Just Virgo personality or lack of respect?

Well the Virgo I'm dating has been showing "possible" signs of having a small lack of respect for me. For the most part he does care for me... I just need advice on whether or not what he has done is typical Virgo behavior or if something else is going on.

To begin, we made plans for a date Thursday but in my hometown. He said it was fine. The day comes, I'm busy all morning and into the early afternoon and as soon as I get home he wants to change the plans and rush me so we can go to another town for our date. I try to tell him no, try to say that I need to stay in town because I wasn't ready and plus I had other work to do and I couldn't be out late. Well he keeps persisting and almost caves in but I think my push over traits (I'm a Cancer) came up and we go off to the other town for our date. I don't get home till 1 in the morning, too tired to do any work I had planned to do that night.

He sort of whines when I say no or tries to make up reasons on why we should until eventually I cave in. Does he not respect my choice or am I still being the push over?

To me, this Virgo is a baby, at least he can act like it sometimes. He tries to make reasons why I should come over, do something different, or try something new. I don't always agree with it and I don't know if it is more my fault or him or what.

So another question, am I too much of a push over? I try to make people happy and constantly agree to things without actually taking the time to think about it because I don't want to disappoint them and I hate making quick decisions like that and I just try to agree just to get it over with. I hate saying no, it makes me feel like a jerk. What should I do?

I suggested the date Thursday and he said that it was fine, just at the last second we go to the other town. I know my hometown doesn't have a lot in it, its really small but changing things up like that really annoyed me.

And who is the hypocrite?

I've already decided that I'm going to start with not being so much of a push over. I really hate all this responsibility I have just by not saying no and having him dictate where we go and what we see (movie wise).

Posted by Scruffles
I went on a date with a Virgo once and he did the exact same thing to me (I'm also a Cancer btw).

He suggested everything in the first place and I agreed to it only to change everything at the last minute and mess up my whole day. Plus he wound being an an hour and a half late so I was beyond annoyed. 😐

idk if it's a typical Virgo thing but that kind of behavior shows you a person's character. I think it's selfish and disrespectful. At the beginning of a relationship he should try to impress you, not piss you off. Needless to say, it was my first and last date with him.

That would annoy me too but this Virgo is very on time and I'm usually the late one (try not to be bit oh well). I can't speak for all virgos but definitely if this is a common zodiac sign then I need to adjusts myself. Hopefully you've had better luck since then after your date with him.

I already know I try to go with the flow but no mo! Next time we do a date I'm going to make sure everything is fine for me before giving in.

This Virgo guy "friend" of mine is so into me that he just makes decisions by himself and don't hear my say in anything. Of course as I'm a bull, I get mad at him for it. He's too pushy it's annoying. Though sometimes I do notice that I agree to some of his weird whims. Like how do they do that? Talk you into tying your hair like that girl on the Orphan because you're wearing black LIKE HOW manipulative I guess?
He's also the type to arrange everything and be really strict with the meeting time and then be late. Like wtf is wrong with this guy.
The thing I do so he won't push me around is state my reasons clearly and firmly. Like no means no. The thing is I noticed that he's still developing his social nature. I'm interested in seeing how he develops though even though he's really annoying now maybe if he matures a bit?

Posted by cancer_wyrm
Well the Virgo I'm dating has been showing "possible" signs of having a small lack of respect for me. For the most part he does care for me... I just need advice on whether or not what he has done is typical Virgo behavior or if something else is going on.

Ummm, if you feel disrespected does it matter if it's a Virgo thing? It sounds like you're making excuses for the sake of a relationship. In other words, you don't honour your own feelings. But let's carry on with the rest of your post...

Posted by cancer_wyrm
Well the Virgo I'm dating has been showing "possible" signs of having a small lack of respect for me. For the most part he does care for me... I just need advice on whether or not what he has done is typical Virgo behavior or if something else is going on.

To begin, we made plans for a date Thursday but in my hometown. He said it was fine. The day comes, I'm busy all morning and into the early afternoon and as soon as I get home he wants to change the plans and rush me so we can go to another town for our date. I try to tell him no, try to say that I need to stay in town because I wasn't ready and plus I had other work to do and I couldn't be out late. Well he keeps persisting and almost caves in but I think my push over traits (I'm a Cancer) came up and we go off to the other town for our date. I don't get home till 1 in the morning, too tired to do any work I had planned to do that night.

He sort of whines when I say no or tries to make up reasons on why we should until eventually I cave in. Does he not respect my choice or am I still being the push over?

You don't respect your choice, so I'd start there. You can dress it up as being a "push over", but you don't hold true to your word. Period. You can't be too upset when others don't either. Other people follow your lead. Many will try to push your limits of course, but you're the director of what works and doesn't work for you.

Posted by cancer_wyrm
So another question, am I too much of a push over? I try to make people happy and constantly agree to things without actually taking the time to think about it because I don't want to disappoint them and I hate making quick decisions like that and I just try to agree just to get it over with. I hate saying no, it makes me feel like a jerk. What should I do?

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You sound more like a people pleaser that pleases others at your own detriment and then you become resentful. You need to take responsibility for that. Perhaps begin with my first point above about honouring your feelings.