How to get rid of gemini ex?

We've been broken up for three weeks now... I don't communicate with her at all. She keeps trying to text me and call me, leaving me voicemails crying and wanting me back, her best friend has been trying to talk to me as well. Her facebook picture is a picture of us and my friends tell me her statuses have to do with heartbreak and calling me an asshole and what not.

Venus in Taurus, moon in Sagittarius, rising in cancer, mars in gemini afaik.

Posted by cloudyminded
We've been broken up for three weeks now... I don't communicate with her at all. She keeps trying to text me and call me, leaving me voicemails crying and wanting me back, her best friend has been trying to talk to me as well. Her facebook picture is a picture of us and my friends tell me her statuses have to do with heartbreak and calling me an asshole and what not.

Venus in Taurus, moon in Sagittarius, rising in cancer, mars in gemini afaik.

oh and I mean she just changed her profile picture on facebook to a picture of us

Wow well aren't you just the lil heartbreaker 😛

Well you're doing good so far. Keep up with the no communication. That is the only sane way to get rid of her. Know that venus in taurus bond to their loves tho so this may take some time for her to get over you. You're getting her on the right track tho with 0 communication

Well, understand that she's hurt. She misses you. She thinks that if she posts all of those pictures and/or that if you continually see that she's longing to be with you, that it will somehow make you feel guilty enough to come back or atleast feel sorry for her.

What she doesn't understand is that her doing all of this is just further turning you off & pushing you away. If there even were any chances of you 2 getting back together, she needs to realize/understand that it probabaly WON'T be during a time when she's at her most desperate/bitter stage!

Just keep doing what you're doing. She needs to get you out of her system; she eventually will IF she doesn't have a choice but to. And she'll realize she won't have a choice but to move on IF you are consistent in NOT communicating with her. The minute you slip up or feed into her calls for attention, the chain will start all over again.

Just ignore her. Contacting her will NOT help, even though she's probably trying ot give out the impression that you doing so will help. Your intentions for contacting her again (feel sorry for her, want to set the record straight, go off on her for trying to expose you in such a bad light, etc.) may not be taken the same way in her mind. In HER mind, she's waiting on you to slip up, feed into her dramatics & contact her ONCE so that it'll give her atleast some assurance that you're not fully gone. Welp, if you want her to get the impression that it's really over, you have to show her better than you can tell her.

1. Change your phone number. Don't let this be a time when you sit at home getting a big ego boost from someone severely harping over you. If she's that annoying, do what you've gotta do & change your number. Block her from contacting you via email.

2. Tell her best friend (w/o being mean) that you'd appreciate it if he/she wouldn't come to you about your ex anymore. If there was to be a conversation to be had over OR about your ex, it should be had WITH your actual ex. Her best friend is literally that--her best friend. She's not going to see things from a logical standpoint or realize what's for the best b/c her main focus right now is to do whatever it takes to make her friend happy. And obviously, your ex has her best friend trying to fix all the problems and/or relay messages to you--it's not fair that she's using her best friend as a pawn. If anything, your ex oughta only get you back b/c YOU wanted her back & not b/c someone had to bribe you back into her life.

3. Block her on facebook. She wants you to see her fb posts & pictures. She wants you to miss her (the point of putting the pics up of you 2) but then again she wants you to feel bad/guilty (the reason she's contradicting herself by bashing you in statuses/posts). She wants you to feed into it. Welp, don't give her that satisfaction. If you keep feeding into it, EVENTUALLY she's gonna say something that's gonna make you want to respond; it's all a ploy for manipulation, I'm telling you! Don't fall for it! If you really want the best for her and/or to help her, let her go.

I can't stress enough to you how important it is for you NOT to respond. You may say something to her & it might mean 1 thing, BUT she might take it/hear it as something else. She'll hear what she WANTS to hear. When a woman is heartbroken & experiencing a break up, she's not "all there" mentally or emotionally. Right now, she's in that "Wishful thinking," stage, where the person dealing with the hurt will hold onto ANY last piece of hope if they can. And trust me, you contacting her will send the message to her that you're NOT all the way completely done. Welp, if you want her to get the impression that you are completely done, act like it.

