Advice for Cappy male please !!! Drives me crazy!!

Had been with my Cappy for almost 4 years. I was the first serious long-term relationship he's ever had (he's 38). He pretty much put off dating and got his education..after that he just didn't meet anyone he liked or had chemistry with. About 8 months ago, he got into a bad depression, had low self-esteem, said he felt like a loser and was really moody in our relationship. He told me that he needed to get his life together cuz he felt like a loser not working and that maybe he needed to date other girls (since he hadn't been around much)..he felt like maybe he was missing out. That was in July. That night he told me he will always be crazy about me and his parents really liked me (never told me that b4). He still calls/texts me ALL the time. He likes to talk for hours. He tells me I'm the best thing ever happened to him,that he will always want and desire me, cares about me more than anything. Said he just needs to figure things out. He never goes anywhere and usually stays home and listens to conservative talk radio (he's really into politics). He says he's not the jealous type but when I happen to say I ran into my ex-husband he gets real quiet for a moment and changes the subject. When we talk I just keep it light and ask how everything is... He has told me that he hasn't gone out yet..what gives with him? Should I not talk to him for a week so he will really feel the loss of me not in his life? After we had cooled it he once told me he couldn't picture me not in his life...When he calls I usually talk to him. He has told me that usually he doesn't share emotions or open his heart to anyone but he felt a connection and real comfortable with me from the beginning. Most days when we were still a couple, he was happy and everything then other days he was depressed and in attack mode..even telling me I had no patience and he felt I was a distraction. He is currently staying at his parents and his mom is very negative with everything. Do you think his decision to cool it is a reflection of the status of his life right now and nothing personal against me?

Sound a LOT like my Cancer I just broke up with. He was a very very negative person all the time. My energy couldn't stand the constant pessimism and the morose attitude so I had to cut it lose. My ex-husband was a Capricorn and also went through issues of depression (who hasn't) but he never really "strayed" from what we had if that makes any sense.

I really wish I knew his Venus Sign. Caps in love generally don't play games. I'm an Aquarius but my Venus is in Capricorn. They are loyal, have no problems with committment and take love and relationships very seriously.

Seems like to me what he's going through could be related to some other esteem and confidence issues. He may really just be going through an adjustment period in his life but like most Caps, likes that SECURITY he has with you. But the mood adjustments and such seems like a more psychological issue than an astrological one. He might need some counseling or treatment (my Cancer guy was twice admitted to the hospital for suicide and depression. He had a lot of psych things going on up there.)

How could you find out his Venus sign?

1/6/1970

Things are pretty good right now. We are friends and talk about most everything. He calls me at least 4 times a week and texts quite often (we still even flirt). I'm letting him deal with his stuff and I'm dealing with mine. I was basically just wondering how CAP men act under pressure/stress. I've found that if he's being moody and depressed and I just leave him alone it usually passes and he's cool in a few days.I've gotten used to him alienating himself. I know that for a LONG time I was the only one he talked to. An old college buddy of his recently got ahold of him after 4 years !!! His friend had contacted him. He had told me that he was too embarrassed to contact anyone because he felt he wasn't where he wanted to be at this point of his life.he felt he should have been more successful.

Just found out his Venus is in Capricorn!!