aqua sun sag moon, superficial

this seems like a very superficial combination to me. is that the right assumption to make? what do these people care about and what is their attitude about relationships and life? the pairing of fixed air sign aqua with mutable fire sag sounds flighty, restless and unstable, the only redeeming quality being that the aqua is fixed. is this someone you can count on and trust? is this someone who can make deep ties and truly love? please correct me if anything i've said is wrong, i want to be wrong.

one more thing:
i have a lot of respect for aqua suns, i think they are some of the most loyal and committed people BUT with a sag moon i wonder if this brings out the negative traits being the supposed restlessness and need for freedom and a moodiness that would make them unpredictable.

thanks Impressme, that sounds good. and pretty consistent. i'm with someone who is this combination and he has been very emotional with me and it's very unexpected b/c usually he is extremely defensive and hates being vulnerable. on a daily basis he acts rather self-protective and seems to give off an attitude like he doesn't care and nothing affects him. that's why when he becomes very vulnerable and has even cried and can be very emotional with me i am always taken off guard. it is interesting to know that this is a consistant feature of this combination and that the emotions are possibly not just fleeting, surface level and momentary but actually deep and enduring but that he needs to feel comfortable in order to express them. this helps me understand that i need to not get so defensive myself everytime he get defensive b/c it's just him reacting out of his fear to trust. i think "softy" is a great way to describe it, he is definitely that underneath all of the walls he puts up, it's just that he quickly hides it all back up and it's confusing.

what is the best way to make this kind of person feel secure? just constantly be there? i do a lot of "putting up" with his negative and defensive attitude b/c i think he's worth it, but he makes me feel like he already is expecting me to hurt him and it kind of bothers me that he just assigned this role to me and i have to work so hard to prove to him that i care and have no intention of hurting him. i don't mind proving it but it feels like he's just waiting for me to fail him.

well he is that way in general. all of his friends would warn me about that when he and i first started dating and they all would tell him not to "mess this up" (meaning our relationship). i didnt take it too seriously at first but the more i got to know him the more it came out (it was there from the first but i tried not to let it get to me). everyone has the same impression of him, including my friends who have met him (they don't like him). they all say he's critical and mean and defensive and insecure. in fact, his friends also tell me that he's become "nicer" since i've come into his life.
i do ask him questions but nothing more than the "i'm just trying to get to know you better" variety, you know, making conversation b/c well, conversations are pretty much vital to having a deeper, real relationship right? i love getting to know people and he seems to not want to talk about himself ever. and if i talk about myself or any other topic he never explores it deeper or offers any real ideas or responses, and he's always afraid to give his opinion so as not to create any possible disagreements between us.

I agree with you; thanks for your advice. A little while ago I finally initiated real conversations about a lot of the issues we were having (before i had just sort of mentioned things here and there, hoping he would pick up on the hints) and things are going MUCH better. we have naturally started to feel more comfortable and able to trust each other. we are really happy these days.

and you're very right- underneath the defenses is someone who feels A LOT, and is extremely self-protective because of this. i feel very bad for doubting this. i understand much more now.