I want my Virgo man back ...helppp!!

So I was doing an internship at the hospital and I meet a doctor ...he is 26 years old . One day I was asking him in Facebook for a date because I really like him ...so he said yes , and we were having a date , it was so funny and we were having a beautiful time together. After one day I asked him for a relationship and he said yes we should start a relationship so I was happy that he said yes...after many dates in a week we had sex...after that we were everyday together and he sends me so beautiful messages and I was doing that too ...he was saying that I'm perfect for him and he wants to do a lot of things with me and that he don't want to go he wants to stay here , it was so beautiful , after 3 weeks he was a little cold with me and one day he stopped texting me or call me ...I was so desperate and I was texting him every hour but still no answer ...after 24 hours he wrote me :" Hi Manuela, the reason why I am away is that I wanted sometime for myself to think abt us. We had a wonderful 3 weeks that no one can imagine and our relationship has so fast developed, so I needed time to look at it from outside. U r a very nice person and a beautiful lady bt the promises I did I cant maintain and keep them, I knw that I did many promises bt that was because our relationship was going in a fast tempo, bt I cant longer keep them, and it is better whn I say it to u nw as saying later in months or years. I have tried and hoped that the time will change our chemistry together bt it did not. We dont actually blend together. And for us being longer together wont bring anything new. I am so sorry coz I did hurt u, bt believe me it was never my intention, the problem is me not u, I am the one to be blamed, and am doing this now for the best of us both. U deserve always wht is best for u. Am wishing u everything good in ur life Manuela" and I was crying and crying and I'm still crying because that happens 3 days ago ...and yesterday I was at his house and I wrote a letter for him " If you didn't I will write here...I just want to say that I was coming there just for this letter...to give you that ...
"So yeah , here I am at 03:43 in the night writing you a letter because I really?! I miss you and I need you in my life and I hope you will understand how important you are (for me ) so ...let's start..
Since I meet you , my life changed a lot in a good way...I toth you are my soul mate ...
I'm crying now and I can get you out of my mind...I have this pictures in my head

I have this pictures in my head , how you were lying on my chest , how you looked at my anytime you were in my arms , how you kissed me before I go home ...your last kiss , how you were waiting for me and how happy we were ..., and how sweet and beautiful you are when you eat chocolate ...I remember all of this things , all of them , every word you said , every hug you gave it to me , every kiss, every look ( that beautiful look with that beautiful eyes) I was happy , you were happy ...I remember when we were watching this movie and there were 2 eschimo and they were doing this thing with nose and we were doing that too ...I need this thing every time I go to bed and every morning I wake up
Im thinking about us every minute of every single day ...every moment we spend together ...I can't live without you I mean it and please understand that I need you every moment o my life , I need your arms to hug me in the night , I need your lips to close my big mouth when I'm mad , I need your eyes to look into mine and see the love ! I need you with every celule of your body ...I can't sleep without your breathing and I can't breath each time you're leaving ...oh fuck it ! I miss you okay ? I miss being happy with you ..I don't want anyone else i mean it ! I screwed everything up , but I wish more than anything in this world is for you to just take me back ...
I would take you back in an instant , even though I tell people I wouldn't . I pretend I'm fine with everything and that in doing great but it's not as great as when I was with you . I don't like to listen to music that reminds me of you , it hurts a lot ! I'm still waiting for my phone to chime or my Facebook chat to ping ...you'll say hi and everything will be ok ! I stay up late thinking about how we used to be ...I miss you with every breath, with every heartbeat !
I want to wake up in the morning and hear your heartbeats , feel your touches and give you all the love in the world ...
I read old text messages , remember the good days , I star to cry and I ask myself " what happend with you , with me , with us " . I give the blame to myself , I want to kill myself , life without you doesn't make sense . I want you to be my man
I did it wrong with big steps , and was too fast because I was afraid that I'm losing you ..please I want a second chance ..can you give it ? I promise I wi do sma steps and take care were I'm going , I promise I won't rush the things...and I will wait , no matter how much ! I

