Gemini dealing with possible pregnancy

Okay heres the deal,
I started hanging out with this Gemini Guy. We were just friends at first and he started opening up to me telling me about his girlfriend problems. He mostly talked about how they argued all the time, how she came from a violent background and she was emotionally unstable. We really started to like each other and I told him that I couldn't hang out with him any more because I was feeling more for him than friendship. A few days later he broke up with his girlfriend. This made me happy at first because it meant we could finally start something together. We were getting along great. Really falling for each other and the connection we had, i haven't felt in a long time....but then
he tells me that his ex told him she MIGHT be pregnant and that she will take a test in a few days. Her only evidence is a slightly late period. (which I've had several times and not been pregnant) I don't understand why she is putting him through this. Why didn't she just take a test and find out for sure. I feel this is her selfish way of holding on to him longer. Now our relationship is jepordized because I just can't be with him if he is having a baby with someone else. He looks calm but says he is nervous. He is only 23 and says he doesn't want to have a baby yet. I needed to vent and would love any kind of words of advice.

Calm down. She's obviously doing it to "keep" him. Let her make a fool of herself.
Give her enough rope to hang herself. She'll end up looking desperate and pathetic.
Meanwhile you just sit back and wait. Let him know you are still interested in a relationship. Don't say anything bad about her. Show him you are too classy to sink to her level.
Be supportive and listen to him if he needs to vent. He'll see who is really the mature and classier lady in the end 😉

I agree ..... a definite manipulation has happened from both girls to this boy.


Sounds like high school shit.

What the fuck is with some girls only wanting men who are already involved in relationships?
It's so weird... :/

Wow, im so shocked at these responses. I'm not sure what I was supposed to do... Perhaps it would have been better to continue to see him all the time and be his friend even though I wanted more than a friendship. Its strange to me how people will accuse a person of doing wrong no matter how they choose to handle a situation. I didn't manipulate anything...because if he wanted to be with his ex than he wouldnt have broken up with her. I guess I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. Women aren't allowed to have male friends these days because people will alwasy think the worst. Please explain to me more of how I "manipulated" him because I don't see it. I thought I was being honest instead of pretending to only like him as a friend and instead, having alterior motives like so many other women AND MEN do.

At least we never crossed the line and he never cheated. He ended one relationship before starting another. I didn't lure him away with some voodoo, we just simply had strong feelings for each other. lol. So sad that all people can do is be negative.

I think other scorpios are probably the only ones who really understand...

...since you only want to hear what you want to hear, why ask? What responses were you expecting exactly?
Stop playing yourself. 🙂


"Women aren't allowed to have male friends these days because people will alwasy think the worst."
I have plenty of male friends, actually...but I don't develop feelings for them and break up their relationships.
Just saying...

"Perhaps it would have been better to continue to see him all the time and be his friend even though I wanted more than a friendship."
Well considering he was already in a relationship and you knew this...yes.
The only thing you really have control over in life, is your thoughts and your feelings.
If you knew this man was already in a relationship...why allow yourself to develop feelings for him? You shouldn't have even let your thoughts go there, in my opinion. & you will respond "it just happened" but feelings like that don't develop overnight.

"Please explain to me more of how I "manipulated" him because I don't see it."
You said.........
"I told him that I couldn't hang out with him any more because I was feeling more for him than friendship. A few days later he broke up with his girlfriend."
You told him you couldn't be his friend because you had feelings for him. This caused him to break up with his girlfriend and pursue you. Yes, it was his choice (and in my opinion is very telling of his character) but you sleep fine at night knowing you were the reason? OK.... 🙂

Plus you said.....
"This made me happy at first because it meant we could finally start something together."
Which is very telling of your motive all along.


The end.

^^^ what she said

btw .... the woman who first pointed out this manipulation .. I believe it was Virgogotome ..... is a Scorpion.

^ Lol :X

derrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
I wonder how she will try to convince herself now.

Well, calm down. And yes, even though the whole "pregnancy" thing MIGHT be something she just made up in a desperate plan to hold on to him longer, you still can't be naive about this either. Obviously he's still having sex with her, enough for her to feel that her threatening a pregnancy would get his attention. I know you want this guy all to yourself but quit being stubborn & selfish & wait on your time to come. You wouldn't have this problem had you just waited until he was already single AND over her before you started trying to be in his life. This is what happens when you intervene or step inside of someone else's relationship: you lose control (the control that you never had). And what's bothering you so bad is that you've lost control.

