Is it possible?

Hi.

Really quick one, well i will try. I was friends with a girl called Shelly for a few months, we had a very strange friendship, we used to be mean to each other, just playing about but then on nights out we would always be the ones hanging out and dancing etc. Nothing ever happened because we were with people and we never saw anythign more then friendship, but then we both broke up with our girlfrends and we were kinda there for each other, in this we became very close, we ended up sleeping together one night. I then ended up getting back with my ex Jessica, Shelly and I told no one what happened between us, we couldnt. But then friday night came and we were all at mine drinking Shelly Me Jessica and a few other friends, it was my last friday night in the UK as i am going traveling etc. Anyway we were out and I was with Jessica all night, Shelly and I ended up kissing in the toilets but she was wasted and she cant remember.
Thats the begining.
I left for Australia on valentines day Jessica came with me to the airport etc and all was good i thought we were getting back and we were fine. I found out when i was away that Jessica cheated on me a few times when we were together so i broke up with her, it was Shelly that told me and i know she didnt do it for any reason other then she was being a loyal friend and i trusted her ALOT.
Shelly and i have spoken pretty much everyday since i have been away and that has been 6 weeks now, via text, msn, fb & over the phone.
We have grown very attachted to each other and i we both feel as if we are falling for one and other, she told me today that she loves me, i assumhed she was drunnk so i was like ha ha i love you too, she replied. No i love you. I said Shelly you're drunk. She replied I'm not drunk Ami.
Now Shelly is one of the most honest people i know and i know she wouldnt mess about i dont know if she is confused about what she feels. But we're falling for each other - Is it possible to fall for someone who is so far away?
We have discussed me going back to the UK for like 18 days to be with her and in that time we will try figure out if what we have is real or not.
I have never been friends with someone first and had this much respect for someone who i have started to get serious with, we have both agreed its a new feeling, we have also said it could just be sex, but we both want it to be more then sex, i asked Shelly what she wanted it to be and she said she wants it to be everything 🙂

Pardon?

I have never been friends with someone first and had this much respect for someone who i have started to get serious with, we have both agreed its a new feeling, we have also said it could just be sex, but we both want it to be more then sex, i asked Shelly what she wanted it to be and she said she wants it to be everything

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I think you are very confused ...... you say you have a first-time respect for this person, then say it may just be sex.

We both want it to be more, we only had one night of sex and we want more its just our situation is against us, i am in Oz and she is in UK, i have come traveling and so we dont know what it could be.
So i have decided to fly back to the UK to see her, she has taken 3 weeks off work and if it is more then sex, we will see then.

I think sex changes everything. When women have sex they bond faster than men and tend to become more emotional and attached which is completely different from men who can have sex without any emotions attached. It is a great idea to fly back to UK and spend some time with her getting to know her without sex part to see whether the relationship can last since it is a long distance. From personal experience if the relationship is based on something more than just sex it will last longer and will be more true. One of the reasons why people cheat is because they do not put too much emphasis on getting to know each other and create a strong bond of mutual respect, understanding, intimacy and maturity.

Good luck to you. I hope everything works out. I have heard that the best relationships arise out of strong friendships.

Taurus123 what you said "I have heard that the best relationships arise out of strong friendships." that gave me goosebumps 🙂

I have 33 days left of Oz then i fly to her. Thing is i read alot about Virgo & Gemini not being the best match etc, dont know if because i have a Leo rising it makes a difference.

Because we were friends before this is new for the both of us, we had a good bond as friends and a mutual understanding and trust as friends, and since then it has blossomed into more, neither of us expected it or planned it.

She told me earlier in an email that "I respect you completely and crazy i know, but i trust you with my life.

I was thinking earlier, i would love to do crazy things with you, like skydiving or something, like i trust you enough to do that shit with you and i think we would be awesome together doing shit like that, we are both adrenaline junkies lol "

Which is so weird cos i was planning to suprise her and go sky diving when i went back to the UK, never before had we discussed it and she said that in an email.

I think this could be amazing i really do, if we get chance to be together then i cant wait for what is to come with her.