PLEASE don't feed into her dramatics. It sucks & I'm sure you wish this was all over, BUT it will be in time. Just be consistent. Eventually, she'll quit, especially if she knows she's not getting to you or that her ploys for attention aren't working.

Posted by cloudyminded
We've been broken up for three weeks now... I don't communicate with her at all. She keeps trying to text me and call me, leaving me voicemails crying and wanting me back, her best friend has been trying to talk to me as well. Her facebook picture is a picture of us and my friends tell me her statuses have to do with heartbreak and calling me an asshole and what not.

Venus in Taurus, moon in Sagittarius, rising in cancer, mars in gemini afaik.

Drop off the face of the earth, block her so she can't see you. Eventually she'll do the same if she has any self worth.
The grieving process lasts only a while, if there's no true love involved.

3 weeks is not a long time. Don't be so heartless and allow her to go through the motions. If you aren't communicating with her then what is your problem? I hope you gave her closure! It might be what she needs.

Posted by sweethearts
3 weeks is not a long time. Don't be so heartless and allow her to go through the motions. If you aren't communicating with her then what is your problem? I hope you gave her closure! It might be what she needs.

I agree, I hope you gave her closure. I think it's selfish of people to not give the other person closure (it takes just one conversation) after a break-up. It goes back to the golden rule: treat others as you want to be treated.

Oh Wgamador, you aint that heartless! Who jilted you to give you a jaded outlook?

Cant fool us here you "Big fluffy cat." 😛

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Posted by sweethearts
3 weeks is not a long time. Don't be so heartless and allow her to go through the motions. If you aren't communicating with her then what is your problem? I hope you gave her closure! It might be what she needs.

I agree, I hope you gave her closure. I think it's selfish of people to not give the other person closure (it takes just one conversation) after a break-up. It goes back to the golden rule: treat others as you want to be treated.

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Someone else cannot give you closure...

Closure is simply a feeling that the loose ends are tied up after a relationship ends... yes, a feeling. It is different for everyone. Some need insane amounts of time or energy invested in them before they'd find the closure they seek.

Ultimately your feelings are your responsibility. The very idea of closure coming from the other person is counter productive to what closure is. Waiting for or wanting it from them is still giving them power over you that you need to take back. Once you take back control of yourself you'll find your own closure.

That said, don't be a dick to her. 🙂

Posted by sweethearts
Oh Wgamador, you aint that heartless! Who jilted you to give you a jaded outlook?

Cant fool us here you "Big fluffy cat." 😛

I thought the same thing when I read his comment. Wgamador must be having a bad day... hairball?

Well I look at closure as a dumpee as reasons for why the split happened. Given it isn't something that is going to accepted straight away but at least she won't be left wondering as she goes through the motions librasid.

And what's with the ugly smoking cat? Put the hot smoking bod back up!

I do understand how talking to an ex seeking closure can be good but in this case she doesn't even want closure, she wants him back. His best option is to stay away at least until that changes. Then if she wants to talk and clear the air, fine. The wandering around lost thing does suck but he can't help her. At least not yet.

Of course she wants him back she's just been dumped and so naturally she's going to come back fighting. However if he has given her reasons as to why she was dumped then she can work the rest out herself. It's still going to take time but eventually she'll realize herself to move on. He only needs to be man enough to have the one talk and then he can move on without further contact. It has to be done right in the beginning bcos 1. It'll never be done afterwards, he just won't bother and 2. If it is done much later, it allows the dumpee to believe that there is still a chance as they still have feelings for them!

Welcome back, sweet fluffy cat 🙂

Posted by sweethearts
Well I look at closure as a dumpee as reasons for why the split happened. Given it isn't something that is going to accepted straight away but at least she won't be left wondering as she goes through the motions librasid.

And what's with the ugly smoking cat? Put the hot smoking bod back up!

