Break up with cancer girlfriend. Would she ever come back?

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Virgosheb
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Hi, I'm new here. 27 year old Virgo male. About two months ago, my ex girlfriend of 10 months and I decided to mutually break up. A multitude of different external stresses seemed to be putting strain on our relationship (which it never should), and we decided to part ways. We were both very disheartened by this. She had two girls that I had fallen in love with as well and it was another kicker to think about having to tell them. We still talked to each other after the initial break up. She kept saying things like "it's not over between us" and "we are dumb for doing this". I agreed with her deep down. She even expressed her interest in still being friends with benefits and we did hook up not too long after we broke up. That seemed to upset her and I didn't even want that to happen. Before all of this I was still thinking to myself if I could really live without her. That's when I realized I couldn't. I couldn't just let her walk away without fighting for her (which is something she called me out on). I asked her if we could start over and she said yes but she wanted to start slowly. I told her I would make changes to be the man she wanted me to be and put her first more. However it seemed like we started right back where we left off for about a week. She did express concerns for the future and was really stressed about our situation sayin that she felt we were "living a lie" because we had not announced our start over with our general circle. I tried to convince her that it was gonna be ok and that we could ride this out.

Then came her birthday weekend. I took her to dinner that Saturday (birthday fell on a monday) and we were gonna show up separately at one of our old haunts for some drinks with friends. I know Virgos can be compulsive and start to get clingy so I hovered around her all night. I then decided to leave and she said she would call me when she left. She ends up getting into this huge altercation at the bar in which her sister and a friend were involved. She tells me the very next day that she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore and needed to focus on herself. And in true Virgo fashion I begged and pleaded for her not to leave me and that we can still make it work. She said we would "work through it" but she started getting more distant. She also started hanging out with another guy who is apparently recently separated (coincidentally happening the same weekend as her birthday weekend) and he's been coming around more often. She says theyre just friends but people have told me that her Facebook posts say other wise (I've been Unfriended). I can't help but feel this is so screwed up. I can't help but feel she's rebounding or found someone else to fill my shoes (apparently he's leaving for the army which won't work with her). It's been hard to digest this. I loved her some much because she loved me more. I opened up so much of my heart to her. Basically, could she ever come back? Why would she want to do something like that