One thing I will say though is that, if anything you should be more upset with him if he actually falls for her emotional mind games. You know what they say: Don't hate the player, hate the game. Sure, if she's making the pregnancy thing up that's a childish thing to do but don't forget that JUST LIKE YOU, she's trying to hold on to HER man for as long as she can. You 2 are both doing the same things: fighting to keep the same man, so don't judge her b/c you yourself are not for sure if she's pregnant or not or if she's taken the test. You just assumed she didn't b/c your mind WANTED to assume she didn't so that you could convince yourself that your worst fear might actually be coming true. After all, it's NOT uncommon for a woman, who's been with her man for a long time, to get pregnant. And even though it seems fishy that out of all times, she now brings up her period, remember that you're only going off of what he's telling you. For all you know, they could've discussed her period coming late way before she even came to the conclusion that she was probably pregnant. And you'd be suprised at how coincidentaly women get pregnant right when the break up happens. True, some women lie about it but then again some women don't.
So stop analyzing the situation too death b/c at the end of the day, I don't know what kind of relationship you expect from a man who was juggling 2 women at the same time anyways. Find out a little bit more about why they broke up & the REAL reason behind their history, if you're going to be questioning her. She has what you want & if you really want you & him to work out, then back off & let HIM deal with this situation. Don't lose more sleep than the 2 people involved.

I didn't manipulate anything...because if he wanted to be with his ex than he wouldnt have broken up with her. I guess I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. Women aren't allowed to have male friends these days because people will alwasy think the worst."

Well people automatically assume the worst b/c of situations like this. And yes, it's okay to have male friends, but the MINUTE you noticed yourself having feelings, you should've backed off b/c regardless of how many problems THEY were having in their relationship, he should've been off-limits. And even if things are rocky between him & his girl, if you disrespect or disregard her, then you're also doing the same to him, even if he doesn't even realize it.

I'm not trying to judge you or jump down your throat. These kinds of situations happen all the time & I'm just giving it to you straight, based on what you've shared with us. Women hate that their boyfriends have female friends b/c they know that alot of women on the outside will always come up with the story that they have "feelings" coincidentally when the relationship is about to end. Alot of women secretely pray on men that are already taken, just waiting selfishly for their chance to have him all for themselves. And I'm not saying that you ARE that woman, b/c I'm not sure but from what you've said I'm assuming you are. And I'm assuming that b/c of how much of your OWN emotions you are putting into a situation that doesn't involve you. If she's pregnant, then guess what, it wasn't meant for you & him to be together. It's that simple. And if she's not pregnant, that still doesn't mean that you & him will work. Remember, he's just getting out of a relationship & needs time to heal. If you don't give him the time to heal & if you let your own fantasy emotions of him crowd your better judgement you'll end up losing him by chasing after him too soon, versus if you had've just waited & let HIM and HER handle THEIR situation.

I admire you tactfulness Krys. 🙂

I really wish I had even half your tact...Haha.
You'll be my new role model ok?

your*
what is my problem lately...

Sure, I'd love too...(accepting the crown) lol

wow, i'm starting to think krys is right about everything!

also agree with every point briana made.

you should have backed off when you realised that you were having feelings for the guy and not told him. yes, it is dishonest not to tell him the truth about how you feel but by telling him the truth you did him more harm than good. which is not how you treat someone you care about. his feelings should come before your own. it was selfish to tell him how you felt knowing that he was already in a relationship (even a difficult one).

plus, you should be questioning his own motives. he gets into a relationship with you right after you tell him you like him without even giving himself time to heal after the breakdown of the previous relationship? how long before things get a little tough with you and some other chick comes over tellin him she likes him and you are driven to play the pregnancy card? don't judge his ex so harshly. she's probably feeling really hurt after what happened between her and him, especially if she has emotional problems like he says. get involved with a crazy girl's guy and be prepared to pay the consequences.

It seems like your trying to play the victim here, but all I really see of this situation is a girl who now feels dumb for chasing after someone that was never hers to begin with. That happens when you chase after a man that is aleady taken. You end up finding out that him & his "ex" are getting back together & instead taking that as your cue to disappear & move on, you chose to continue to sit & analyze a situation/circumstance that wasn't meant for you to understand.

If I were you, I'd move on. If she's pregnant, I'm sure the heartache & all the changes to be made would make it impossible for him to be thinking about you the way you want him to. And even if she's not pregnant, I'm almost sure that since they've had alot of emotional history, the story between them doesn't end just b/c you showed up. They had history before you & probably will after you. But you wouldn't even be stressing & going through all of these emotions had you backed up the minute he said he was "taken." Sure, alot of guys who are in relationships already seem charming, sexy & the man of your dreams. THAT'S WHY THEY'RE ALREADY TAKEN! Another woman (before you) saw the same things in him that you saw in him. But the difference is, she got to him first. So deal with this situation maturely. If anything, you'll be more miserable in the long run if the only reason he came onto you was b/c of his problems with another woman. If he really felt head-over-heels for you, he wouldv'e completely dumped her, you would have all the details on their situation & he would be sitting next to you right now, refusing to speak to his ex until she showed PROOF that she was pregnant. BUt no, that's not what's happening. Them 2 are on the inside, and you are on the outside just like you started. That's why they say be careful what you wish for. Now, you've got him looking in your direction but b/c he's still emotionally attached to her, he wouldn't be able to give you all you deserve anyways. And when you realize that it'd be wise to move on & find a man that's single & waiting now, instead of having eyes for men that are already taken.