Involvement with opposing sun signs

I haven't posted much on here, but I figured I'd give it a try again.??

I've been 'involved' with a Capricorn man for the past ten months. We met and hit it off instantly. Never have I met someone who has been able to stimulate my mind, help me grow as a person and provide such intimacy. The only catch was that he wasn't looking for any commitment. I'll admit that??I did fall for him, but quickly regained my senses and realized that if we were to remain friends I would have to be realistic. As we got to know each other more I also realized we have very different expectations and a relationship wouldn't be ideal between us anyway. Despite this we've been communicating the entire time we've known each other almost every ??other day for at least 5-7 hours at a time (usually while online at work). In addition we've hung out with each other at least 3-4 times each month.??

Over the past 2-3 months, we have become very close. I've opened up about things I've never shared with many people before and he did the same. We opened up about our fears, weaknesses and encouraged each other. We share similar views on religion and life style - not something I've found in many people (including almost all of my family) and I really truly cared about him as a friend and a person.

The ??downside of this is that we also have very stubborn and intense ways of disagreeing as well. Numerous arguments - many of them stemming from miscommunications, his insecurities, and differences in opinion. He's told me im insensitive and my choice of words are hurtful. This has always taken me by surprise because I've never intended to hurt him. ??He has 'reminded' me that we're not together (always out of the blue) and compared me at times to his ex gf. In addition we almost seem to share strengths and weaknesses and in turn use them against each other which hurts us both.??

After another discussion this week over his assumptions of me not trusting him completely, I've realized that dealing with this over and over seems unfair. I feel constantly criticized and blamed for things that shouldn't be an issue considering we are just friends. I told him that I wanted some space and he called me "rude and petty".??

I'll admit that I am hurt - mostly because we've shared so much and I really care about him alot. I know he has issues to sort out, as do I, but it appears like there's more acceptance on my part and he's not willing to meet me halfway.

My questions are:??
1. Is this typ

My questions are:??
1. Is this type of interaction typical of opposing sun signs? He's the first cap I've ever been this involved with.

2. Due to our placements, is it possible that he is valid on calling me out on insensitivity or is he just too sensitive?

3. Is this a friendship worth salvaging? At this point I feel I should make a decision.

Me: sun- cancer , moon- cap, merc-Leo, Venus- cancer, mars- scorpio, rising-libra.

Him: sun-cap, moon-pisces, merc-cap, Venus- sagittarius, mars-libra, rising-scorpio.

Well your cap moon makes you less sensitive and his pisces moon makes him EXTREMELY sensitive.
Combine that with a Libra mars and nothing is EVER his fault.

@Rosethetaurus: that's interesting, Ive never heard much about libra mars nor have I meant anyone with it. Seems frustrating

Posted by racante62

... we've been communicating the entire time we've known each other almost every ??other day for at least 5-7 hours at a time (usually while online at work).

::: raises eyebrows :::


5-7 hours at work?

So, I guess that means you are only worth a minimal fraction of your paycheck .. with an economy like this, you better hope your little chats on company time is worth it, because finding another job isn't easy, and you wouldn't be able to rely on a reference.

Not much work ethics, eh?

Posted by racante62

Numerous arguments - many of them stemming from miscommunications, his insecurities, and differences in opinion.

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miscommunication? So, all these hours you spend on company time talking to him, and your communication with him is so flawed that you argue with him due to you having a different opinion?

wtf?

And I notice in your description that you don't mention that you have any issues .. only him. You say he has insecurities, and saying nothing about what you have. No wonder he says you are insensitive.

hey, if he's the Cappy in this opposing sun scenario, then that means you are the Cancer accusing someone else of being insecure?


rflmao