the gem's been pulling away

so after about a month now of 'courting' the gem has slowly started to pull away. i notice that she's really talkative and cheery around others but when it's just us together she's very shy, really into her own world and sometimes shoots me these confusing glances. it seems like one day we'll be getting on great and the next i'm being flat-out ignored.

a part of it might be that we're living together in the same co-op, with 7 other people...i get the feeling she doesn't want to be publicly intimate with me because of the potential gossip around the loft, but the only time we're together is at home.

last night i pulled away too and pretty much ignored her for the whole time during movie night and she just went straight up into her loft afterwards and went to sleep. i feel a little bad about it - i don't know whether she lost interest or is playing hard to get.

all morning she's been at work so i bought her roses, snuck into her loft and attached a note that says, "happy monday, beautiful." i'm hoping she's receptive to it...

Young Scorp....

The air sign moves with what feels right. She will never feel comfortable being beholden to your intensity.

You're doing it all wrong. I'll PM with some ideas.

sw: gems are kind of flaky and find it difficult to be with a strong person. you scorps are not for the faint of hearts🙂 i have gems as friends and they can flake out at the last second and they don't think they do anything wrong. maybe she's beginning to like you a bit too much for her comfort level or she's not comfortable with situation. ask her in an intrusive way what's going on.

eg: not a gem-bashing by any means🙂 just a personal observation. i agree with your 2nd paragraph point.

Gems and Scorps make a great pair if they work at it. Geminis have a different style . Act the same way she is with you. Dont be rude but carry on as you would without her. Be independent and light around her.She needs to know that you can manage perfectly well without her. She doesnt want you to get too attached to her. Once she knows that, she will be right back by your side.
She wants to see you the same with or without her and sooner or later she will make the choice for you. and it will most probably be in your favor. Remember she is a gemini, butterflies usually come back to the same flower for more nectar.

unless the flower stays where it is.

ok, so...the gem and i just talked, and she wants to just to be friends because she says it makes her act different and frigid, and that's just not who she is. i can totally respect that. she also said she's just really guarded and things went too quickly, and i kind of feel the same way...but i told her i'm very attracted to her either way and if she wanted to be friends, that'd be cool with me...it'd remove a lot of pressure.

btw, she said she loved the flowers. 😉

i guess i'm okay with it...i mean, it's going to be hard, because i'm really attracted to her and i do express myself best sexually, and there's definitely some sexual chemistry going on...but i'm going to have to be okay with it if i want to pursue something more in the future. i just hope she feels the same way.

but i'm willing to let things move slower if it means progressing, even if it is on her terms, which is at least some kind of growth for me because i'm normally pretty stubborn with my instincts...i keep telling myself i should look at this as less of a rejection and more of an opportunity, to try and think more along the lines of a typical gem.

oh, the fascination 🙂 what do you guys think? does it sound like she's willing to pursue something greater in the future if she allows herself to feel comfortable with me?

thanks for the replies! emgem you're right, and i'm glad that i did at least get some answer, which is more than most girls would have done.

meh, what's a boy to do. it's her loss really.

thanks emgem 😉 the gem was acting all weird earlier yesterday, the roomates all notice that she acts really quiet around me...i made it a point to act extra casual which i think threw her off a little bit. she invited me up into her loft and we talked last night for a long time about random stuff, and then when she left she gave me this affectionate shoulder stroke which kinda threw me off. so it seems like she's acknowledging something there, but i'm not sure what. oh well.

she's suuuuuch a tease. do you think it's a good idea to bring another girl back to the pad to show her that i'm dating around? 'cause this one sag really wants my nuts and i could totally provoke some jealousy.

I ditto MsPisces.

crab,

where are the rest of the Cancers? That board has been dead for nearly two months now.

Been habitually checking out Cancer. May need to stop since it's so quiet....

lol, so i was trying to take out everybody in the house for a night on the town and the gem called me "a girl" for trying to get everyone together. so i said, if trying to bring everyone together means i'm a girl, then i'm a girl. i notice she snipes at me with little insults here and there, which i'm not really sure how to take...

now that i'm not paying so much attention to her she's getting kind of irritated. LOL. girls are so weird. casual sex was way easier than this romance shit.