Once again, I agree w/sweethearts. I'm not necessarily talking about the feeling of closure, but rather the opportunity to have a civilized discussion about why ya'll are parting ways and how you wish the best for the other blah blah blah. I wouldn't use this discussion as an opportunity to rehash some old stuff but rather to say "I think you are great, but we are just not great together." Just remember the golden rule: treat others as you want to be treated and try to put yourself in the other person's shoes so you can understand their post-breakup actions, words etc.

Posted by LibraSid
I do understand how talking to an ex seeking closure can be good but in this case she doesn't even want closure, she wants him back. His best option is to stay away at least until that changes. Then if she wants to talk and clear the air, fine. The wandering around lost thing does suck but he can't help her. At least not yet.

Good point. If all she wants to talk about is getting back with you then the closure thing is pointless. She has to be in somewhat of a good mental state in order for the closure talk to be effective. Perhaps you could at least email her and just say 'hey, I know you are hurting etc. but I do not want for us to get back together and I think us not talking etc is in both of our best interest'

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Posted by sweethearts
Oh Wgamador, you aint that heartless! Who jilted you to give you a jaded outlook?

Cant fool us here you "Big fluffy cat." 😛

Ahhhhh phooey!!!
You got me. No matter how much i deny the shit, it always sits there like a stupid bump on a log.
Anyways, that Gemini's broken heart is now more valuable than ever. It's a shame that she probably thinks her heart is worthless now or has no value to him.
I can only hope he waited to dump her before being with another woman. See because thats what hurts, not the being dumped part....but the deception....when just being honest from that first morning when they felt 'differently' for us.

I will take...."Im in love with someone else." over "I dont love you like that anymore."
Little stuff like that makes a difference but the dumpee must care and thats impossible if the excitement of a new and better love is already in their heart.

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I also hope he didn't have another girl waiting in the wings because that's just wrong. Also, I think guys/girls who find a new guy/girl the day after they end a relationship is pretty cowardly. Allow yourself to feel the pain of a breakup, it will make you a better and stronger person.

I cant help but notice the woe is me look on the OP face but somehow it also feels like he aint doing it tough but instead lovin all the attention. After all he is finding out exactly what she is doing! **just saying**

No youre a big cuddly pussy (:

so, after the break up I did give her closure, at least by telling her that she wasn't the right one for me, and citing our problems and that I was just done with the relationship, and of course telling her she's great. A week or so after the break up I did see her to give her her gifts she gave me (lol) and she just asked me why I blocked her number, so I told her it's because I didn't want to talk to her. All she wants to do when she talks to me is try to get back together with me, cry, beg, etc, and want to hear that I still love her. I'm not down for that because I don't want to get back together with her, and I'm trying to block her out of my life. Clear enough?

Venus in Taurus definitely describes her love style and her persistence throughout all of this, you're right, happykitsune. To calisunlight, this line "At first, this will make him chase after you even more, but once he'll get the idea he will leave you alone," has just happened. She finally stopped blowing up my phone with voicemails and texts for a day. She just misses me and it will pass over time.

by the way, calisunlight, I'm a Pisces born on March 19th, so I have a few Aries traits. gemini moon, mars pisces, venus aries, mercury pisces, and aries ascendant.

sweethearts, I most definitely am not relishing in all this attention. I've blocked her number, facebook, all her texts, etc. The things I know about her I've found out through my friends, and her friend who contacted me. It's only pushing me further away. Especially after reading all these comments saying to ignore her.

The best part about all of this, I feel like I got my life back on track which makes me really excited, cuz I've got my whole future all mapped out. My ex is two years older than me, and doesn't really have a plan for the future. I'm sorry but there is no compromising, I know what I want and I'm going for it.

LibraSid's explanation is one to live by. "Closure is simply a feeling that the loose ends are tied up after a relationship ends... yes, a feeling. It is different for everyone. Some need insane amounts of time or energy invested in them before they'd find the closure they seek."

krysrenee7, you give some good advice.