and I will wait , no matter how much ! I think I slowly love you ...with my every step !
Please just give me another chance and let's start from the beginning , let's make one soul, let's be each other thing ...I miss you , I need another shot ...I really need you let's try again ...love........you.......just you and me ! I can't stop crying " ...I just let the letter at his door ...I know he read that but still without and answer...and I want him back I really want him and I'm afraid he will forget me when I'm not texting ...I ask myself if he thinks at me , at us ...I ask myself if he's missing me or if he will write me ...I'm afraid that when I'm not texting to him anymore he will forget me ...I really want him...I don't know what to do ...

TLDR

Layna...i want him back do you habe some advices or not ?

typical virgo man. spends time with you, shows you signs of affection, gives you compliments and sometimes takes it to the physical level. they will tell you what you want to hear to keep you with them.

when you respond with your feelings, it hits them like a brick. they no longer want what you have to offer. so they run and cut you off. they play mind games like no other. they are masters of the "bait and switch" methods. it's all about control.

then to let you down softer, they tell you it's "them" not "you." this is all about you buying into their facade.

look back. you got a guy who you believed you were connecting with. we all go through this. however, when you took it to the physical level, he got what he wanted; sex. and now, you're an afterthought.

this is why with any man, you don't give it away UNTIL you are an honest, tested and legit relationship. because in the end, it's ALWAYS the woman who gets burned.

Men can drop you like a hat and move on. It's how they're wired. Women OTOH, are wired to experience deep feelings of love and commitment after having sex. Research Oxytocin.

What should I do ? Ignore him ? I've heard that when you ignore a virgo man he comes back ...I don't know what to believe ...I just asked myself if he thinks about me too or if he miss me in his life ...my messages , my kisses , everything ...he needs time for himself or ? I don't know what to do ...I really want him back ...

Posted by IoanaManuela16
What should I do ? Ignore him ? I've heard that when you ignore a virgo man he comes back ...I don't know what to believe ...I just asked myself if he thinks about me too or if he miss me in his life ...my messages , my kisses , everything ...he needs time for himself or ? I don't know what to do ...I really want him back ...

you live your life and stop thinking of ways to try to manipulate the situation because it makes you look desperate and needy. if a man wants you he'll find you.

Can I ask what the significance of the 16 is in your username? Is that your age?

My birthday ! I'm not 16 🙂

I'm 19

You have to believe what he says.. In 3 weeks he got swept up in things.. This always happens in the first few weeks of getting together and tbh it's just not sustainable. When he says it's not working the cue here is to gain some self respect and back off.

Pleading undying love just makes you look like a potential psycho - I don't mean to sound rude, but I've been there; lots of women have. You cannot change a guys mind by pleading coz it comes over as desperate.

Regardless of signs, he is a man who has evaluated after 3 weeks that a long term thing with you just isn't going to happen. You should respect his honesty as most men just disappear - at least he was clear and articulate with his reasons and he genuinely doesn't want to hurt you but his words are clear.

My advice to you is to spend one week crying, watching romantic movies, getting supported by your girl friends, getting it out of your system and mourning the loss of a potential relationship. Then after that week, dry your eyes, pull yourself together and move on with your head held high.

You have done nothing wrong and neither has he. It just didn't work out, it won't be the last time it happens either. He knows how you feel. You have told him so there's nothing else to do or say. You cannot make someone want/do something.

Get some distance then you will get some perspective. Stay strong, keep busy, DO NOT contact him anymore and you will get over this a lot quicker.

Oh my...your 19. He used you. Period. Then you showed you were a bit crazy when you texted him for hours on end being clingy.


Move on he isn't coming back and if he does it is for sex. Your worth more. Learn from this and move on.

BTW 3 weeks is not long enough to be in love...1 day wasn't sufficient enough time to ask for a relationship. He knew this...he knew to use you. He doesn't think your a nice person he sees you as weak and silly. Stop begging anyone for a relationship. It does not look good on any woman.

