because I haven't reached my professional goals yet. You should just ask him what his plans are and how he pictures the situation. Then you could tell him your perspective in a caring manner. I am always ready to listen; even when I am mad and I don't seem like I am listening. I always am. I might not agree, but I'll listen.
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Insults? Are you talking to me?


"i dont understand. would he treat anybody like an annoyance?"


If you don't want to hear an answer then don't ask a question.

Apparantly, you don't really care about an answer to the question of why he treats you the way he does, and like you are an annoyance to him .. apparantly, you just want someone to enjoy misery with you.

sobeit .. enjoy.
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"""""why do you ask if we're in love? does you that he no longer loves me?""""

I dont get the last part of that question. Do I think that he no longer loves you? ...Idk I cant speak for him. But sounds like your being too clingy. Im a pisces and I hate clingyness. It drives me up the wall. Maybe he's just in a funk and needs to be left alone for a little bit. Nagging you say? Stop doing that. Theres a way to approach things without getting the nagging aditude. Cancers seem to have that trait, nagging, every cancer I know is like that. I think its cause your a mothering sign. And since your a leo too you like to be center of attention.

Pisces like their partners to be independent. Pisces dont like to have to take care of a 'lil sister' as a girlfriend. He's is treating you like this because your acting like one. Get out of the house, go do somehting. I dont think your that far in your pregnacy to where you cant do anything. Make him breakfast or somehting and say 'tootles! Im off for the day!' and go discover the world! If anything that adds mystery to you. Pisces like mysterious poeople. Just sitting around allllll day is boring and not very interesting. Come one girl get out there!!!! *shews you out the door* lol :-p
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xXCancer_LeoXx,


Don't listen to p-Angel and her little cheerleaders.

She's 49 years old and hangs around kids in an internet forum 24/7.




You are still young and so is he.

I have had many friends move in with a guy just because they are pregnant....big mistake.

He sounds like he needs some space. Sometimes cancers get to clingy....more than Pisces.


I don't get a love vibe.

But you are still young and there's nothing you can do because you are pregnant.

Just remember.......always make sure you have a college degree and money saved up in case things don't get better.

I am 8 months pregnant. I am 35 weeks and 2 days.

I am happy and with a great man.

But we are both older and we have no issues.

Luckily I come from a family of independent women.



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hide my stomach? LMAO i dont think thats possible! have you ever bee pregnant mystic dreamer? i plan on breast feeding (every 2 hours or so) and i wont be able to work while doing that. ive given up on the job searching for now. i dont think its going to work with my plans for my baby. id spend an entire night pumping breast milk and not get any sleep if i had to work. i have started 2 new activities tho. brent is involved in 1 of them but i will hopefully be meeting some new people there. i watched some things about marriage on TV and brent and i have followed some of what the preacher said and it seems to be working. brent even told his friend that he couldnt hang out today bc he needed to spend the day with me! so far things have been improving since yesterday.
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I got a job at 6 months and I hid my stomach. I wasn't that big anyways. Just now I popped out a lot!

In the winter it's better because there are a lot of layers of clothing a person can wear.

I did not say work after the baby.

Work before.

Many women work until they pop.

Cancers are just lazy.

I know them well.

Try a maternity clothing store. They usually hire pregnant women. Even a little part time won't hurt.




Outcast,


That is why I am glad I am independent!

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What do you mean AM included in this group you stupid old bitch?

I am 25 years old and my boyfriend is 27.

We were together for 2 years and I got pregnant. Unlike some women who get pregnant the first month.

Our relationship was great before........now even better.

Don't be jealous you old hag.

I have a man who treats me like a princess. Don't hate because you are going through menopause.

We have a great relationship and I have had such a great pregnancy. Unlike other girls I know who are busy fighting with the fathers or are dumped by them when they find out they are pregnant.


I have a college degree bitch and I have my own place.

No matter what happens with my boyfriend...those are things I will still have 🙂

So don't compare my situation to a 20 year olds.


Stupid old bitch.

Go stick a dick in your mouth. That's what you need.
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"I have a college degree cookiemonster and I have my own place."


Did AM write ^ that? LOL!


This heffer knows she did not go to an accredited college. Unless it was one of those Technical Institutes for people who want to be assistants to the nurse's medical assistant. They accept damn near anyone who halfway fills out an application. What is your degree in, AM? Or, certificate rather?

...and if you count a South Bronx rat infested hole-in-the-wall as having your "own place", then....okay. lmao
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What is your obsession with the South Bronx?

And what's up with the word heffer? Do you think you're black now? LOL

Maybe you should move to the South Bronx since you are obsessed with it.

Is having a certificate even a bad thing? LOL take a look at yourself.

I'm not a high school drop out 😛

Don't be jealous bitch. Just keep doing what you do......being in night clubs with your friends and looking like a man 😉

That's why men get afraid to approach your friends.

They got a man looking dyke guarding them lol.






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AM

"Go get some chicken you old hag."

Trust me AM .....don't need to tell me to go get some ......I am .....with your man. Do you still smell me on him? 😛

WTF are you so angry about, sounds like you are the one that needs to get some or mad because a Pisces did steal your man or a Pisces broke your heart.

So sad for you that you have to be so disgruntled on a forum. Now really get a life. Maybe you are angry because your confused about your sexual orientation .....truth be known ....neither sex wants you because you are such an angry beotch. It is not very becoming.

Me on the other hand am not even going to give you the time or day to respond. My last response to you, angry beotch.

PD
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"ppl that insult others usually are VERY insecure of themselves...."

EXACTLY than why do you and MD come here to hate—

"and also women who desperately go out with men who are taken feel that they dont deserve real love that is why they will do fwb so just continue putting other ppl down if it gives you confidence but it's really sad"

I was just messing around .....you IDIOT!!!! LOL

As for me having casual relationships .....well I imagine I am having a hell of a lot more fun than you are. 😛

It is interesting that women still think that the little house on the prairie courtship is still the norm .....oh wait to expeirence sexual pleasure until we get married. Please .....tell me of any guy who is into that? I don't see them on this forum much ....do you— I see a bunch of stupid women who cater their lives to men, why do you think men feel so clastaphobic to stupid women who live and breath a man. They have no individuality no independence.

Truth be known, I don't have to chase they come after me .....yes even including attached one. The best part is I get to choose when, and whom I want to spend time with.

So go on and hate ....truth be known .......you are just jealous because you are not me and having as much fun as me.

PD