what the hell

i'm moving out of the loft today. last night the gem and i hung out a little and there was a lot of tension, like she wanted me to stay with her. i kinda shrugged it off because she's been sending so many mixed signals and then this morning she comes into my space at 8:30 and wakes me up. the weird thing is that i had this gut feeling that she was going to do this and she did - she said, "i have something to show you" and dragged me into her loft. then she took off her shirt and said she was concerned about these little red bumps on her body, and asked me what i thought. i told her she should see a doctor and then she was like, "well i guess that's a good enough reason to wake you up, wanna smoke weed" and i said sure, of course. then we smoked some, i laid on her bed for a little. she took off her sweater (she was getting ready for work) and looked at me weird, i asked her what and she laughed and was like "nevermind."

what does this mean? there's unspoken tension that needs to be resolved, i tried to diffuse it but ignoring things are making them worse. if that's not bad enough right when i said i was moving out she said that she thought dust allergies were causing the bumps and that she wanted to move somewhere else, and she just moved in like a week ago!!!

so far the first 3 girls i've been involved with since i moved to the bay have been moderately crazy, my date the other night got way too drunk and passed out in the bathroom. wtf is with these girls?

correction - "that's NOT a good enough reason to wake you up"

Wake'n Bake

good girl!

"so far the first 3 girls i've been involved with since i moved to the bay have been moderately crazy, my date the other night got way too drunk and passed out in the bathroom. wtf is with these girls?





Then stay single for a while and stop thinking with your dick."

Or just try dating sober, non-drug-using girls?

...Just throwing it out there.

"Then stay single for a while and stop thinking with your dick."

stay out of my fucking threads harpy.

"Or just try dating sober, non-drug-using girls?

...Just throwing it out there."

kinda hard at this age, especially in san fran. most kids use drugs/alcohol. i don't really think that's the issue except in some cases - besides, when it comes to drugs things would be a lot safer if people knew how to handle themselves under the influence.

omg what is this, AA? astrologer's anonymous. i just want some feedback into this girl's motivations. she obviously feels just as compelled towards me as i am to her.

the other night we were screwing around again, even after she said she just wanted to be friends...she went back on her word and it's confusing the hell out of me.

she kept repeating that she wants something with no pressure, but all she's doing is creating more pressue on me. should i tell her this?

"she kept repeating that she wants something with no pressure, but all she's doing is creating more pressue on me. should i tell her this?"

I'm thinking she meant she doesn't want to feel any pressure. And as to whether you should tell her or not, do you think she does it intentionally, or is she really just that confused? If the former, no. If the latter, probably.

I thought a gem would anyways be as effective as weed for a scorpio.

yum, i think she's doing it on purpose...she acts differently around me than with other people. i don't know why, she just does. i think if i were less fucked up in the head i would interpret all of her signals to mean something positive, but at this point i don't know what to think.

roxi, why's that?

gaurav, i have yet to find a woman is better than weed. i have my hopes up, though 😉

mispisces, thanks for the advice...i've been in and out of drugs for a while now, i moved 300 miles to get away from my life back home but it seems to have followed me up here...it used to be much worse though, i've gotten better with recovery - it's just i know the habitual drinking and smoking isn't the best thing, but i think i would have anxiety attacks being sober...and it's not like i hate substance use, i think it corrects something in my head - i don't think as much about everything, i'm less guarded. it's the way i wish the world was so i try and be that way, does that make sense?

Try an older woman, SW. I'll PM the address. Do you mow lawns? 😉

Scorp wreck I think the gem girl is yanking your _ _ _ _ she knows you like her and she is playing games. Trying to keep you hooked.

Sorry to be an old woman here but if you are using the words, "understand motivation" and "Trying to understand what's going on here" in the same paragraph as "weed" you have your answer right there. Grow up and get a life! Or do you HAVE to do what everyone else does even if it f***s your brain up and everyone else's?!

Come on, you're bigger than that!!

(Context - my 59 year old brother just nearly died and is having ECT treatment after a lifetime of doing drugs... doesn't seem quite as much fun as it did to him).

Not meaning to be personal, sorry - I know, you're 21 and in SF BUT there are other choices and generally sorted people aren't as likely to be found amongst habitual weed smokers. So if that's who you like to be with, great - but accept, you're never going to major on the Rational with such people...

Good luck with your life.

SAV x

"Try an older woman, SW. I'll PM the address. Do you mow lawns? "

only if the price is right 😉

Well, I'm sure we can negotiate something...Especially if you bring the weed. DOH! *slaps hand* I promised I would not enable anyone else's bad habits this week! 😛

"Well, I'm sure we can negotiate something...Especially if you bring the weed."

i'm still waiting on that pm sweetheart 😉 don't worry about the bad habits, i have no problem being naughty, especially around a nice pisces girl such as you 😉

emgem, i'm gonna run that game right back in her face when i see her...i'll let you know how the carnage goes!

yeah emgem i'm actually moving out today, i found a house with 4 other people...i actually have windows, a closet and a door! and they're all musicians, they host parties there every week and there's a huge backyard so i can bust out the fire performance! plus it's a really quiet area (in the sunset.)

😢

SO naive.

"SO naive."


he's a young buck, Lady. aint even got his first set of antlers on yet

Some of this stuff is common sense though.

Maybe he needs to step outside of the situation to see....but even when told He doesnt want the advice. When will he clear the smoke (literally and figuratively)....

The definition of common sense is relative to an individuals past experience

Thats why we observe and try to learn from the mistakes of others.

Or we listen.

I didnt think Scorps learned from their own mistakes, let alone those of others?

Well thats a darn shame tollbooth. He'll learn the hard way for the rest of his life.

egem...Im -92, younger than him 😛

I was the EXACT same way when that age. Young, dumb, and full of...

its natures way of procreation, act first, think later

She's literally fucking with his emotions. He's letting her get the best of him. I dont condone game playing, but sometimes you have to teach people a lesson.


Are you on a taping of 'The Real World' scorpio_wreck??

lol @ real world

why are you a girl?

TB: "scorpios DO learn from their mistakes actually AND those of other people. you are only as great as your last mistake. naturally, i have made thousands and so i am really REALLY great"

practice makes perfect :0)

and you, my dear Roxi, are as close to perfect as they come!

sorry for the dxp lag, i've been out and about beyond the realm of computers these past couple days.

meh, i'm done with the gem. we're just friends as far as i'm concerned now - i met a really sweet virgo the other day, seems like a down to earth girl 😉

oh, and roxi - that was probably her intention...but i'm not playing that game anymore. it takes two to tango and ballroom dancing is for pussies. 😉