Posted by IoanaManuela16
I was texting him every hour

*virgo nightmares*

Posted by IoanaManuela16
I was crying and crying and I'm still crying

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*virgo nightmares part 2*

And on top of that, you write him a letter? y do you hate us virgos? y u must scare us?

Seriously now..

1)He only wanted the sex
2)Don't date Virgos again.

*shudders*

Haha the age explains the entire situation.

No wonder she thought he was her soulmate. No wonder he did what he did.

Nineteen and 26 says a lot...

He gave you what you wanted. Virgos are the service man. He gave you what you were looking for then completed his task.

If he is acting like Mr. Perfect sweetheart it's an act. He is nothing like what you spent the 3 weeks with. If you expected a fairy tale think again.
I'm just glad he didn't let it drag on for months and years!

I hope you learned your lesson. Slow down can't Rush something you want to last forever.

Posted by IoanaManuela16
What should I do ? Ignore him ? I've heard that when you ignore a virgo man he comes back ...I don't know what to believe ...I just asked myself if he thinks about me too or if he miss me in his life ...my messages , my kisses , everything ...he needs time for himself or ? I don't know what to do ...I really want him back ...

1. NEVER become clingy and pursue the man. That is HIS job. And he's wired to do that. Women are not.

2. GET BUSY in YOUR LIFE. If you work, work more hours. If you have hobbies, get more involved. If you have family members you haven't spent time with, start spending more time with them.

3. If you are still "feeling it" and can't get over him by doing #2, work through it on your own. I've had to do this with a virgo. Write down how he made you feel good. Then write down how he made you feel bad. Do this enough times until you can see that he isn't worth your time. Real men don't make women feel used. They make women feel cherished and adored.

Then rip up the copious notes you wrote and burn them or flush them down the toilet. This will represent YOU taking control and OWNERSHIP of YOUR FEELINGS, not HIM. YOU gave him WAY too much power. TAKE IT BACK.

4. YES, you should ignore him. Because IF he comes back, it's not for love. It's for sex. Yes, SOMETIMES a man will return after analyzing his feelings.
Virgo's are notorious for this. However, you gave him what he wanted (sex) BEFORE you had a true relationship. Once again, women develop deep feelings after sex because of Oxytocin. Men DO NOT.

5. Do you NOT deserve a man who will love you HONESTLY and not play games? You are 19. That is very young. You have time to learn about relationships. They are not as cut and dry as we are taught.

Youtube some info videos about relationships by Dr. John Gray. His "the Rubberband Effect" explains a lot about why men run after getting intimate.
The difference is that the man you were with didn't want a real, long lasting relationship with you. Once you understand that, you'll be able to move on.
One thing I've learned over the years with people is this. Because you "feel" deep feelings and get attached to someone, that doesn't mean they feel the same for you no matter what they may tell you. NEVER give your heart to a man who hasn't EARNED it.

Posted by Octoberbaby91
He gave you what you wanted. Virgos are the service man. He gave you what you were looking for then completed his task.

If he is acting like Mr. Perfect sweetheart it's an act. He is nothing like what you spent the 3 weeks with. If you expected a fairy tale think again.
I'm just glad he didn't let it drag on for months and years!

I hope you learned your lesson. Slow down can't Rush something you want to last forever.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

SO TRUE. Virgo men are actors. And when you finally notice a flaw in their act and point it out to them, they panic and run.

Everyone puts on a front to some extent in a new relationship. It's about not letting your guard down. However, Virgo men take it to another level.
They are the living version of a walking, talking enigma. It's as if reality to them is like playing a life long game of chess. And they calculate each move based upon how you act toward them, what you say or not say. When most of us live within the moment, they are planning 10 steps into the future.
And everything has to be perfected along the way to meet their expectations.

I'd rather be single than live my life with a spouse who acts like this and is afraid of his own shadow.

