5 love languages

Exo's thread got me thinking about how everyone communicates love differently, as well as how they receive it. I am sure this has already had a thread for it but i'm too lazy to dig it up atm.


http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/Quiz/The-5-Love-Languages-Quiz.aspx

Curious what others get.

You can skip the name and email part.. lol i did.

why not? LOL

I think it's odd that I got what I got considering I am super funny about being touched. 😕

Physical Touch

Your primary love language is Physical Touch. This language goes far beyond the bedroom. In fact, you love to cuddle with absolutely no alterior motives. Public displays of affection -- holding hands, pats on the back and hugs communicate care and bring you great joy. Physical presence and accessibility are vital, while neglect and abuse can be unforgivable and irreparable to your relationships. A gentle embrace during a hard time is just the encouragement you need to strengthen your day.

hijack away! i just went with the simplest test i could find... again being super lazy 😆

Cause i really don't agree with my results.

lol i guess i can see it in some ways. I am very touchy feely with a partner .


This article.. did they have to use Masters and disasters to qualify each group? LOL

i hate this:

— deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally — damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued.

Hate it with a passion. Grew up with that type of treatment. Do not want it in a relationship.



This part is pretty profound:

We’ve all heard that partners should be there for each other when the going gets rough. But research shows that being there for each other when things go right is actually more important for relationship quality. How someone responds to a partner’s good news can have dramatic consequences for the relationship


*goes back to reading*

"But among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward."

I agree with this. My grandparents lasted over 50+ years, until my grandmother passed in 08. She was a Gem, he is a Taurus.. high school sweethearts only ever dated each other if i recall correctly. He has remained single since she passed. i know hes dated but nothing serious.

Sure they faught, i heard it 😆

But they embodied kindness and being generous not just with each other but everyone. My grandmother meant the world to him.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by justagirl
lol i guess i can see it in some ways. I am very touchy feely with a partner .


This article.. did they have to use Masters and disasters to qualify each group? LOL

i hate this:

— deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally — damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued.

Hate it with a passion. Grew up with that type of treatment. Do not want it in a relationship.



This part is pretty profound:

We’ve all heard that partners should be there for each other when the going gets rough. But research shows that being there for each other when things go right is actually more important for relationship quality. How someone responds to a partner’s good news can have dramatic consequences for the relationship


*goes back to reading*

Big time.

It puts the whole idea of "shit-testing" a love interest with the constant "but are you going to be there for me when I'm down?" firmly in the shade. Once people give up focusing on that they suddenly have a lot more free time to actually support one another's successful moments.

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Yes it does.

Posted by flowingwater
I got quality time.

Your primary love language is Quality Time. Nothing says, "I love you," to you more than full, undivided attention. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Being present -- with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all the chores set aside -- makes you feel truly special, highly valued and loved. Quality time also means sharing quality conversation and enjoying quality activities with those you love.

See i relate way more to this..


*shoves physcial touch to the back of the line*

I could spend all day doing nothing with someone i cared for. That sounds weird to say lol

Posted by tiziani

Posted by justagirl
lol i guess i can see it in some ways. I am very touchy feely with a partner .


This article.. did they have to use Masters and disasters to qualify each group? LOL

i hate this:

— deliberately ignoring the partner or responding minimally — damage the relationship by making their partner feel worthless and invisible, as if they’re not there, not valued.

Hate it with a passion. Grew up with that type of treatment. Do not want it in a relationship.



This part is pretty profound:

We’ve all heard that partners should be there for each other when the going gets rough. But research shows that being there for each other when things go right is actually more important for relationship quality. How someone responds to a partner’s good news can have dramatic consequences for the relationship


*goes back to reading*

Big time.

It puts the whole idea of "shit-testing" a love interest with the constant "but are you going to be there for me when I'm down?" firmly in the shade. Once people give up focusing on that they suddenly have a lot more free time to actually support one another's successful moments.

click to expand

Honeslty, i think that part of it is what leaves a bad taste in my mouth. The shit-testing. I am a pretty down to earth, real person. i don't need testing, but i get it most people to it, sometimes unknowningly.