aqua female, what I like vs wat I NEED in a man

Men are either too sensitive (weak) for me, or they seem to have everything I like in a mam and end up being ass holes. I'm talking to an aries . Hes everything I "need" hes nice , can't get enough of me, polite , cute , overall.just a really good BUT emotional, clingy , not masculine enough. Ive had a few relationships. They were complete douce bags but I was blind. I tend to give my all to those who least deserve it and those who are good to me I put on
the back burner . (anyways) how do change my attitude about men? could I just settle for the typical good guy sand grow to love him?

You must be very young. Grown aqua women have no problem with "weak" men, and often prefer them. Aquas are too busy doing what they want to put up very long with anyone who doesn't go along easily.

That said, just cos mr aries is so sweet NOW doesn't mean much. He can still end up being a douchebag. Some of the biggest jerks start off being sweet.

It just seems your not exactly sure what type of person you want in your life. My Father told me "no one is perfect" he then stated how if i wanted a man to take care of me and be the rock. Then go for a business owner, however most likely they are controlling or like to give the orders or dont take orders well. (this obviously doesn't match my personality. My father continues giving examples . For instance, his relationship with my mother (still together). My father told me how he wanted a tall, very very smart educated woman. My mother isnt'any of those things but she does have many other great traits that seem to balance out my father. My dad then continued to express that if he did pick the "dream woman" his basic needs of being loved, attended to, cared for, etc would be neglected. At the end, a relationship isn't about the "dream woman"/"dream man" its the qualities like what my mother has..that would make a relationship work. My father was smart and he is glad he chose the right one. yes. the RIGHT ONE.

He knew right off the bat, that a smart woman will not listen to him. He also understands his temper is hard to change, so finding a smart woman, would mean no more cooked meals due a busy schedule, someone that will always argue with him, my mother on the other hand is just right he says. She doesn't have a education but shes smart enough to become an accountant at st.jude medical. Never got laid off and worked everyday, cooks, clean, deals with my temper, and you guys (my brother and I).

I think ultimately we must find a balance between excess and deficiencies. Or also known as the "Golden mean"

My father combined and found a great middle to what he needs...calculating the fact of "change" people experience, he thinks who he could become and his potential wife (who he would like her to be when they are..40-50=etc?) and realized..the highest potential is to pick one like my mother. kind-not self seeking-giving-forgiving, patient, easy temperment.

Ultimately, you must understand yourself and what you want to find the "golden mean"

It seems hard, i dont really know what i "need"...and even if it were to be presented..would i take the opportunity? not sure..i think as i mature, i'll know what to do.

or just have a lover in every country and some states outside of yours 🙂 One for each need/ want