Gemini64 yes you are correct.
I have been friends with a virgo man for almost 2 years. He tried to charm and act like mr.perfect I slowed him down and made him show me his shadow. I'm a scorp and I don't play that act bullcrap. I test you to see the real you then make a decision if I want you or not. Now that I know the real him he is careful on his actions! I told him actions speak louder than words baby I don't fall for that perfect shit. We are still friends and after our highs and lows I know he is aware that he must show me the real him everytime he is in my presence. And I do call him out on his "mind games" no choice but to respect he met his match

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Posted by IoanaManuela16
I was texting him every hour

*virgo nightmares*

Posted by IoanaManuela16
I was crying and crying and I'm still crying

*virgo nightmares part 2*

And on top of that, you write him a letter? y do you hate us virgos? y u must scare us?

Seriously now..

1)He only wanted the sex
2)Don't date Virgos again.

*shudders*

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LOL at virgo nightmares part une and deux

^It's scary dude 😭

wtf ... you've got to be kidding


Are you seriously this much of an emotionally insecure twat that you'd pour your heart out to a man who has made it perfectly clear that he isn't interested in taking a next step with you?


like ... really? what ....


Dude, get a fucking gripe and grow some pride, ffs

this must be a joke .... nobody is this fucking stupid

Posted by AriesGirl74
You have to believe what he says.. In 3 weeks he got swept up in things.. This always happens in the first few weeks of getting together and tbh it's just not sustainable. When he says it's not working the cue here is to gain some self respect and back off.

Pleading undying love just makes you look like a potential psycho - I don't mean to sound rude, but I've been there; lots of women have. You cannot change a guys mind by pleading coz it comes over as desperate.

Regardless of signs, he is a man who has evaluated after 3 weeks that a long term thing with you just isn't going to happen. You should respect his honesty as most men just disappear - at least he was clear and articulate with his reasons and he genuinely doesn't want to hurt you but his words are clear.

My advice to you is to spend one week crying, watching romantic movies, getting supported by your girl friends, getting it out of your system and mourning the loss of a potential relationship. Then after that week, dry your eyes, pull yourself together and move on with your head held high.

You have done nothing wrong and neither has he. It just didn't work out, it won't be the last time it happens either. He knows how you feel. You have told him so there's nothing else to do or say. You cannot make someone want/do something.

Get some distance then you will get some perspective. Stay strong, keep busy, DO NOT contact him anymore and you will get over this a lot quicker.

Great advice. Follow it Manuela.

Posted by P-Angel

this must be a joke .... nobody is this fucking stupid

She's just a baby. An innocent.

Was the doctor a resident or intern? Or is he a full fledged active staff physician?

I work in hospitals too and the reason I ask is because residents and interns are in an out. They're only there a short while, away from home and family and friends, have very little free time and yes, they will play and look for a short term fling. They are there temporarily fulfilling their education requirements and will soon move on to other pastures. Granted not all of them are players, but the ones that are, are notorious. Can't blame them, but beware of them.

At least he was honest. Kuddos for that.

A 19 year old greenhorn isn't going to know this. I'm surprised one of the older women employeed there didn't warn you. Chalk it up for a hard life lesson learned.


And of course, this may not be the case.

Posted by IoanaManuela16
What should I do ? Ignore him ? I've heard that when you ignore a virgo man he comes back ...I don't know what to believe ...I just asked myself if he thinks about me too or if he miss me in his life ...my messages , my kisses , everything ...he needs time for himself or ? I don't know what to do ...I really want him back ...

Gosh 19. So young. And this is a young and not so young person's mistake. You gotta take things slow in the beginning because this is what happens when you don't take time, 3 months at least, to get to know the person you're interested in before you get intimate. Many men if not most will sleep with a woman if she makes it clear that's what she wants. And really don't ask the guy out. Of course they will be flattered and they might say yes and see you for awhile. But then it fizzles. Men need to chase. All you need to do with them is flirt. If they're not taking that bait it means either they've got someone in their lives already or they just aren't that into you. Live and learn but yeah I think it's time to cut bait and swim with this one.