Thank you all for your input so far 🙂

You seem to have all the answers and it would only be a matter of time before she realizes that you weren't coming back... So why the post in the first place? You have to understand that just because your feelings have turned off from this person, you can't expect the same. Deal with it, she thought you were special and you're worth the effort. So it's not meant to be but there is nothing you can do to speed up her recovery, that is completely out of your hands!

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Posted by sweethearts
No youre a big cuddly pussy (:

Ugh!

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She meant that in a good way... I think...

Yes I did. The only time lions look ferocious is when they are on the hunt!

And you are looking fine too LS. Much nicer than the smokin kitty, it didn't suit your persona.

Posted by sweethearts
You seem to have all the answers and it would only be a matter of time before she realizes that you weren't coming back... So why the post in the first place? You have to understand that just because your feelings have turned off from this person, you can't expect the same. Deal with it, she thought you were special and you're worth the effort. So it's not meant to be but there is nothing you can do to speed up her recovery, that is completely out of your hands!

To be honest I don't know, but I just wanted to make sure there wasn't anything else I could do.. Something I could do or say to cut it out but ignoring her was what everybody said. Lol

You haven't had your heart broken... Lucky you!

A broken heart must experience these feelings in order to heal:

Anger
Sadness
Fear
Sorrow

In no particular order and no time frame. Do what your doing if you have a clear conscience, great she'll work it out.

Rather kiss a toilet seat than what??

Whatever gets you off maaaate!

Posted by janettam
i would be flattered if someone was that enthusiastic about me. you should just say. thank you for liking me so much. and then ask her why she likes you. and then she will prob have to think of an answer. and you say... see you do not even know blah blah blah. and then you say... it's all in your head. this bubble of love you feel for me. i need a women not a girl. and then say how she deserves better and then give her a chocolate and send her off....


ahahah no but i would be flattered. its quite cute. devoted love on her side. feared of being stalked on your side.

hahahahaha

Damn! It's really fucking annoying when she tries to talk to me on facebook through her friends' accounts. It's just making me stressed out.

Delete her friends then but tell them the reason why first to give them the option to remain your friend by not allowing it. Things Are really quite simple don't choose to complicate.

Posted by sweethearts
Delete her friends then but tell them the reason why first to give them the option to remain your friend by not allowing it. Things Are really quite simple don't choose to complicate.

The thing is they'll start bringing up the break-up and calling me an asshole and start attacking me with questions about why I won't talk to her. And the truth (she'll just cry and beg) will create doubt within them and they'll question me further. Too complicated. I'll just ignore them on my friend's list..

Posted by geminiwizard
you should fake your death then kill her parents secretly. then come back to life and burn her house down. that usually works in romance

i'll consider it

Well what are her friends to you then. Delete them all!!

Oh ahaha don't you find it fuckin funny when someone comes up with quick fucked up solutions that they must have thought up while taking a crap—

Go play on the scorp board whatever your face is!

Posted by sweethearts
Well what are her friends to you then. Delete them all!!

Oh ahaha don't you find it fuckin funny when someone comes up with quick fucked up solutions that they must have thought up while taking a crap—

Go play on the scorp board whatever your face is!

Yeah I think I might lol.

oh the human mind can be very creative once you get past the thinking part. I never took psychology, I hope you know what I mean. haha

Actually I was speaking to geminiwizard. He annoyed the fuck out of me. And that's not an easy thing.

No I understood when you said what're her friends to me, delete em all.

Ok cool I thought you took offense to the 2nd part.

Honestly get rid of any negative energy. It'l only bring you down.

Good luck and god speed🙂

hello cloudy and nice to meet ya.
i got "crazy" like this over a guy once. and i can tell you why. it was the sex. it was the best i'd ever had and until this day, (13 yrs later) i'm still fond of the guy. he never ignored me or cut me off completely either tho. unlike you, i think he liked the stalkerish attention. lol.
of course, i eventually moved on but for months, i was, well, stalkerish. i feel sorry for you. lol.
keep ignoring her. it'll work. you can't console her. she'll twist anything you do right now into something else. it sounds cruel, but giving her any hope (whether you mean to or not) is more cruel.her friends will be there for her.
and, fyi, if the sex was incredible, it's gonna take a minute to get rid of her!

