have I been done over by an aquarian?

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by EmmaDilemma on Sunday, February 21, 2016 and has 12 replies.

Does an Aquarius usually disappear after intimacy

Aquarius individuals can sometimes become distant after emotional or physical closeness due to their need for independence. However, this behavior varies and is not universal. It is important to consider individual circumstances and communication patterns rather than astrology alone when assessing someone's actions.

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@EmmaDilemma
10 Years

Hi people, this is my first post on this site. I found it whilst searching for answers for my issue. Hopeyou can give some opinions.
So met this gorgeous guy who is aquarius, capricorn moon and pisces rising, i am scorpio, cancer moon and capricorn rising.
So we met and sent a few texts and couldnt believe how much we have in common with everything, i did notice he wasnt as on the ball with communiction as other guys ive dated, but he's an aquarian.
We went on a date and from start to finish it was amazing, loads of eye contact, convo fully flowing, smiling at each other non stop ans finding out that we have even more in common, it felt like he was made for me. He said he felt so comfortable around me ans couldnt stop grinning. Then we had this amazing passionatekiss before i went home.
We saw each other a few days later, and again it was lovely, so much to talk about and could feel chemistry like never before. To cut a long story short, i felt so comfortable and drawn to him that we ended up sleeping together, its very early for me but it felt so right. He ended up stayig till morningand then left for work. Next day we sent a couple of text and he said he had very much enjoyed it and cant wait to see me again, i initiated a couple of text a few days later, but then nothing since at all. Its been 11 days since we slept together and he's hardly bothered, i kmow this is an aquarius trait but to go distant right after sex doesnt look good. I asked him why he is distant four days back and he said he's been so busy with work and with daughter and he does like me but just had no time to make effort, he said he would call me later. He never called and not heard since. Im trying to put it down to just him being an aquarian, but my friends are telling me to forget him now and to just accept ive been done over because if he gave a F he would find 30 seconds to text and find out how i am. Im not sure what to think really, it certainly doesnt look good. Any opinions on this—

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
11 Years10,000+ Posts

First why do you like him?
2. Where did you meet?
3. You have to accept him and his kids..then you get your time. You both are single independent people anyhow. So go with the flow right now.
4. Communicate and after just live life and be each other friends first.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

He didn't do you over.

He wanted to hit it, and you're fool enough to drop your knickers to a man that you barely knew.

That you fucking yourself over.

And this sentence is the icing on the cake: " if he gave a F he would ...." nobody owes you anything. he has no duty in giving a fuck about you.

Giving a fuck about you is YOUR goddam job. Apparently, you can't handle having some respect for yourself, so you fucked a guy without any kind of relationship terms in place. That' YOUR bad, not his.

I have no pity for stupid people.

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@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
11 Years10,000+ Posts

Do what in 30 seconds may I ask that your friends said to you? Oh wait seriously, and It's unrealistic for that..

No parent has 30 seconds, not even if I am at work if you text me. I will get back when I can. If you constantly keep texting while I am at work. I will just continue working, smh, and text when I get my break.

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@EmmaDilemma
10 Years

No he hardly bothered in 11 days and on weds he said he would call that evening and didnt. One thing i always do is call whej i say i will or at least send a quick text when i can to say sorry i didnt.. .its manners isnt it. My instinct is that he is cool bt ive got my friends telling me to delete his number... Its always diff when its you in the siuation so not sure if my instincts failed me and they are right just from the story i have told you

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by EmmaDilemma
Hi people, this is my first post on this site. I found it whilst searching for answers for my issue. Hopeyou can give some opinions.
So met this gorgeous guy who is aquarius, capricorn moon and pisces rising, i am scorpio, cancer moon and capricorn rising.
So we met and sent a few texts and couldnt believe how much we have in common with everything, i did notice he wasnt as on the ball with communiction as other guys ive dated, but he's an aquarian.
We went on a date and from start to finish it was amazing, loads of eye contact, convo fully flowing, smiling at each other non stop ans finding out that we have even more in common, it felt like he was made for me. He said he felt so comfortable around me ans couldnt stop grinning. Then we had this amazing passionatekiss before i went home.
We saw each other a few days later, and again it was lovely, so much to talk about and could feel chemistry like never before. To cut a long story short, i felt so comfortable and drawn to him that we ended up sleeping together, its very early for me but it felt so right. He ended up stayig till morningand then left for work. Next day we sent a couple of text and he said he had very much enjoyed it and cant wait to see me again, i initiated a couple of text a few days later, but then nothing since at all. Its been 11 days since we slept together and he's hardly bothered, i kmow this is an aquarius trait but to go distant right after sex doesnt look good. I asked him why he is distant four days back and he said he's been so busy with work and with daughter and he does like me but just had no time to make effort, he said he would call me later. He never called and not heard since. Im trying to put it down to just him being an aquarian, but my friends are telling me to forget him now and to just accept ive been done over because if he gave a F he would find 30 seconds to text and find out how i am. Im not sure what to think really, it certainly doesnt look good. Any opinions on this—

If you hadn't had sex with him, would it bother you as much that he hasn't contacted you?

Don't make excuses for him just because he's an aquarius. That's setting yourself up for being taken advantage of.
Don't make excuses that he's busy either. No one's too busy to send a short text occasionally. If a guy says they don't have time to make an effort, it's code for he doesn't care enough to make an effort.

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@truecap
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by EmmaDilemma
No he hardly bothered in 11 days and on weds he said he would call that evening and didnt. One thing i always do is call whej i say i will or at least send a quick text when i can to say sorry i didnt.. .its manners isnt it. My instinct is that he is cool bt ive got my friends telling me to delete his number... Its always diff when its you in the siuation so not sure if my instincts failed me and they are right just from the story i have told you

I wouldn't delete his number, but you have the warning flags already. If he does contact, I'd be friendly and receptive, but I'd also be leery of him.

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@bkbella86
15 Years5,000+ PostsAries

Yes you were done over by an aqua. Don't pine over this fuckboi. Move on. How convenient he doesn't have 30 seconds now when I'm sure he spent more time than that getting the drawls. It's hard to imagine someone being so cold I know but it's how Aqua operate. They are charming users.