I hate being ignored, unless it's someone I could care less about...

haha yeah well, i'm ignoring her from now on. last night we were in her loft and she called n one of the guy roomates and asked him to rub her feet right in front of me. how fucking awkward is that? i totally lost respect for her after that stunt.

besides, after all that this taurus girl called me and basically confessed her undying lust. taurus girls are so sexy.

i came to the conclusion last night that she uses her sexuality as a weapon. i really don't want to be a part of this drama, and i could really care less about bringing other girls home at this point. she lost out on a great guy because of stupid games, that's her fault.

If she were really were into you, she'd be thinking twice before playing games....

Something to ponder.

lol mspisces, AM is just a troll. and you're right - i don't deal with games. push and pull especially drives me insane.

she's also playing the "let's prance around the scorpio in a towel and give him long meaningful glances" game, which is really cruel. LOL. i love my life.

mspisces, not true. i was very interested when we were 'courting.' we have some intense sexual chemistry, but she's just been being a bitch lately so i've been not paying as much attention to her. right now she told me to wait for her to get out of the shower (because we're going to the park) but i think i might leave right now.

"If she were really into him, I doubt he'd be as interested...."

Speaking for myself, I personally like it when two people are mutually interested in each other and are confident enough about it.

But I'll let Wreck speak for himself.

If I were in your shoes, I would just move on. Beating her at her own game requires an investment of your time, thought, and interest, that is probably not even worth it. And whose to say you'll be able to separate a score from your own intense emotions.

She's probably not going to even hit it with him. Her interest is in keeping him tortured and beholden to her.

If you want to deliver the message, don't even ignore her. Interact with her on a friendly basis where you emit zero passion. That is better than ignoring somebody. Ignoring her implies you are bothered by her. Don't even give her that.

well, playing games is lame. but you know what? sometimes in life you gotta do what you gotta do. and right now, my dxpers, i have finally realized that sometimes being evil is necessary. i feel a malignant shift somewhere deep inside of my chest. i have turned from the path of the eagle to the path of the scorpion.


DUN DUN DUNNNN!!!!

Games are lame, but love is a game...

In order to get love/lust/etc., you got to play the game one way or another...

It just comes down to what games you can deal with, and what you refuse to deal with...

Playing games is boring. Time to get with the Taurus or Sag. You could play eenie meenie minie moe.

haha well today we were walking to go get coffee and she was giving me all these commands and being really bossy and i was just like, you don't enjoy people giving you commands so why bother me with it. she replied, "i'm not normally commanding with people, but something about you makes me want to be bossy."

weird girls.

so last night was really crazy...i brought the sag over to one of our circus performances, she ended up getting really drunk and sprayed the fire extinguisher all over the wall. she disappeared for a while and i found her in my bed asking to stay the night, meanwhile the gem was over in the kitchen area...i told the sag she had to leave because i was afraid she was going to knock into some sound equipment or something, i got really mad at her for causing a scene 'cause everyone was watching and then later somebody stole my weed, i got really drunk with the gem, and we ended up in her room fooling around the whole night. she called me over dramatic and wants to have a "no pressure" relationship, i told her that's cool...although she won't sleep with me until i get tested, never had a girl do that to me before.

so basically i'm back to square one. LOL.

yea the gem is really weird...she's supposedly all about "casual sex" but is making me get tested...so that makes me think she is putting up a front on some level. she kept on asking last night if i was promiscuous, how many people i'd been with etc. i also asked if she wanted to go get tested together but then she laughed and said, "no!"

sooo many games.

😉 man i have to be a bad boy, that's so high school. a part of me says that dumbing myself down for some dumb bitch is stupid. actually, all of me says that.

ok, so i figured it out. this whole week i'm setting a goal for myself to be exorbitantly selfish and malicious. i'll let you all know how it goes!!! 😉

scorpion_rising sounds like a very reasonable fellow. maybe instead of being evil and stuff, you could take his advice. *nods*

wreckie, you drop the b-word like white on rice

maybe you should consider respecting her first, before initiating a relationship? just sayin'?

MsPisces: "Respect is earned."

NO! Respect is 'Learned'

all that young wreckie has learnt so far is that the object of his desires is just that...an object

in all fairness i was pretty drunk when i dropped the "b word."

either way though i've been ignoring her and it seems to be working. tollbooth, i would have respect for her if she had respect for me and was up front.

"i would have respect for her if she had respect for me"

that kind of exemplifies the point i was trying to make.

however I get the feeling she is a bit of a cocktease and enjoys making you squirm