Posted by txtbukariesgirl
hello cloudy and nice to meet ya.
i got "crazy" like this over a guy once. and i can tell you why. it was the sex. it was the best i'd ever had and until this day, (13 yrs later) i'm still fond of the guy. he never ignored me or cut me off completely either tho. unlike you, i think he liked the stalkerish attention. lol.
of course, i eventually moved on but for months, i was, well, stalkerish. i feel sorry for you. lol.
keep ignoring her. it'll work. you can't console her. she'll twist anything you do right now into something else. it sounds cruel, but giving her any hope (whether you mean to or not) is more cruel.her friends will be there for her.
and, fyi, if the sex was incredible, it's gonna take a minute to get rid of her!

i would like it if i was trying to get back together with her lol. but the thing that i hate and realize is she only gives a shit about my happiness when she's going to lose me or has already lost me.
could you clarify what you mean on the last part? "if the sex was incredible, it's gonna take a minute to get rid of her!"

To be honest this is what you get for selling a "Bill of Goods". *shrugs*

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Posted by sweethearts
Actually I was speaking to geminiwizard. He annoyed the fuck out of me. And that's not an easy thing.

a horse is a horse of course of course...and you're no exception

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HaHaHaHaHaHa!!! Classic!

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Posted by cloudyminded
Damn! It's really fucking annoying when she tries to talk to me on facebook through her friends' accounts. It's just making me stressed out.

Block her on facebook... Then she can't see your posts and you can't see hers...It will be like she doesn't exist

Simple!

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Don't you think that he knows that? He didn't do it because he feeds off of the "Energy". That's what fish men do. 😉 Been around Pisces dudes too long to not pay attention to them. They use their "Power" of the knowledge of emotion to get into drawers and panties. Again, that's what they do. I wouldn't spend too much time on this subject. He has a Lion by the tail, and now he knows it. So, he's asking for help. I wouldn't. He should have 'thought' it through. Now, He has to deal with the 'reality'. Not only that.....it's just his side of the story. I would take what he says with a grain of salt. Pay attention.

~GM

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Posted by cloudyminded
Damn! It's really fucking annoying when she tries to talk to me on facebook through her friends' accounts. It's just making me stressed out.

Block her on facebook... Then she can't see your posts and you can't see hers...It will be like she doesn't exist

Simple!

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yeah i did that lol. that's why she's been contacting me on her friends' facebooks.

oh I should also add that after a month, she's finally backed off. Not a voicemail or text sent in two days. So, this was a successful break-up.

Now pls be honest and tell us how you feel about that now and in a weeks time when she still hasnt contacted you...if anything?

Interested in knowing as we've all been in her shoes...

Poor Gem girl.... I know too well how that cray cray juice gets into the cup and next thing you know you're regretting everything you did for a month straight.

Some of the best advice I ever received was regarding being classy in a break up because you'll be able to reflect on the relationship in an entirely different way. It's just awful when a relationship ends, but it's even worse when you look back on that relationship and all you can remember is yourself crying and begging. Awful, just awful.

GemRA you speaking the truth!! LOL.. I think all Gems have been there at one point or another. We DO NOT handle rejection well... AT ALL!

aww you guys make me feel bad. yes i do miss her but i know i won't be able to handle everything coming from her and just want to disappear again. this pisces' secret regarding disappearing is out!

Posted by aquagirl24
ahhhh tell them they hurt u + theres no going bk, u dont trust dem anymore. thats wat i did with my e 3 gem bfs lol.

3— HaHaHa!! Why not try for 7? It's not the person, it's the energy sis. It just changes from one person to another is all. Which is why there are "3". You'll get it right, we are in your 'age' now. 😉

I did, actually.. plenty of times. she never changed her ways though = me unhappy = me breaking up with her. she knows it all.

Better luck next time...you've probably been through one of each star by now

Pretty hot for a 58 year old!!! Oh & stay away from the Librans, we dont have the patience for you fishes